Zamkati
- Zikutanthauza chiyani kukhala odziyimira pawokha pachibwenzi chanu?
- Kodi kudziyimira pawokha kungawononge ubale wanu?
- A. Zimakhudza kulumikizana
- B. Zitha kukhudza kudzidalira kwa anzanu
- 6 Njira zokuthandizira kudalirana
- 1. Yambani kutenga umwini wanu
- 2. Tsatani mpaka kumizu wake ndikuchita nawo
- 3. Lumikizanani ndi wokondedwa wanu
- 4. Tsegulani malingaliro anu kuti mwina zomwe mukufuna zingatheke
- 5. Sankhani zomwe zili zoyenera mbanja
- 6. Nthawi zonse uzikumbutsa kuti nkoyenera kudalira mnzako
- Mapeto
Nthawi zambiri, aliyense amakonda mnzake wodziyimira payokha; mtundu womwe umayendetsedwa ndikulimbikitsidwa umakhala ndi malingaliro awoawo ndipo amatha kupanga zisankho zawo, ndi omwe angawateteze ngati sapezeka mosavuta.
Ngakhale titha kukhala ndi bwenzi lotere, zimasiya funso lofunika m'maganizo a anthu ambiri. “Kodi kukhala ndi ufulu wodziyimira pawokha muubwenzi wanga kungakhale vuto kwa ine?”
Nayi chinthucho. Kuyankha funsoli sikungakhale kophweka, chifukwa pali mbali zingapo pamlingowu. Komabe, tichita zonse zomwe tingathe kuti tiwunike bwino nkhaniyi.
Pamapeto pake, mumvetsetsa tanthauzo lodziyimira pawokha pachibwenzi, ndipo mupeza ngati inu (kapena mnzanu) muli odziyimira pawokha pachibwenzi.
Tiwunikanso lingaliro la kudalirana mu maubale ndi momwe tingapangire izi kuti zikuthandizireni.
Zikutanthauza chiyani kukhala odziyimira pawokha pachibwenzi chanu?
Kudziyimira pawokha pachibwenzi ndi momwe mudaphunzira ndikuphunzira momwe mungakhalire nokha (kugwira ntchito ngati chinthu chodziwikiratu chomwe chimatha kulingalira), ngakhale muli pachibwenzi ndi wina.
Ndi kuthekera kwanu kuganiza malingaliro anu, kupanga zisankho, komanso kukhalabe ndi umunthu osalola izi kuti zisokoneze kukondana ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Kodi kudziyimira pawokha kungawononge ubale wanu?
Nazi izi!
Mulingo wina wodziyimira pawokha ndi wofunikira ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi ubale wabwino. Komabe, kukhala wodziimira payekha kumatha kuwononga ubale wanu.
Chifukwa chake ili ndi yankho losavuta la funsoli.
“Inde. Ngakhale kuti kudziyimira pawokha (kumlingo winawake) kuli kofunika paubwenzi uliwonse wabwino, kukhala wodziimira payekha kungawononge ubale wanu. ”
Nazi njira zingapo zomwe izi zingachitikire.
A. Zimakhudza kulumikizana
Kuyankhulana ndikofunikira muubwenzi uliwonse ndikupangitsa kuti ntchitoyi igwire ntchito, pali chiopsezo chomwe chimafunikira kwa onse omwe ali pabanja. Kulankhulana bwino kumafunikira kuti mugwetse makoma anu ndikulola mnzanu kulowa.
Komabe, kukhala wodziyimira pawokha kumatha kukhudza izi chifukwa mukakhala odziyimira pawokha, mutha kutseka mnzanu kunja.
B. Zitha kukhudza kudzidalira kwa anzanu
Mukadzidalira kwambiri, pali kuthekera konse kuti mutha kukhala okhazikika pazisankho zanu ndikukana thandizo lomwe limachokera kwa mnzanu.
Pomwe, pakapita nthawi yayitali, mumapanga zisankho zodziyimira pawokha (makamaka pazinthu zomwe zimakhudza inu nokha ndi mnzanu), ndipo zikukuvutani kuvomera chisamaliro chawo, atha kutanthauzira uthengawo molakwika. Izi zitha kusokoneza ubale wanu.
Tsopano tazindikira kuti kukhala wodziyimira pawokha kungakhudze ubale wanu, mungatani kuti muchite izi?
6 Njira zokuthandizira kudalirana
Kudalirana (komwe kumatchedwanso kudalirana) ndi yankho lodziyimira pawokha muubwenzi. Amawonedwa ngati malo otetezeka pakati pa kudziyimira pawokha kwambiri ndi kudalira kwambiri / kukakamira muubwenzi.
Kudalirana kumachitika ngati pali kusiyana pakati pawo ndi mnzawoyo paubwenzi. Ubwenzi wodalirana ndi umodzi momwe anthu awiri olimba komanso odziyimira pawokha amakondana, koma samadzipereka panthawiyi kapena kutaya umunthu wawo.
Muubwenzi wodalirana, onse omwe amakhulupirira amadzikhulupirira okha komanso kuthekera kwawo, koma amadziwanso komwe angakweretse mzerewo.
Onani kanemayu yemwe akufotokoza ulendo wochokera pa ufulu kupita kudalirana.
Kuti mukwaniritse kudalirana, Nazi njira zisanu ndi chimodzi zotsatirazi.
1. Yambani kutenga umwini wanu
Izi zitha kutanthauza kutenga umwini pamalingaliro anu, zochita zanu, ndi momwe mumachitira ndi mnzanu. Pa gawo ili laulendo wodalirana, kudziyesa wekha kungakhale kofunikira.
2. Tsatani mpaka kumizu wake ndikuchita nawo
Vuto lomwe mwina mukukumana nalo chifukwa chodziyimira pawokha likhoza kukhala logwirizana ndi china chake m'mbuyomu.
Mukachita izi, mungafunike kudzikakamiza nokha (m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo) ndikudziphunzitsa nokha kuti sikulakwa kulandira chisamaliro ndi chidwi kuchokera kwa mnzanu. Komanso, kuwamvera sikutanthauza kufooka, koma kulimba.
3. Lumikizanani ndi wokondedwa wanu
Ulendo wokhala wodziyimira pawokha mpaka kudalirana paubwenzi wanu ukhoza kukhala wovuta, makamaka ngati mnzanu sakudziwa zomwe mukukumana nazo.
Pansi pazikhalidwezi, chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungachite ndikuwamasulira ndikulola kuti akumane ndi zovuta zomwe mungakhale nazo.
Sikuti izi zimawathandiza kumvetsetsa ndikukuchepetsani pang'ono, komanso zitha kukulitsa kudzidalira kwawo.
4. Tsegulani malingaliro anu kuti mwina zomwe mukufuna zingatheke
Popeza dongosolo lanu ndikuti mukhale ndi ubale wodalirana komanso wathanzi, kukonza malingaliro anu kuti avomereze izi ndikofunikira. Njira imodzi yochitira izi ndikudziyesa nokha kuti muli pachibwenzi chomwe mukufuna. Malingaliro anu atenga gawo lalikulu pantchitoyi.
5. Sankhani zomwe zili zoyenera mbanja
Izi zichitike ndi mnzanu.
Kudziwa bwino zomwe zili zovomerezeka kwa inu nonse muubwenzi kudzakuthandizani kudziwa kuti pali malire omwe onse amalemekeza, ngakhale mukuyesetsa kuti mukhale osadalira kwambiri pachibwenzi chanu.
Kuphatikiza apo, mungafunikire kudzipereka kuti mupewe kupanga zisankho zofunika nokha. Ngati pangakhale chisankho chokhudza chinthu china chofunikira, magulu onse akuyenera kutenga nawo mbali pakupanga chisankho.
6. Nthawi zonse uzikumbutsa kuti nkoyenera kudalira mnzako
Zomwe simukufuna kuvomereza izi, muyenera kukumbutsidwa nthawi zonse kuti ndibwino kudalira mnzanuyo pazinthu zingapo. Palibe vuto kusamaliridwa ndi wokondedwa wanu, kuti muzilandila chikondi ndi chisamaliro chawo, komanso kukhala pachiwopsezo ndi iwo sichizindikiro cha kufooka.
Tsiku lililonse, dzikumbutseni za izi ndikudziyang'anira kuti musakhumudwe ndi lingaliro loti mutha kudalirana paubwenzi wanu.
Mapeto
Pomwe mumakhala moyo wanu wosakwatira, ndikosavuta kufikira poti mumakhala odziyimira pawokha komanso wofunitsitsa kukhala pachibwenzi. Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa cha zifukwa zambiri, kuphatikizapo mavuto azachuma komanso momwe zachilengedwe zilili.
Komabe, mukayamba chibwenzi, ndikofunikira kuti muphunzire momwe mungagwirire ntchito ndi mnzanu kuti mupange ubale wodalirana.
Kukhala wodziimira payekha kungathe kuwononga ubale wanu. Komabe, ngati mutsatira zomwe takambirana m'nkhaniyi, mupeza njira yolimbitsira ubale wanu polola mnzanu kulowa.