Zamkati
- Momwe mungabwezeretsere chikondi muukwati wanu
- Kodi ndingayambitsenso chibwenzi m'banja?
- 1. Ganizirani bwino nkhaniyo
- 2. Onani zina
- 3. Dziwani kuti ndi pati
- 4. Pezani yankho
Muyenera kuti mwamvapo za mawu awa nthawi zillion m'moyo wanu - "Konzani, musamalize.”
Anthu amachita mantha kuti limbana ndi chowonadi za awo ukwati wopanda chikondi ndipo yesetsani kuukonza, ngakhale chibwenzicho chafika pa gawo la 'point-of-no-kubwerera'. Amadzifunsa momwe angabwezeretsere chikondi chomwe chatayika muukwati ndikuchezera maola ambiri pa intaneti kuti apeze yankho loyenera kuubwenzi wawo wopanda chikondi.
Mutha kudabwa kudziwa kuti mu Google, amafufuza 'banja losagonana' pafupifupi nthawi zitatu ndi theka kuposa kusaka chifukwa cha 'banja losasangalala' komanso maulendo asanu ndi atatu kuposa 'ukwati wopanda chikondi.’
Nthawi zambiri mumamva anthu okwatirana padziko lonse lapansi atha kufunsa kuti, "Kodi ndibwezeretsanso bwanji chikondi m'banja langa?" Kotero inu mukuona chikondi m'banja ndichakuti zofunika kukhala osangalala komanso okondana limodzi.
Munkhaniyi, tikufuna kuyankha funsoli - koma tikukhulupiriranso kuti yankho liri mwa inu.
Choyamba, tiyeni tiwunike nkhani yomwe ili pafupi - momwe mungabweretsere zibwenzi m'banja?
Momwe mungabwezeretsere chikondi muukwati wanu
Anthu okwatirana nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti banja lawo silikukondana ngati kale. Ndiye, chifukwa chiyani kukondana kumangokwatirana? Chifukwa chiyani kulibe kukondana m'banja?
Ngakhale kuti Achimereka 88% adanena kuti chikondi ndicho chifukwa chachikulu chokwatirana, ziwopsezo zawonjezeka kwambiri.
Magwero omwe tidafunsira adaloza pazifukwa zotsatirazi komanso zifukwa zina ngati zifukwa zakuchepa kwakuchepa.
- Kukula ndikutopa ndi mnzako
- Kuchepetsa chidwi, kapena kuchuluka kwa, kugonana
- Kutayika kwa "agulugufe achikondi", kutengeka kwamanjenje komwe kumapangidwa ndi endorphins ali mchikondi
- Kusakhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima
- Kupanda chikondi
- Kusadabwa (masiku, mphatso, zochitika zosakonzekera, ndi manja okoma mtima)
- Kutenga mnzanu mopepuka
- Kusiyana, kukula, kapena kusakonda zomwe amakonda
- Wokwatiwa pazifukwa zolakwika, kukwatiwa mwachangu, kapena kukwatiwa wachichepere kwambiri
- Mnzanu wasintha
- Kusalankhulana bwino
- Sinthani zamphamvu, kapena kuchepa kwa nthawi chifukwa cha ntchito ndi zina
- Kutopa
Pali zopinga zina zambiri zomwe maanja amakumana nazo, koma zomwe zili pamwambazi ndizo zomwe zikuthandizira kwambiri pakuchepetsa kukondana.
Chifukwa chake funso lofunikira silikuyankhidwa - momwe mungabwezeretse kuyambiranso muukwati?
Kodi ndingayambitsenso chibwenzi m'banja?
Yankho la funsoli limasiyanasiyana paubale uliwonse.
Zikumveka choncho zachikondi pambuyo paukwati imayikidwa kumbuyo. Koma, palibe chifukwa choti chikondi chaukwati chitha kwathunthu pamoyo wanu.
Zina mwazomwe zimayambitsa ndizowononga kuposa zina.
Nthawi zomvetsa chisoni, kuyesa kuwonjezera kukondana muukwati kumalephera, kapena sikungapereke zomwe akufuna. Yankho loti mungayambitsenso chibwenzi chanu muukwati wanu lingayankhidwe bwino poyang'ana kaye pazomwe zikuyambitsa vutolo.
Masitepe obwezera chikondi muukwati
1. Ganizirani bwino nkhaniyo
Ganizirani zomwe mukukumana nazo, gwiritsani ntchito mndandanda womwe uli pamwambapa ngati chitsogozo, ndipo lembani omwe angakuthandizeni 1-3 akamabwera m'maganizo.
Gwiritsani ntchito mndandanda womwe uli pamwambapa ngati chitsogozo ngati mukufuna thandizo.
2. Onani zina
Yang'anani pazinthu zanu. Tsopano, alembeni iwo mozungulira kuchokera ku zoipa kupita kuzinthu zabwino.
Mwachitsanzo -
Tiyerekeze kuti kalata yanu yanena kuti "Kusakhala ndi Ubwenzi Wapamtima" - Lembani mu "Mgwirizano wamphamvu, nzeru zam'mutu, chikondi."
Mwafotokoza zomwe mukufuna kuti izi ziwoneke, kapena momwe zimawonekera pamene zinthu zinali bwino.
Kuti mupitirize pangani mawu anu abwino, ganizirani zomwe zingatenge, kapena momwe zimawonekera m'mbuyomu pomwe zinthu zinali bwino. Ngati mukukumanabe ndi mavuto, ganizirani nthawi zomwe zidalipo zokondana zambiri(kapena zilizonse zomwe muli nazo) ndipo lembani zomwe zinali zosiyana panthawiyo.
Gwiritsani ntchito mawu, zochitika, mayina a anthu, ndi mafotokozedwe ena aliwonse omwe mungaganize, omwe amalumikizana ndi kukumbukira komanso omveka kwa inu.
3. Dziwani kuti ndi pati
Tsopano zindikirani zinthu zomwe zakuthandizani kumva zachikondi kapena malingaliro abwino, zochita kapena zochita zomwe mwatchula mu gawo lanu # 2.
Kodi nthawi zimenezo zinali zotani? Nchiyani chinakupangitsani kuti muzimva kuti ndinu ogwirizana? Kodi anthuwa anali ndani m'miyoyo yanu? Ndi malingaliro otani, zochitika, mikhalidwe, kapena mikhalidwe iti yomwe idalipo yomwe idakupangitsani inu kumukonda munthuyo?
Lembani mayankho awa mwachangu, osaganizira kwambiri za funsolo. Mukulemba zochitika, anthu, zikhalidwe, malingaliro, kapena zinthu zina zilizonse zomwe zakugwirizanitsani mpaka nthawi yomwe munali okondwa kwambiri ndi mnzanu.
4. Pezani yankho
Zabwino zonse! Mwapeza njira yobwezera fayilo ya chikondi m'banja.
Mayankho a Gawo 3 ndiye chinsinsi cha tsogolo lanu. Tsopano muyenera kuyambiranso chilichonse chomwe chasintha. Gawo 3, mudazindikira mikhalidwe, ndi zikhalidwe zokhudzana ndi malingaliro abwino.
Tsopano muwona njira zomwe mungathe bweretsani zinthuzo kumbuyo mu ubale wanu.
Ngati sizingatheke kutero, zindikirani kuti zinthu zolumikizanazo ndi ziti, ndikuphatikizanso ndi mawu olumikizana, anthu, kapena malingaliro omwe mumalumikizana ndi malingaliro anu. Kapena bwererani ndikuwonjezera mayankho anu mpaka mutapeza zinthu zina zomwe zingayambitse njira zomwe zingachitike.
Njira yogwira ntchito ndi ntchito.
Mwachitsanzo -
Kubwezeretsa kulumikizana ndi anzanu akale inu ndi mnzanu mumakhala nthawi yayitali, mukuyambiranso machitidwe anu akale, nthawi zonse mumamupatsa mnzanu pogona.