Zamkati
- Nchifukwa chiyani izi zili zofunika?
- Kodi kalembedwe kanga kakugwirizana bwanji ndi zoopsa?
- Physiology yovulala
- Tsopano nditani?
Ukwati ndikumangiriza kwa munthu m'modzi kapena angapo omwe mumamva kuti ndinu olumikizidwa komanso otetezeka nawo. Mtundu wophatikizika wa munthu umatanthauzira momwe amakonzera ubale. Anthu amapanga masitayelo awo ophatikizana ali ana ndipo nthawi zambiri amawayeserera ndi anzawo.
A Mary Ainseworth, waku America-Canada Developmental Psychologist mu 1969, adawona ubale wolumikizana ndi ana ndi omwe amawasamalira poyesa chotchedwa Strange Situation. Adawona mitundu inayi yolumikizira: otetezeka, kuda nkhawa / kupewa, kuda nkhawa / kusokonekera, komanso kusokonekera / kusokonezeka. Ana mwachibadwa amadziwa kuti amafunika kudalira omwe amawasamalira kuti awasunge ndi moyo. Ana omwe amadzimva otetezeka ndikusamalidwa ali ana apitiliza kumva kuti ndi otetezeka padziko lapansi komanso mu ubale wawo wodzipereka. Poyesera amayi ndi makanda adasewera mchipinda limodzi kwa mphindi zochepa, kenako amayi adachoka mchipinda. Amayi akabwerera anawo adachitapo kanthu mosiyanasiyana.
Ana omwe ali ndi nkhawa / kupewa ana anyalanyaza amayi awo ndikusewera ngati palibe chomwe chidachitika, ngakhale amalira ndikusaka amayi awo atatuluka mchipinda; zimawoneka ngati zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chosasamala zosowa za mwana. Ana omwe ali ndi nkhawa / okonda kulira adalira, akumamatira kwa amayi awo, ndipo anali ovuta kuwakhazika pansi; zochita zosagwirizana pazosowa za mwana. Mwana wosakhazikika / wosokonezeka amatha kupindika thupi, samalira, ndikupita kwa amayi, kenako nkubwerera; amafuna kulumikizana koma amawopa, ena mwa ana awa amapezeka kuti amazunzidwa.
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zili zofunika?
Mukadziwa mawonekedwe anu ophatikizika mutha kumvetsetsa momwe mumachitira mukapanikizika. Anthu omwe adakumana ndi zoopsa ali mwana nthawi zambiri samakhala ndi mawonekedwe otetezedwa. Anthu awa amapulumuka zoopsa zawo; komabe, ambiri sadziwa momwe kuwopa kwawo chitetezo kumawonekera pazochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku muubwenzi. Mumakonda munthu amene muli naye, mumawakhulupirira. Mukakhumudwa, mumapezeka kuti mukuchita ngati munthu wina. Mukuyankha momwe akumvera ndipo wokondedwa wanu amangowona machitidwe anu osati mantha omwe ali pansipa. Mutha kutseka osalankhula, kapena mungadule njira zina. Mutha kulipira ndalama zambiri poyang'ana ndi mnzanu kuti muwonetsetse kuti zonse zili bwino mutamenya nkhondo kangapo. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti aliyense atha kupeza chitetezo chokwanira kudzera mu maubale omwe amakhala otetezeka komanso akusamalira. Kukumbukira zochita zanu, kuimitsa ndikuwona zomwe mumachita komanso momwe mukumvera kumatha kukupatsani chidziwitso cha zomwe mungafune mukapanikizika. Mwachitsanzo, Kodi muyenera kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka? Kodi mumadzimva oyenera kukondedwa?
Kodi kalembedwe kanga kakugwirizana bwanji ndi zoopsa?
Zowawa ndizochitika zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhala wopanikizika kwambiri. Izi ndichifukwa cha ubale wamaganizidwe amthupi omwe munthuyo ali nawo pamwambowu. Neuroscience yatiwonetsa ife anthu omwe akumana ndi zoopsa asintha malo awo oyankhira okha- amawona dziko loopsa kwambiri. Zokumana nazo zomvetsa chisonizi zapangitsa njira zatsopano za neural kuwawuza kuti dziko lapansi ndi lowopsa, mofanana ndi mawonekedwe osatetezeka.
Physiology yovulala
Matupi aumunthu ali ndi mitsempha yapakatikati (CNS) yolumikiza ubongo ndi msana wam'mimba komwe zimakhudzanso chidwi cham'mutu-uku ndiye maziko azomwe timakumana nazo padziko lapansi. CNS imapangidwa ndi machitidwe awiri, parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) ndi dongosolo lamanjenje lomvera chisoni (SNS), makinawo amakutulutsani m'mavuto. Anthu omwe adakumana ndi zoopsa amatha nthawi yayitali kapena osakhala nawo mu PNS: matupi awo adayambitsidwa ndipo ali okonzeka kumenya nkhondo. Mofananamo, munthu yemwe ali ndi mawonekedwe osatetezeka akapsa mtima, akukhala mu SNS ndipo akuyankha kuti apulumuke. Zoopsa zimakubera iwe kumva kuti ndiwe wotetezeka mthupi lako. Mukamalimbana ndi anzanu ena atha kukhala kuti mukubweretsa zilonda zakale osazindikira. Kuti mupeze chidziwitso, malingaliro, thupi, ndi ubongo ziyenera kutsimikiziridwa kuti muli otetezeka.
Tsopano nditani?
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