Zamkati
- Kodi nkhani yam'maganizo ndi iti
- Chifukwa chiyani zochitika zam'mutu ndizovuta kutha
- Kodi zochitika zam'mutu zimachitika bwanji
- Zizindikiro zomwe zimakudziwitsani kuti zinthu zapita patali kwambiri
- Kukhudzana nthawi zonse
- Ndiwo munthu woyamba kugawana nawo zinthu
- Nthawi zonse mumaganizira za iwo
- Kugawana kosayenera
- Mumayamba kubisa
- Kodi kukondana kumatha kubweretsa chinyengo
- Kuthetsa chibwenzi
- Choyamba, nenani zoona
- Chotsatira, funsani zomwe mukupeza chifukwa chazakugonana
- Pomaliza, yesani
- Njira 15 zothetsera chibwenzi.
- 1. Zindikirani zomwe zachitikazo
- 2. Osabwerera m'mbuyo
- 3. Kuthetsa chibwenzi
- 4. Khalani oona mtima
- 5. Yembekezerani zoyipa kwambiri
- 6. Kudula iwo
- 7. Lekani kusokosera
- 8. Mvetsetsani zowawa za mnzanu
- 9. Phatikizani mlangizi
- 10. Kudzisamalira
- 11. Onetsani kutengapo mbali muubwenzi
- 12. Chitani khama kwambiri kwa mnzanu
- 13. Khulupirirani ntchitoyi
- 14. Kupeza madera omwe zinthu zikuyenda bwino
- 15. Khalani kutali ndi zoyambitsa
- Tengera kwina
Kodi mukukhala paubwenzi wapamtima ndi munthu wina osati mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu? Chibwenzi kunja kwa banja chomwe sichiphatikizapo kugonana koma kukondana kwambiri?
Zikuwoneka kuti muli pachibwenzi. Chibwenzi cham'malingaliro sichimangobweretsa nkhawa komanso chimadzetsa liwongo lalikulu chifukwa mwayamba kale kudzipereka. Koma kodi ndi mtundu wina wosakhulupirika?
Tiyeni tiwone pazomwe zimayambitsa zochitika zam'malingaliro ndikukambirana momwe tingathetsere chibwenzicho.
Kodi nkhani yam'maganizo ndi iti
Nkhani yamalingaliro ndiubwenzi wopitilira muyeso womwe wasintha kukhala chinthu china. Ngakhale kuti kugonana sikuli gawo la zochitika zam'maganizo, pali kuyandikana, kulumikizana, kumverera kuti mukuwonedwa ndikumvetsetsa komwe mwamwambo umasungidwa kwa okwatirana okha.
Chibwenzi chamalingaliro ndikupereka malingaliro kwa wina yemwe ayenera kusungidwira wokondedwa wanu. Mutha kukhala mukuganiza momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi.
Chifukwa chiyani zochitika zam'mutu ndizovuta kutha
Zinthu zomwe mumakumana nazo ndizovuta kutha chifukwa zimatha kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu ofunika, makamaka ngati simukumva choncho m'banja lanu. Koma mukufuna kuthana ndi chibwenzi, ndipo tikuwonetsani momwe.
M'malo mwake, zochitika m'maganizo zimakhala zovuta kutha poyerekeza ndi zochitika zogonana.
Chibwenzi chogonana chimakhala chosavuta kuchidula bwinobwino. Ngati kuchita zibwenzi ndi anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi kongofuna kugonana, chomangacho sichimangokhala chamalingaliro.
Koma pachibwenzi, mwakhala ndi malingaliro ozama, ofunika, ndipo mumasangalala ndi ubale wabwino ndi munthu amene mukumukonda. Izi zitha kukhala zovuta kuzisiya, makamaka ngati simukuyanjana ndi mnzanu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kuli kovuta kuthetsa chibwenzi.
Shirley Glass adalengeza Osangokhala “Anzanu” kuti 44% ya amuna ndi 57% ya akazi adawonetsa kuti muzochitika zawo, anali ndi chidwi chamunthu wina ndi mnzake osagonana.
Kodi zochitika zam'mutu zimachitika bwanji
Nthawi zambiri zochitika zam'maganizo zimayamba mosazindikira. Si zachilendo kwa ife tonse, ngakhale anthu apabanja apamtima, kukhala ndi anzathu omwe simunakwatirane nawo. M'malo mwake, ndi wathanzi. Kupanga mnzanu kukhala bwenzi lanu komanso bwenzi lanu lokhalo kumatha kuyambitsa mavuto pachibwenzi.
Ndiye, nchiyani chimayambitsa zinthu kutha?
Chifukwa chake, kukhala ndi anzanu akunja, anthu omwe mumakonda kuchita nawo zinthu zomwe mwina mnzanu sangasangalale nazo, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zabwino.
Malingana ngati malire ali m'malo.
Koma bwanji ngati kunja, ubwenzi wabwino uyamba kutenga gawo lalikulu m'moyo wanu? Kodi mungatani ngati mukukumana ndi chiyembekezo chogwiritsa ntchito nthawi, pamoyo weniweni kapena pa intaneti, ndi munthuyu? Umu ndi momwe zochitika zam'malingaliro zimakhalira.
Mukutembenukira kwa munthu uyu zochulukirapo chifukwa chachikondi ndi chithandizo chomwe muyenera kupeza kuchokera kwa mnzanu. Mumayamba kugawana zinthu zapamtima zomwe zimasungidwira banja lanu. Mukupatsa mphamvu munthu wina osati mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu, zomwe zimawononga "mphamvu yakukwati".
Izi zimalanda mnzanu zomwe akuyenera kulandira kuchokera kwa inu.
Nthawi ina, mumazindikira kuti mphamvu zomwe mumapereka pazazakudya zanu ndizovulaza mnzanu. Mukudabwa momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi.
Onani kanemayo kuti mumvetsetse magawo abodza:
Zizindikiro zomwe zimakudziwitsani kuti zinthu zapita patali kwambiri
Sikovuta kuwona zizindikilo zakuti nkhani yamalingaliro yapita patali kwambiri.
Choyamba, mwina simukufuna kuvomereza malo omwe nkhani yamalingaliro iyi ikukhala mmoyo wanu. Mumadziuza nokha kuti bola ngati zinthu sizinaloŵe m'malo ogonana, zonse zili bwino. Sikuti mukukhala osakhulupirika.
Chibwenzi cha plato chimaloledwa kunja kwa banja, sichoncho? Simukugona ndi munthu winayo, ndiye kuti palibe vuto, sichoncho?
Izi ndi zinthu zomwe mumadziuza nokha chifukwa mumadziwa mumtima mwanu kuti ngakhale simunanyengerere mnzanu, izi sizabwino kwa wokondedwa wanu. Mukudziwa pansi pamtima kuti muyenera kudziwa momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi.
Choipa chokhudza kukondana kwambiri ndi munthu wina yemwe si mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu ndikuti kumakusokonezani inu. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti ndi nthawi yothetsa chibwenzi.
Nazi zina mwazizindikiro zakuti kukondana kwapitirira kwambiri:
Mumalumikizana ndi mnzanu wapamtima nthawi zonse, mwinanso kuposa mnzanu. Ma memes oseketsa omwe adatumizidwa kudzera pa WhatsApp, SMS yofunsa zomwe akudya nkhomaliro, amakonda zolemba zawo pa Facebook ndi Instagram atangomwalira.
Inunso mumalankhulana pafupipafupi tsiku lonse komanso ngakhale usiku.
Kodi muli ndi nkhani zosangalatsa? Mumatumizirana mameseji ndi mnzanu pamaso pa wina aliyense. Tsiku loipa? Mumawonekera kwa iwo osati kwa mnzanu. Kulankhulana kwanu ndi mnzanu kumakhala kachiwiri.
Mutha kudzipatsa nokha chowiringula choti mnzanuyo sakupezeka pazokambirana kapena munthu yemwe mukumachita naye zachikondi nthawi zonse amakhala, koma izi zitha kukhala chimodzi mwazizindikiro zakukondana.
Kuganizira za iwo kumakupatsani chimwemwe. Zimakupangitsani kupita patsogolo, ndipo mukumva kuti palibe cholakwika chifukwa simunayambe kuchita nawo poyera.
Mumavala m'mawa mukuwaganizira. Mwinanso mumakhala ndi malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana nawo. Akakhala pachibwenzi ndi anthu ena, umamva nsanje.
Kuuza anzanu zinsinsi ndichinthu chomwe aliyense amachita.
Komabe, zinsinsi zaubwenzi sizomwe wina aliyense kupatula inu ndi mnzanuyo muyenera kudziwa. Komabe, mumakambirana nkhani zokhudzana ndi mnzanu wapamtima, monga mavuto omwe mungakhale nawo ndi mnzanu.
Chifukwa mumadziwa kuti kuyandikana kwanu ndi munthuyu sikoyenera, mumabisa zinthu kwa mnzanu.
Mutha kuchotsa mauthenga kapena maimelo. Kubisa uku ndi mbendera yofiira chifukwa mukudziwa kuti mnzanuyo sangakhale bwino ndi momwe mungasinthire ndi munthuyu.
Kodi kukondana kumatha kubweretsa chinyengo
Ngati mukuganiza kuti kukopana kungayambitse chinyengo, yankho ndi inde.
Uwu ndiye chiwopsezo chenicheni chokhudza kukondana komanso chifukwa chake muyenera kudziwa momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi.
Zochitika pamtima zikuchitika chifukwa simulumikizana bwino ndi mnzanu. Pali mzere wochepa pakati pakugawana chibwenzi ndi wina yemwe si mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu ndikupita kukachita zachiwerewere, makamaka ngati simukumva kuti mukukwanitsidwa ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.
Zochitika pamtima zimatha kubweretsa chinyengo chifukwa zimayesa kuwoloka malire mukamatseguka mwamalingaliro ndikupanga malingaliro ndi munthuyu. Onjezani kukopa kwakuthupi ndi kutengeka mu kusakanikirana, ndipo kugwera pabedi sikutali kwambiri.
Kuthetsa chibwenzi
Kuthetsa chibwenzi kungakhale kovuta chifukwa mungamve kuti simukuchita nawo. Komabe, kuvomereza ndichinsinsi choyamba ndipo mukachita, mupeza njira yothetsera chibwenzi. Onani iwo:
Khalani ndi chenicheni chakuti mulidi ndi vuto lomwe limakhudza banja lanu. Vomerezani kuti mukudzifunsa momwe mungathetsere zokondanazi.
Kodi ndikungoti wina watsopano akukuganizirani? Kodi pali china chomwe chikusowa muubwenzi wanu ndi mnzanu? Kodi mumaona kuti munthuyu amakumvetsani kwambiri kuposa mnzanu?
Kodi mukufuna kukhala ndi wokondedwayo, kapena mukufuna kuyambiranso ukwati wanu? Dzifunseni nokha chifukwa chiyani ubalewu ukutanthauza zambiri kwa inu, ndipo ndi chiyani chomwe chingasowe m'moyo wanu ngati mungachilekerere? Kodi mungapeze chosowacho m'banja lanu?
Ngati mukufuna kuyambiranso banja lanu, kuthetsa chibwenzi ndikofunikira. Chibwenzi chotere chimatha kupweteketsa banja monganso chakuthupi.
Njira 15 zothetsera chibwenzi.
Nawa maupangiri amomwe mungathetsere chibwenzi
1. Zindikirani zomwe zachitikazo
Dziwani kuti mudachitapo kanthu ndikuti kuthetsa chibwenzicho kungakhale kovuta, ngakhale kuli kofunikira m'banja lanu. Mukukhala mukutsanzikana ndi munthu yemwe mwapanga naye ubale wapamtima.
2. Osabwerera m'mbuyo
Mwina mudzakhala ndi malingaliro awiri pankhaniyi. Chifukwa chaziphatikizi, mutha kuyesa kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro onse kuti musayambitse njira yolekanirana. Lekani kuyesa kudzitsimikizira kuti maubwenzi akunja awa alibe vuto.
3. Kuthetsa chibwenzi
Dziwani kuti ndizokayikitsa, ndipo moona sizabwino, kuti mupitiliza kulumikizana ndi munthuyu. Kuyimitsa kulumikizana konse ndi gawo lamomwe mungathetsere chibwenzi. Ichi chikuyenera kukhala chimodzi mwazizindikiro zowonekera kwa inu ndi munthu amene mukukhudzidwayo zomwe zikuyenera kuyima.
4. Khalani oona mtima
Khalani owona mtima kwa munthu amene mukumukonda.
Auzeni kuti mumawayamikira kwambiri komanso ndi ubale wanu ndi iwo, koma mukuzindikira kuti nthawi yomwe mumakhala nawo imawononga banja lanu. Auzeni kuti gawo lolumikizana kwanu likuwoneka ngati losayenera. Izi ndizofunikira momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi.
5. Yembekezerani zoyipa kwambiri
Khalani okonzeka kukumana ndi zomwe winayo wachita. Mwina sangasangalale ndi lingaliro lanu limodzi. Iwo angaumirire kuti palibe chilichonse chosayenera chomwe chachitika. Auzeni kuti atha kukhala chowonadi chawo, koma sichanu.
6. Kudula iwo
Letsani mnzake kuti asawone pa intaneti. Musagwirizane nawo pa Facebook, musatsatire zomwe amakonda pa Instagram, lembani nambala yawo ya foni ndi imelo. Muuzeni mnzanuyo kuti mwachita izi. Umu ndi momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi.
7. Lekani kusokosera
Osayang'ana pa intaneti kufunafuna zizindikilo za zomwe munthuyu akuchita. Khalani okonzeka kukonza zomwe zawonongedwa ndi mnzanuyo komanso banja lanu.
Osayang'ana pa intaneti mukayamba kuphonya. Dzidodometseni ndi chinthu china. Pitani kutali ndi intaneti, werengani buku, lankhulani ndi mnzanu, yendani nawo. Kuwona nkhani za munthu amene ali ndi vuto lodana ndi inu kungakuike pachiwopsezo chobwereranso muubwenzi.
8. Mvetsetsani zowawa za mnzanu
Kuthetsa nkhani yamalingaliro kumafuna kuwona mtima ndi ulemu kwa munthu winayo, kwa mnzanu, komanso kwa inu nokha. Kodi nkhani zamalingaliro zimatha bwanji? Mukadzuka ndikukhala ndi zowawa izi zikuyambitsa mnzanu komanso banja lanu.
9. Phatikizani mlangizi
Bweretsani mlangizi. Mungafunefune kupeza upangiri wa maanja ngati gawo limodzi lotha kukondana.
Kupatula apo, zochitika zam'maganizo sizinachitike mwachisawawa. China chake sichili bwino m'banja lanu. Mukamaliza kuthana, zingakhale zothandiza kuti inu ndi mnzanu muzicheza ndi mlangizi kuti mukambirane momwe izi zidachitikira komanso komwe mumachokera.
10. Kudzisamalira
Izi zikutanthauza kugwira ntchito pawekha. Yesani chithandizo chamankhwala panokha ndikusintha zina ndi zina pamoyo wanu.
Mutha kudziwa zina mwa zifukwa zomwe zidakuchititsani kuti musakhale pachibwenzi. Kugwiritsa ntchito izi ndi othandizira kungakuthandizeni kuchiritsa ndikupewa izi kuti zisadzachitikenso.
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11. Onetsani kutengapo mbali muubwenzi
Onetsani mnzanu kuti ndinu wofunitsitsa ndipo mwasintha ndalama kuti musinthe. Mudathetsa chibwenzi chifukwa mukufunitsitsadi kusintha ndikupangitsa banja kukhala losangalala.
12. Chitani khama kwambiri kwa mnzanu
Khalani ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanu woyamba. Pamene mukuyambiranso kumapeto kwa chibwenzi, muyenera kuyambiranso kupanga nthawi yanu ndi mnzanu patsogolo.
Vomerezani kuti kukonzanso chibwenzicho kumafuna khama komanso kupitiliza kuonana ndi mnzanuyo, komanso kulumikizana bwino ndikukula. Mnzanuyo ayenera kudziwa kuti mwatulukiratu pachibwenzi.
Chifukwa chake kanani maphwando oyandikana nawo pakadali pano, ndipo khalani ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanuyo.
13. Khulupirirani ntchitoyi
Tsatirani kutha kwa chibwenzi chamumtima ndiubwenzi watsopano komanso wozama ndi mnzanu.
Khalani ndi chidaliro kuti banja lanu lidzapulumuka chifukwa cha zokondanazo. Kuwona mtima kotheratu, kudzipereka kwenikweni pakuyika ndalama muukwati, ndikulimbikitsanso kulumikizana kwakuthupi ndi thupi ndi mnzanu kudzakhala gawo loti mupulumuke limodzi.
Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kuwona zizindikiro kuti chibwenzi chikutha kapena chatha.
14. Kupeza madera omwe zinthu zikuyenda bwino
Yesetsani kukwaniritsa zosowa zam'maganizo zomwe mumafuna ndi munthu wokondwererayo.
Dziwani zinthu zomwe mungafune kuti banja lanu liziwongolera m'banja lanu. Funsani mnzanuyo zomwe angafune kuti muwone zambiri muukwatiwo ndikuyamba kuzigwiritsa ntchito. Izi zisangalatsa wokondedwa wanu ,, ndipo mumasokonezedwa.
15. Khalani kutali ndi zoyambitsa
Onetsetsani kuti mdera lanu mulibe ziyeso. Pewani kucheza ndi anthu omwe ndi anzanu ndi omwe mumawakondana nawo kale. Khalani kutali ndi zochitika zilizonse zomwe zingakupangitseni kubwerera.
Lingalirani zomwe muyenera kuchita ngati yesero loti muyambenso kukondana lidzawoneka. Ngati uku ndikubwerezabwereza kwa inu, muyenera kuganizira mozama ngati mukufuna kukwatiwa kapena ayi.
Tengera kwina
Chotsatira ndi chiyani? Kutha kwa zochitika zam'maganizo
Kutuluka muubwenzi wapamtima sikophweka, ndipo kumatanthauza kutha kwa chithandizo chomwe mumakonda. Koma kuthetsa kukondana kumafunika ngati mukufuna kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino.
Limbikitsani kusirira komanso kucheza ndi mnzanu. Mwaiwala kuti mudayamba chibwenzi chanu ndi abwenzi anu ngati abwenzi? Osanyalanyaza gawo lomwe muli tsopano.
Mwa kutsatira ndondomeko zomwe zanenedwa, mudzatha kuthana ndi mavuto onsewa ndikubwerera ku banja lanu. Koma tsopano, ntchito yeniyeni iyamba: kusanthula zomwe zimayambitsa chibwenzi ndikugwiritsa ntchito ntchito yofunikira kuti banja lanu likhale losangalala komanso lokwaniritsa.