Zamkati
- 1. Ikani magalasi anzanu kuti mumvetsetse momwe amaonera dziko
- 2. Sungani malire moyenera
- 3. Yang'anani kusintha kwanu
- 4. Khalani ndi dongosolo lothandizira lonse
- 5. Sonyezani kuyamikira m'malo mongowanyalanyaza
- 6. Menyani mwanzeru ndikumenya nkhondo mwachilungamo
- 7. Lankhulani nthawi yake
Kukhazikitsa ndi kusunga ubale wabwino kumatha kutenga ntchito komanso kumakhala kovuta. Mwamwayi, ubale umatha kukula ndikukula bola onse awiri atakhala ofunitsitsa kuthana nawo. Izi ndi zoona ngakhale chiyambi cha chibwenzicho chinali chovuta. Chifukwa chake, kusakhazikitsa zinthu pachiyambi penipeni sikungagonjetsedwe.
Kuti ubale ugwire ntchito, onse awiri akuyenera kupanga ndalama mosalekeza pakapita nthawi kuti asunge komanso kukonza ubale wawo. Mayankho a "momwe tingakhalire ndi ubale wabwino" atha kukhala osiyana kwambiri kuchokera pa banja limodzi mpaka linzake. Palibe njira yachilengedwe popeza palibe mabanja awiri omwe ali ofanana. Komabe, maupangiri ena atha kukhala othandiza kwa ambiri mwa anzawo omwe aphunzira momwe angakhalire ndiubwenzi wabwino.
1. Ikani magalasi anzanu kuti mumvetsetse momwe amaonera dziko
Cholakwika chachikulu chomwe ife, monga anthu, titha kuchita ndikulingalira m'malo mofufuza. Timaganiza choncho chifukwa timaganizira mutu wina mwanjira ina winayo akuuwona chimodzimodzi. Yesani kukumbukira kangati pomwe mudati "Nditengereni mwachitsanzo? Ndikadachita mosiyana. ” Ngakhale izi ndi zoona, simuli pachibwenzi ndi inu nokha ndipo munthu wina amene muli naye ali ndi malingaliro osiyana ndi malingaliro adziko lapansi. Zochita zawo zimachokera paganizo lawo pankhaniyi komanso moyo weniweniwo.
Kutengera zomwe takumana nazo mdziko lapansi komanso anthu, timasintha malingaliro athu molingana. Mwachitsanzo, ngati titakhala ndi vuto lomwe tidayesedwa, titha kuyesa kuwongolera kuti tisapweteke. Popanda chidziwitso chotere, tikhoza kukhala omasuka kwa ena.
Malingaliro athu amayendetsa machitidwe athu, ndipo amakula kutengera moyo wathu mpaka pano. Chifukwa chake, pali mwayi waukulu wokondedwa wanu akuwona zinthu mosiyana ndi momwe inu mukuonera popeza zomwe adakumana nazo zinali zosiyana.
Chifukwa chake, upangiri woyambirira komanso wofunikira kwambiri ndikuyesa nsapato zawo kukula ndikuwona momwe zimamvera.
Kaya zikhale zotani, kumvetsetsa sikutanthauza kutsatira. Ndizofunika kudziwa chomwe china chimatanthauza kwa wokondedwa wathu, osachita momwe angaganizire kapena momwe angachitire.
2. Sungani malire moyenera
Othandizana nawo akuyenera kukhala okonzeka kunyengerera ndi kulekerera zina mwazomwe sakonda zina. Komabe, awa sayenera kukhala omwe amawona kuti ndi ofunikira kuti akhalebe pachibwenzi. Kuphatikiza apo, akuyenera kungoyembekezera kuti wina azinyengerera pazinthu zomwe sizili mbali yawo komanso mosemphanitsa.
Kusintha mnzanu kuti agwirizane ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera kungamupangitse mnzanuyo kukhala wosasangalala ndipo pamapeto pake inunso.
Pongoyambira, simudzawalemekeza popeza akuchita ngati dongo kukulolani kuti muwakonzenso momwe mungafunire. Kunyengerera ndikofunikira kuti mgwirizano ugwire ntchito, koma onse awiri sayenera kulekerera zopempha zosintha.
3. Yang'anani kusintha kwanu
Mnzanga wina anandiuza kuti sanachite zomwe azibwenzi apempha pazomwe amafuna kuti asinthe. M'mawu ake omwe: "Ndikachita izi ndimakhala wina ndipo sindiyeneranso kukondana naye ndipo andisiya." Ngakhale atha kukhala okhwima kwambiri, titha kuvomereza kuti amapanga nkhani yochititsa chidwi.
Titha kunena kuti chabwino ndikupeza munthu yemwe safunika kusintha zinthu zoyambira zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala omwe tili, ngakhale kusintha kwina kuli kofunikira paubwenzi uliwonse. Komabe, tiyenera kukhala bwino ndi kusintha kulikonse komwe tingachite za ife ndipo izi siziyenera kukhala zomwe zimatifotokozera. Pachifukwa ichi, njira yabwino yoti mutenge ndi kuganizira nokha ndi kusintha kwanu.
Mukasintha machitidwe anu, mnzanu amayenera kusintha nawonso. Mwanjira imeneyi, mutha kusintha zomwe mukufuna kuwona mumachitidwe ena, koma mumangoyang'ana pazomwe mungathe kuwongolera - zochita zanu.
Mwanjira imeneyi mumapewa kufunsa mnzanu kuti asinthe kwambiri ndikuwongolera zomwe mungakwanitse kusintha - machitidwe anu.
4. Khalani ndi dongosolo lothandizira lonse
Kodi mumapita kwa mnzanu nthawi zonse kuti mukwaniritse zosowa zanu za chisangalalo, zosangalatsa, zogonana, ndi zina zambiri? Kodi ndi anthu okhawo omwe mumagawana nawo zachisoni, nkhawa, komanso chisangalalo? Ngati yankho lanu ndi "inde", mwina mungaganizire kukulitsa gulu lanu.
Munthu m'modzi yekha sangathe ndipo sayenera kukhala yekhayo amene angatipatsa zosowa zathu.
Ngakhale zili choncho, pali zosowa zina zomwe tiyenera kudalira wokondedwa wathu monga kugonana. Izi ndizowona pamaubwenzi ena, komabe, sizimangopita maubwenzi otseguka omwe abwenzi akugwirizana kuti azikhala ndi anthu angapo nthawi imodzi.
Chifukwa chiyani tikufuna kukhala pagulu lalikulu ngati bwenzi lathu likuchita bwino kwambiri? Payenera kukhala abwenzi omwe angakhalepo kwa ife pomwe wokondedwa wathu sangathe. Palibe amene angakhale nafe nthawi zonse. Amatha kuyesa, koma ngati sangakwanitse, muyenera kutembenukira kwa wina m'malo moyesera kuti mumupatse mnzake.
5. Sonyezani kuyamikira m'malo mongowanyalanyaza
Tivomerezane - palibe chomwe chimapangidwa kuti chikhale kwamuyaya ndipo chilichonse chimafunikira kukonza. Nyumba yosayang'aniridwa idzagwa pambuyo pazaka zingapo. Wina anganene kuti, nyumba itha kukonzedweratu. Ngakhale izi zitha kukhala zolondola, ndalama zomwe zikufunika pakukonzanso zitha kukhala zazikulu kwambiri kuposa zomwe zimafunika pakukonza nthawi zonse. Osanenapo kunyalanyaza kungapangitse kuti iwonongeke mopitirira kukonzanso. Titha kunena kuti zofananira zimayanjana.
Fotokozerani kuyamikira kwa mnzanuyo momwe mungathere. Tikulankhula za zochitika zapamtima komanso zazing'ono monga kadzutsa pabedi, kukonzekera chisangalalo kapena kugula maswiti omwe amawakonda. Chitani monga momwe mungathere komanso momwe mungathere, komanso ndikofunikira kuzichita pafupipafupi momwe mungathere. Kumbali inayi, pamakhala nthawi yomwe mungakhale otopa kwambiri kapena opanikizika kuti musayang'ane mbali inayo. Ngakhale izi sizachilendo, nthawizo siziyenera kukhala motalika kwambiri. Kodi chimaonedwa motalika kwambiri? Izi zimatengera inu, mnzanu komanso kulumikizana kwanu. Kulankhula kuti pali china chomwe chikuwonongerani mphamvu zanu ndikuyang'ana kutali, kungawathandize kukhala oleza mtima ndikukuthandizani.
6. Menyani mwanzeru ndikumenya nkhondo mwachilungamo
Kunena zowona, padzakhala ndewu. Palibe ubale womwe umakonda kuchita izi. Zina zimakhala zowopsa ku chiyanjano. Ngati mumadzilola kunyoza wokondedwa wanu ndikulankhula mokwiya, ndiye kuti mukuwononga chibwenzicho. Izi ziwavulaza ndipo ngakhale mungafune kuti mawuwo mubwererenso pambuyo pake, simudzatha.
Kapenanso, menyani mwanzeru popanga "nthawi yolimbana" mukawona kuti mwatsala pang'ono kunena zomwe mudzanong'oneza nazo bondo.
Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi iyi kuyimbira mzanu ndikutulutsa musanabwerere kuti mukalankhule ndi mnzanu. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe muyenera kukhala ndi anthu ena omwe mungadalire omwe angakukhazikitseni mtima mukamalimbana ndi mnzanu.
Upangiri wofunikira kwambiri pamomwe mungakhalire ndi ubale wabwino ndikukumbukira - ndiinu awiri olimbana ndi dziko lapansi, osatsutsana wina ndi mnzake.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuposa momwe chibwenzicho chimakhalapobe kuposa kuti wina wa inu akhale wolondola.
7. Lankhulani nthawi yake
Mukakhala ndi zonena, muyenera kupeza nthawi ndi malo okwanira kuti muzilankhulane.
Kuilakalaka ndikuisiya kuti imangire si njira yabwino kwambiri.
M'malo mowonjezera kunyanyala, kambiranani chifukwa mnzanu sangadziwe kuti akuchita zolakwika. Atha kukhala okonzeka kunyengerera ndikusintha kuti athetse mavuto. Kuphatikiza apo, mukalankhula patadutsa milungu kapena miyezi, mnzanuyo sadzawona ndipo mwina sangakwanitse kukumbukira ndi "kudziteteza". Mukamachita izi mukuwanyalanyaza mwayi wofotokozera chifukwa chake china chake chikuchitika pomwe chikuchitika ndikuchikonza musanakhumudwe kwenikweni.