Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani kuti mutha kumutaya
- 2. Pangani chatsopano
- 3. Phunzirani kumvera ena chisoni
- 4. Phunzirani kukambirana bwino
- 5. Khalani okonda kwambiri
- 6. Dziwani kufunika kwa zinthu zazing'ono
- 7. Lowani munthawi yamavuto
- 8. Kukula pamodzi
Kupatula kulera, ukwati mwina ndiumodzi mwamavuto akulu kwambiri omwe mudakumana nawo, ndipo izi zikunena zambiri.
Mwinamwake mwakwera Phiri la Kilimanjaro, muthamanga mpikisano wothamanga kapena mukuyenda padziko lapansi, koma zikafika posangalatsa mkazi wanu, mungamve ngati mwafika pakhoma lolimba la njerwa. Dziwani kuti simuli nokha - ambiri agawana zokhumudwitsa zanu komanso ngakhale kusimidwa.
Komanso, nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti pali njira kapena njira zambiri zokuthandizira ukwati, ndikudutsa pakhoma la njerwa, lomwe lingasanduke chisangalalo.
Nkhaniyi cholinga chake ndikupereka malingaliro abwenzi abwino ndikuwunikanso zina mwamavuto ndi maukwati pomwe amuna nthawi zambiri samazindikira momwe mkazi amaganizira komanso zomwe zimamusangalatsa.
Nthawi zina kusintha kosiyanasiyana kumatha kusintha kwambiri, ndikukusiyani ndikudabwa chifukwa chomwe mudadikirira motere kapena chifukwa chake simunazindikire izi kale, zomwe zimakupangitsani kudzifunsa momwe mungalimbitsire ubale wanu.
Choyamba, mwachita bwino powerenga nkhani yolimbikitsa maukwati, chifukwa zikuwonetsa kuti mukufunafuna thandizo, ndipo omwe akufuna apeza.
Ndipo chachiwiri, ngati mungayambe kumva kuti izi ndi zopanda chilungamo - nanga bwanji gawo la mayiyo? - Inde, ukunena zowona, amayi akuyenera kubweretsa mbali yawo monga momwe amachitira amuna, koma pakadali pano, tikulinga makamaka pazomwe amuna angachite kuti akwaniritse ukwati wawo.
Chifukwa chake, nayi malangizo ochepa ovuta a banja labwino. Malangizo aubwenzi awa kwa amuna ndi maupangiri aukwati athanzi omwe angagwiritsidwe ntchito ngati nangula kuti asungire ubale wawo womira.
1. Dziwani kuti mutha kumutaya
Malangizo aubwenzi awa kwa amuna ndiofunikira; ndichifukwa chake ali woyamba.
Amuna ena amakhala ndi chinyengo chakuti akangosainira zikalata zokwatirana, zinali zogwirizana, ndipo amatha kukhala pansi, kupumula, ndikuchitira akazi awo njira iliyonse yakale. Kulakwitsa kwakukulu!
Monga china chilichonse chopindulitsa pamoyo, ukwati umafunikira kuyesetsa mosasunthika, chidwi, kulimbikira, komanso kutsimikiza mtima kuti mupeze zotsatira zabwino.
Ndikofunikira kuti mukumbukire kuti muyenera kuyenda mtunda wochulukirapo kuti mumange maukwati apamtima ndikumanga ubale wolimba.
Simungalote kulembetsa ku doctorate osayika ntchito kuti ichitike. Kapenanso simukadakhala ndi vuto lodzala ndiwo zamasamba kenako osavutikira kuzisamalira - kuthirira, kupalira ndi kuthira feteleza.
2. Pangani chatsopano
Chinyengo china chosavuta komanso chowopsa chomwe tingagwere pansi ndikuti 'njira yanga ndiyabwino / yoyenera.' Mwinanso, mwina mkazi wanu angaganize kuti njira yake ndiyabwino komanso yabwinobwino.
Zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti wina wa inu amverana ndi mnzake, kenako zomwe amakonda, chikhalidwe, kapena momwe adaleredwera zimakhala chikhalidwe chaukwati wawo. Izi ndizowopsa ndipo zitha kubweretsa ubale wodalirana.
Komabe, ngati mukudziwa izi, mutha kuyesetsa kuti mupange zachilendo kwa nonse, momwe mumakambirana ndikukambirana mosamala, kuti muthane ndi banja lanu.
Mwanjira iyi, mutha kupeza malo opambana opambana, m'malo mongolakwitsa / kulondola, njira yanga kapena njira yayikulu.
3. Phunzirani kumvera ena chisoni
Chisoni chimatanthauza kukhala wokhoza kuzindikira ndikugawana zakukhosi kwa wina. Ndi gawo lofunikira laubwenzi wabwino ndipo ungathandize kuti banja likhale lolimba.
Gawo lalikulu lowonetsa chifundo ndikumvetsera ndikutsimikizira zomwe mkazi wanu akukumana nazo.
Ngati adakhala ndi tsiku lopanikiza komanso lopanikiza, chinthu chabwino chomwe munganene ndikuti, "Ndiuzeni zonse za izi." Kenako mumakhala pansi, kumugwira dzanja, kumuyang'ana m'maso pamene akulankhula, ndi kumvetsera mwatcheru.
Akakufotokozerani zowawa kapena akukuuzani kuti izi zinali zokhumudwitsa, munganene kuti, "Ziyenera kuti zinali zovuta" kapena "Pepani kuti mwakhala ndi tsiku lovuta chonchi."
Ngati mukufuna kukonza chibwenzi chanu, kumbukirani kuti ino si nthawi yoti mumuuze chifukwa chomwe samayenera kumvera choncho kapena kunena momwe akanachitira ndi vutoli mosiyana.
4. Phunzirani kukambirana bwino
Chifukwa chake mutamumvera bwino, tsopano mosakayikira adzafuna kukumverani. Mwinamwake simumamva ngati kulankhula panthawi yomwe mumafika kunyumba mutatha kugwira ntchito mwakhama, koma izi ndizofunikira kwa mkazi wanu.
Ngati simukufuna kumuuza za tsiku lanu, amadzimva kuti alibe nanu ndikutsekeredwa panja. Chinyengo cha "mtundu wamphamvu, wopanda mawu" ndi chinyengo china chomwe chawononga mabanja ambiri.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuganiza kuti 'm'mene mungalimbitsire ubale' kapena 'momwe mungasinthire banja', ingotengani kanthawi kuti mumasuke.
Mwinamwake mukufunikira nthawi yopuma ku malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena kuyimitsa mapazi anu kwakanthawi. Pezani zomwe zikugwira ntchito bwino kenako khalani omasuka kuti muzilankhulana bwino ndi akazi anu.
5. Khalani okonda kwambiri
Simunakwatirane kuti muzitha kukhala limodzi!
Chifukwa chake yesetsani kukhala ndi moyo wogonana wabwino kwambiri chifukwa izi zithandizira banja lanu komanso kulimbitsa maubwenzi apabanja mulingo uliwonse.
Atanena izi, ndi nkhuku ndi dzira pang'ono - zomwe zimabwera koyamba?
Kwa amayi ambiri, nthawi zabwino pabedi zimabwera pambuyo polumikizana bwino tsiku lonse - chikondi ndi kuyandikira, kumamupangitsa kuti azimva kufunidwa ndikufunika nthawi zonse, osati magetsi akangozimitsa. Fufuzani ngati zili choncho ndi mnzanuyo, phunzirani zomwe zimakondweretsa mkazi wanu, ndikumvetsetsa zosowa zake zolimbitsa banja lanu.
6. Dziwani kufunika kwa zinthu zazing'ono
Njira imodzi yabwino kwambiri yosinthira banja lanu ndikumvetsetsa kufunika kwa zinthu zazing'ono zomwe mumachitirana.
Ndikosavuta kulola zinthu zazing'ono kuterera - monga kunena chonde ndikukuthokozani, kapena kumutsegulira chitseko, kapena kumutumizira uthenga woti 'muli bwanji' masana.
Mwina mukuganiza kuti sizipanga kusiyana kwakukulu, ndipo ndinu otanganidwa kwambiri ndi zinthu 'zofunika kwambiri' kuposa kungowunikira za 'momwe mungapangire ubale wanu komanso momwe mungapangire banja kukhala labwino' kapena 'momwe mungakhalire ndi banja labwino'.
Koma, m'kupita kwanthawi, mungadabwe kuzindikira kuti zinthu zazing'ono zonsezi zimathandizira kulimbitsa maubwenzi apabanja, monga duwa laling'ono lililonse kapena chomera m'munda mwanu, ndipo mukataya kwambiri, munda wanu udzakhala wosakongola kwambiri.
7. Lowani munthawi yamavuto
Mkazi wanu sangapemphe thandizo nthawi zonse, koma ngati muli tcheru, mutha kuwona kuti akukumana ndi mavuto ati.
Mwina ndikumapumira apa ndi apo kapena bata lachilendo lomwe lingakuuzeni kuti watopa kapena wapanikizika. Kenako mutha kukwera ndikuthandizira ntchito zapakhomo, kapena kumusambitsira bubble wabwino, ndikumpangira kapu ya tiyi kapena khofi.
Chisamaliro chachikondi choterechi chidzakupindulitsani kwambiri.
Mkazi wanu angaone kuti mumam'thandiza ndipo sangafunike kunyamula yekha katundu wolemera wa panyumba. Kuthandiza m'njira zofunikira komanso zoganizira ena ndi njira imodzi yabwino yothetsera banja lanu.
8. Kukula pamodzi
Pomaliza, kumbukirani kuti kusintha sikungapeweke.
Pamene nonse muyamba kukalamba ndi kukhwima, chomwechonso chikondi chanu ndi banja lanu. Simunthu yemweyo momwe mudali zaka ziwiri zapitazo, komanso mkazi wanu.
Njira imodzi yabwino yosinthira ubale ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mwakhala patsamba lomwelo.
Chifukwa chake, pitirizani kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake kuti muthe kukula mwachisangalalo pamodzi.