Zamkati
Zidatani pa chibwenzi? Zidachitika ndi chiyani nthawi yayitali yocheza yokhudzana ndi chiyembekezo komanso maloto anu? Kodi yatengedwa ndi maudindo onse amoyo watsiku ndi tsiku omwe amaphatikizapo ana, zochita zawo, zosowa zawo ndi zofuna zawo, maudindo apanyumba, ntchito yolemetsa kuntchito kwanu ndi mndandanda wazinthu zambiri "zoti muchite"? Kodi zokambirana zanu ndizokhudza kuyang'anira yemwe achite chiyani ndipo ayendetsa ndani? Kodi ndizokhudza momwe mungayendetsere banja ndi zina zonse zofunika? Ndi maudindo amoyo omwe amakukokani inu ndi mnzanu m'njira zambiri, ndizofala kuti banja lanu likhale pansi pazomwe zili zofunika kwambiri.
Izi zikachitika, mumadzimva kuti mulibe chochita ndipo simukudziwa momwe mungasinthire kumverera ngati anzanu ogona nawo kuti mumve ngati okondana. Kusungulumwa kumatenga nthawi pomwe chilakolako, kukondana komanso kukondana kumakhala pampando wakumbuyo. Mumasowa kulumikizana kotero ndikuzindikira kuti ubale wanu ndi mnzanu ukusowa thandizo chifukwa nonse mumamva ngati banja lanu lili pachiswe.
Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani? Imani, pumirani kwambiri, ndikuganiza zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri. Ganizirani mozama za ubale wanu ndi zomwe zikugwira ntchito. Kenako ganizirani zomwe ziyenera kusinthidwa. Sambani mawonekedwe akumverera ngati kuti muli pachikhalidwe potsatira malangizo asanu awa.
Malangizo asanu otulutsira banja lanu pachiphuphu
1. Kuyeserera kulingalira za ubale wanu ndi malo abwino kuyamba. Khazikitsani nthawi yopuma ndi mnzanu. Munthawi imeneyi muthandizane moyenera. Lolani malingaliro ndi nkhawa zomwe zatenga moyo wanu ndikusangalala ndi nthawi yabwino ngati banja.
2. Nthawi zambiri pamene zinthu sizikuyenda bwino muukwati, okwatirana amayamba kumangokhalira kukangana nthawi zonse. Kungakhale kopindulitsa kuukwati wanu ngati mungathetse mavuto. Lankhulani ndi mnzanu m'njira yomwe singawaike kumbuyo. Ngati cholinga chakuyanjana kwambiri ndiye kuti kambiranani zakufuna kulumikizana m'malo mongodandaula zakusowa kwa mgwirizano.
3. Kuyamikirana ndikuthokoza ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti banja likhale losangalala. Osatengera wina ndi mnzake mopepuka. Zindikirani ndikuyamikira zinthu zazing'ono komanso zazikulu. Izi zithandizanso kutembenuza mayendedwe olakwika kukhala mayendedwe abwino oyamikira.
4. Konzani madzulo a inu nokha kapena mnzanu kapena ngati muli ndi nthawi ndi ndalama, konzekerani kuthawa kumapeto kwa sabata. Ganizirani wina ndi mnzake. Lankhulani za mitu yomwe mudakambirana mudali pachibwenzi. Yesetsani kubwereranso kukondana komwe kumabweretsa pamodzi pachiyambi cha chibwenzi chanu.
5. Bwezerani kumverera kwa agulugufe m'mimba mwanu mukawona mnzanu. Gwiranani manja, kukumbatirana, kupsompsonana, kukhudza, kugonana, ndikukumbutsana momwe mumakondera mnzanu. Lekani kumverera ngati ogona nawo ndikubwerera kukakondana ndikumakondana wina ndi mnzake. Pezani nthawi yolumikizana ngakhale ikadali kanthawi kuti muyang'ane wina ndi mnzake.
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuubwenzi wanu kuti muzisamalira tsopano. M'zaka zambiri ana atakula, ntchito zapakhomo zimachepa ndipo mukuyandikira kupuma pantchito, zidzakhala zovuta kuyambiranso ubale womwe mudali nawo kale. Chitani izi tsopano; osachitsuka momwe chingadikire. Onetsetsani kuti mukukulitsa kulumikizana kwanu komanso mulingo waubwenzi kotero kuti mukukula limodzi. Sangalalani limodzi ndipo pangani mphindi zapaderazi kuwerengera.