Zamkati
- 1. Kodi ndichikumbukiro chanji chabwino kwambiri komanso choyipa kwambiri chaubwana wanu?
- 2. Chepetsani zofunika zanu zitatu zofunika kwambiri, ndipo ndingakwaniritse bwanji?
- 3. Mwa okondedwa anu onse, mukuganiza kuti ndi ndani ali ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri?
- 4. Ndi gawo liti lomwe mumapeza kuti ndilabwino kwambiri pamgwirizano wathu?
- 5. Ndi zizolowezi ziti zomwe simumakonda, zomwe ndiyenera kusiya?
- 6. Malingaliro aliwonse omwe amakulepheretsani kugona usiku omwe mwandibisira?
- 7. Kodi pali maloto anu omwe sanakwaniritsidwe?
- 8. Chifukwa chiyani mumandikonda?
- 9. Ndi chiyani chomwe mungaganize kuti sichingakhale chowiringula, ndipo chifukwa chiyani?
- 10. Kodi tingatani kuti tisinthe maubwenzi ndi kugonana mmoyo wathu?
Anthu ongokwatirana kumene, atangobadwa kumene pa chibwenzi chawo, musaganize kuti banja lawo likutha. Adakali ndi nyenyezi zakukondana komwe kumakonda kutumizirana mameseji usiku komwe kumawakhudza kudziko lawo lokonda.
Koma zaka zimadutsa mwachangu ndikulankhula kwaphokoso, mafunso okondana kwa maanja kapena zokometsera zosandulika zimasanduka ntchito zatsiku ndi tsiku zosasangalatsa, palibe amene amaziwona zikubwera.
Koma nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti zonsezi zitha kupewedwa. Mabanja atha kukhala olumikizana komanso osangalala pamoyo wawo wonse. Njira imodzi yosavuta yopezera banja losangalala ndiyo kukhala omasuka kwa wokondedwa wanu.
Pezani nthawi yovomerezeka ya wokondedwa wanu ndikufunsana mafunso othandiza okhudzana ndi maubwenzi apabanja.
Muziganizira mozama ndi kuyankha mayankho anu, mudzadabwa kuti zidzakhala zosavuta bwanji kuti banja lanu likhale lachinyamata komanso losangalala kwamuyaya.
Nawu mndandanda wa mafunso 10 abwino kwambiri kwa maanja omwe angasinthe dziko lanu kukhala labwino. Muthanso kugwiritsa ntchito mafunso omanga maubwenzi awa ngati gawo lamasewera amafunso apabanja kuti njirayi ikhale yosangalatsa.
1. Kodi ndichikumbukiro chanji chabwino kwambiri komanso choyipa kwambiri chaubwana wanu?
Zochitika zaubwana zimakupangitsani kukhala munthu yemwe muli. Kaya zochitikazo zakhala zosangalatsa kapena zopweteka komanso zachiwawa, kukambirana za izi ndi wokondedwa wanu kumathandiza kumvetsetsa umunthu wawo, zikhulupiriro zawo, ndi kufooka kwawo.
Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso ofunikira omwe mungafunse mnzanu wina kuti mumvetse bwino nthawi yomwe mukuganiza kuti ali okhumudwa kapena okwiya, ndipo ngakhale ali osangalaladi.
2. Chepetsani zofunika zanu zitatu zofunika kwambiri, ndipo ndingakwaniritse bwanji?
Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso ofunikira kufunsa mnzanu monga kukhutiritsa zosowa za mnzanu ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino, wathanzi.
Kambiranani za zosowa za wina ndi mnzake ndi momwe mungakwaniritsire. Izi zikhazikitsa mgwirizano wolimba pakati panu, wolukana ndi kudalirana ndi chikondi.
3. Mwa okondedwa anu onse, mukuganiza kuti ndi ndani ali ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri?
Nthawi zina wina sangathe kufotokoza momwe akumvera mumtima mwa mnzake. Onetsetsani ndikuzindikira m'gulu lanu la abale komanso anzanu kapena maanja ena osangalala mozungulira, zomwe mukufuna kapena mukufuna muubwenzi wanu kenako muzifotokozera kwa mnzanu.
Muyenera kuganizira mafunso awa okhudzana ndi maubwenzi ngati mukufuna kuti ubale wanu ukhale bwino ndikukhala ndi nthawi yokwanira.
4. Ndi gawo liti lomwe mumapeza kuti ndilabwino kwambiri pamgwirizano wathu?
Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso ofunikira kufunsa muubwenzi womwe simuyenera kuphonya kufunsa mnzanu mulimonsemo.
Kupititsa nthawi ndi zaka zakubadwa zimabweretsa zokumana nazo zambiri momwe mungapezere - maphunziro owawa, zokumbukira zina zosangalatsa.
Izi zisintha mayankho pamafunso angapo kwa mabanja omwe ali ndi nthawi. Kotero, dziwani zamasiku osintha, kotero simutaya ubale wanu komanso kucheza kwanu.
5. Ndi zizolowezi ziti zomwe simumakonda, zomwe ndiyenera kusiya?
Limbikitsani mnzanu kuti akhale omasuka pazochita zanu zokhumudwitsa.
Amuna ndi akazi ambiri amanyalanyaza zomwe anzawo amachita chifukwa chongopeka mikangano ndi kukhazikika pamtendere.
Koma m'kupita kwanthawi, malingaliro onse okhathamirawa amatha kupsa mtima ngati mkwiyo ndi kuipidwa, kuwononga zaka zaubwenzi. Chifukwa chake, khalani owona.
Limbikitsani wokondedwa wanu kuti azichita moona mtima za zizolowezi zanu "zoyipa". Izi zithetsa kusasamala konse komwe kungakule m'moyo wanu wachimwemwe. Chitani bwino limodzi kuthana ndi mavuto omwe amakhumudwitsa mgwirizano wamoyo wanu wachimwemwe.
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6. Malingaliro aliwonse omwe amakulepheretsani kugona usiku omwe mwandibisira?
Okwatirana ambiri osamala safuna kulemetsa okondedwa awo ndi mavuto awo komanso kupsinjika. Amasunga chinsinsi chawo chodetsa nkhawa chobisika m'mitima mwawo, kuwonetsa kupanda nkhawa, chisangalalo kwa anzawo.
Pamapeto pake, zovuta ndi zovuta izi zimawononga, mwakuthupi ndi mwamalingaliro. Potenga thandizo la mafunso awa kwa maanja, mutha kuyesa kukhulupilira mnzanu, kuwalimbikitsa kugawana mavuto awo, ndikupeza mayankho limodzi.
Ukwati umangokhudza kuthandizana komanso kumvetsetsa.
7. Kodi pali maloto anu omwe sanakwaniritsidwe?
Aliyense amalakalaka kukwaniritsa cholinga chake. Tengani nthawi kuti mupeze zomwe maloto a mnzanuyo ndi zovuta zomwe zikukuyimitsani.
Mafunso amtunduwu kwa mabanja atha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale olimbikitsa komanso othandizira, omwe okondedwa wanu akuyenera kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo, zomwe sizinakwaniritsidwe mpaka pano.
8. Chifukwa chiyani mumandikonda?
Kusiyanasiyana kudzakhalapo nthawi zonse m'banja. Komanso, kungonena kuti, “Ndimakukonda” sikokwanira. Chikondi chimawonetsedwa muzochita zanu ndi momwe mumamvera kwa mnzanu.
Kuzindikira kupatula kwa mnzanu, kuvomereza zoyipa zawo ndi zabwino zawo ndikuyimirira molimba pambali pawo ndi chikondi chenicheni.
Chifukwa chake, mutha kufunsa mnzanu mafunso ngati, mudamva liti kuti ndimakukondani kwambiri kapena chifukwa chiyani mumandikonda komanso mafunso ofanana ndi awa kwa maanja kuti alole mnzanuyo kubwerezanso zifukwa zakukondani.
9. Ndi chiyani chomwe mungaganize kuti sichingakhale chowiringula, ndipo chifukwa chiyani?
Mawu osapweteka akupereka zisankho zovuta zomwe mungachite ngati mnzanu atasokonekera pankhani ina, ndipo zitha kuwononga ubale wokhalitsa.
Imani ndi kuganiza. Kukhala okondana kwambiri sikuyenera kukhala chinthu chongopeka. Muyenera kukhala pansi ndikulankhula mozama pazinthu zomwe simukuzikonda ndipo, ngati zatha, zikupweteketsani kwambiri. Ndipo, mafunso awa kwa mabanja angakuthandizeni kuchita izi moyenera.
Izi zipangitsa kuti pakhale kumvana pakati pa awiriwo, ndipo padzakhala kupewa zinthu zomwe zimawoneka ngati zosakhululuka.
10. Kodi tingatani kuti tisinthe maubwenzi ndi kugonana mmoyo wathu?
Nthawi zambiri, kuchepa kwaubwenzi kumabweretsa banja losasangalala. Kugonana pankhani yovuta komanso kukana kugonana mobwerezabwereza kumawerengedwa ngati kukanidwa.
Nkhanizi ziyenera kuthetsedwa mofatsa, moyenera, komanso momvetsetsa. Yambirani zofuna zanu ndi zosowa zanu. Kambiranani za kugonana kwanu. Izi sizidzalola kusagwirizana kulikonse kuyambika ndikuthandizani kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino, wachimwemwe.