Zamkati
- Narcissist ndi ukwati
- Zero chifundo ndi chidwiy
- Wokondedwa wanu adzatanthauzira ukwatiwo
- Simupambana kapena kuthetsa mkangano
- Simungasangalalebe tsiku lobadwa kapena chikondwerero
- Mudzapeza kuti mukuyenda pamahelles
Ngati mwakwatirana ndi wankhanza, kapena mwakwatirana naye, mwina simunadziwe zomwe mudapanga, kapena momwe mnzanu angasinthire mutakwatirana. Chifukwa chake, kodi wankhanza amasintha bwanji atakwatirana?
Ma narcissist anzeru amamvetsetsa kuti ayenera kubisala mpaka atadzipereka kwathunthu kwa iwo; apo ayi, pali mwayi kuti akhoza kukutayani.
Mwina sanakuwonetseni momwe zidzakhalire mukadzakwatirana nawo chifukwa sizopindulitsa kwa iwo kutero.
Narcissist ndi ukwati
Choyamba, kodi wamatsenga amakwatira ndani? Wolemba zamatsenga amakwatirana ndi munthu yemwe angakhale gwero labwino laukadaulo kwa iwo kwakanthawi. Amapeza wothandizana naye mwa munthu wofooka, wosazindikira kapena wosadzidalira. Ndiye, ndichifukwa chiyani ma narcissist amakwatirana?
Narcissists amakwatirana chifukwa amafuna kuti wina azidzikweza ndikukhala gwero lokhalitsa lazamalonda. Wokonda kukwatira akhoza kukwatiwa pokhapokha atakwaniritsa cholinga chake monga kukulitsa chithunzi, omvera omwe akupezeka mosavuta kapena ndalama.
Ngakhale sizinthu zonse zomwe zimafanana, nazi zitsanzo zakusintha kwa wanamisili atakwatirana. (Kutha kwa nkhanza komwe kumawonetsedwa kumasiyana pamunthu ndi munthu ndipo zotsatirazi zitha kukhala zololera, kutengera kukhwima ndi zomwe zimakhudza mkaziyo.
Zero chifundo ndi chidwiy
Posakhalitsa mudzazindikira kuti njira yofunika kwambiri yomwe wamisala amasintha atakwatirana ndikuti adzawululira momwe sangakwaniritsire kukhala ndi ubale wabwino.
Narcissism ndimavuto amunthu omwe amaphatikizapo kusamvera chisoni malingaliro a ena. Ngati palibe kumvera ena chisoni, sipangakhale chidwi kapena chifundo pazosowa zanu.
Ngakhale mutapusitsidwa musanalowe m'banja, mchitidwewu sungakhale wabwinobwino mutakwatirana ndipo ukhala maziko a ubale wanu.
Wokondedwa wanu adzatanthauzira ukwatiwo
Mutha kuganiza kuti mumalongosola zaubwenzi wanu musanalowe m'banja ndipo mwina mumaloledwa kukhulupirira izi chifukwa zidakwaniritsa masewera omaliza a wokondedwayo.
Mirage iyi, yamtundu wina, ndi chitsanzo china chofunikira cha momwe wamisala amasinthira atakwatirana chifukwa malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu, ndi zosowa zanu sizothandiza kwa munthu amene ali ndi vutoli.
Ndikothekanso kuti muukwati wa wankhanza, mnzanu amafotokoza momwe angawonetsere miyezo iwiri. zosowa zathu sizivomerezedwa kuti ndizofunikira pokhapokha ngati pali phindu kwa mnzanuyo, nanunso.
Kodi munthu wankhanza angasinthe m'njira yomwe imamupangitsa kumva kuti mwatayika mu banja? Inde, mnzanuyo atha kuyamba kuwonetsa kusakonzeka kugwirira ntchito kapena kunyengerera nanu, ndipo izi zitha kukhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa zakudzidalira kwanu.
Simupambana kapena kuthetsa mkangano
Ndipo ngati mukutero, ndiye chifukwa choti muli china chake kwa mnzanuyo.
Ichi ndi chitsanzo china cha momwe wamisala amasinthira atakwatirana.Asanalowe m'banja mwina amawoneka kuti amadzipereka nthawi zina, mwina kupepesa koma ndichifukwa chake, simunali awo kwathunthu ndipo anali ndi nkhawa ndi momwe amaonekera kwa inu, komanso banja lanu ndi abwenzi monga chinthu chofunikira kwambiri.
Koma chowonadi ndichakuti munthu yemwe ali ndi nkhanza samapepesa moona mtima, kutaya mkangano kapena kuthetsa kusamvana.
Chifukwa chake, kodi wankhanza amasintha bwanji atakwatirana? Alibe chikhumbo chokwaniritsa malumbiro awo aukwati. Ali pachibwenzi kuti zosowa zawo zitheke, osati chifukwa cha chikondi.
Zinthu zikafika poipa, simulinso wofunika chifukwa sakuyenera kuti akusangalatseni. Mutapanga kudzipereka kwathunthu kwa iwo, palibe china choti mupindule (m'maso mwawo).
Simungasangalalebe tsiku lobadwa kapena chikondwerero
Pa tsiku lanu lobadwa, chidwi chiyenera kukhala pa inu.
Komabe, mnzanu wokonda zachiwerewere atha kuyamba kuwononga zikondwerero zanu ndikubwezeretsanso chidwi chawo. Izi zitha kutanthauza kupsa mtima, mapulani osakhazikika, ngakhalenso kusiya ndi anzanu komanso abale chifukwa cha mnzanu. Chifukwa chake, kodi wankhanza amatha kusintha atakwatirana? Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zoyipa.
Mudzapeza kuti mukuyenda pamahelles
Tsopano wokondedwa wanu wamankhwala ali pampando woyendetsa waubwenzi wanu ndi banja lanu, zomwe zimatha kukhumudwitsa ndikukusiyani opanda mphamvu.
Wolemba nkhanza kwambiri atha kukupangitsani kulipira ngati:
- mumafotokozera zomwe mukuyembekezera, zosowa zanu, ndi zokhumba zanu,
- sangalalani kwambiri ndi iwo,
- yesani kutsimikizira mfundo kapena kupambana mkangano,
- musamulole kuti akufotokozereni momwe akumvera.
Mungamveke bwino mukamayesa kukana kwa iwo, kapena kuwaitanitsa chifukwa chakuwunikira kapenanso kukhala achimwemwe.
Kodi munthu wankhanza angasinthe atakwatirana m'njira yomwe imakuwopani?
Anthu ena omwe amakwatirana ndi wankhanza amatha kumangoyenda pamalesheya ngakhale atakhala kuti palibe. Nthawi zambiri izi zimachitika chifukwa cha munthu yemwe ali ndi chizolowezi chomangokhalira kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo adalimbikitsa mnzake kuti atero. Ngakhale mungafunike kuyenda pamazira kuti mukhale ndi mtendere wamtundu uliwonse, khalidweli limamupatsa mphamvu ndikumulimbikitsa kuti apitilize ndi izi.
Ngati zikukuchitikirani, ndipo mutha kumvetsetsa zitsanzo izi za momwe wamisala amasinthira atakwatirana ndiye kuti ndiyenera kutuluka.
Kodi mungamuthandize bwanji wankhanza? Piritsi lowawa la chowonadi ndiloti musadandaule kuyesa kukonza ubale wanu ndi iwo polankhula nawo kapena powalimbikitsa kupita kukalandira upangiri wa maanja. Mulibe mavuto amukwati muli ndi vuto lokulirapo.
Chifukwa chake, kodi wankhanza amatha kusintha atakwatirana? Ngati mwakwatirana ndi wankhanza, mudakwatirana ndi munthu yemwe sangasinthe ngakhale mungafune kutero.
Mukuyang'ana patsogolo pazomwe zingakhale zowopsa zomwe zingakupatseni mphamvu, ndikupangitsani kukayikira zaumoyo wanu.
Choipa kwambiri, izi zitha kubweretsa mavuto azaumoyo monga nkhawa, kukhumudwa, PTSD ndi mavuto azaumoyo. Ganizirani zodandaulira mlangizi kuti anene zakukhosi kwanu pamalo abwino.
Ngati mungaganize zothetsa chibwenzicho, pangani dongosolo ndikupeza chithandizo kuti chikuthandizeni paulendowu. Mutha kuchira kuchokera kuukwati kupita kwa wamisili, ndikuphunzira zambiri za vutoli ndi momwe mungadzitetezere ndichinthu choyamba choyenera.