Zamkati
- 1. Pezani zinthu zofanana
- 2. Khalani ndi chidwi chenicheni mwa iye
- 3. Yesetsani kulimbitsa ubwenzi wanu
- 4. Muthokozeni
- 5. Mupangitseni kuseka
- 6. Mchitireni wapadera
- 7. Samala kaonekedwe kako
Kuuza munthu amene mumamukonda kumakhala kovuta komanso kowopsa. Msungwana aliyense ali ndi zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe amayang'ana mwa mnzake.
Ngati mukufuna kuyamba chibwenzi ndi mtsikana yemwe mumamukonda koma mukudandaula kuti samamvanso momwemo mungakhalire ndi njira ziwiri. Tsanulirani mabala anu ndikuyembekeza kuti akukondaninso kapena mutenge njira zofunikira kuti mum'konde kwambiri.
Kukhala "bwenzi wopezedwa" ndi munthu amene mumamusilira ndi chimodzi mwazomwe zimakhumudwitsa kwambiri padziko lapansi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake timayang'ana maupangiri asanu ndi awiri amomwe mungapangire kuti mtsikana akugwereni pomwe samakukondani
1. Pezani zinthu zofanana
Ngakhale zili zowona kuti zotsutsana zimakopa, kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti zochitika zomwe zimagawidwa zimalimbikitsa kukondana.
Ngati mukufuna kupangitsa mtsikana kukugwerani pomwe samakukondani, muyenera kuyesetsa kupeza zomwe mungagwirizane naye. Ndi zosangalatsa ziti zomwe mumagawana? Kodi mumaganiza chimodzimodzi?
Ngati simukupeza kulumikizana, musataye chiyembekezo! Mutha kupeza zomwe mungagwirizane nazo ngati mungakhale ndi chidwi ndi zomwe amakonda komanso kumuwonetsa zanu. Ngati atenga chida, bwanji osamupempha kuti akuphunzitseni kusewera? Iyi ndi njira yosangalatsa komanso yachikondi yolumikizirana ndi kuswa kwanu.
2. Khalani ndi chidwi chenicheni mwa iye
Chimodzi mwamaubwenzi akulu kwambiri amomwe mungapangire mtsikana kukugwerani pomwe samakukondani ndikumakhala ndi chidwi chenicheni ndi iye. Tengani nthawi yakumudziwa pomufunsa mafunso omasuka.
Funsani za moyo wake, ubale wakale, banja lake, abwenzi, kapena zolinga zake zamtsogolo.
Atsikana amatha kudziwa ngati mnyamata alibe chidwi ndi zomwe akunena, onetsetsani kuti mukumupatsa chidwi. Nodi kapena kulowererapo pamene akuyankhula kuti mumusonyeze kuti mukumveradi.
3. Yesetsani kulimbitsa ubwenzi wanu
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti maanja amakhala achimwemwe kwambiri akakhala mabwenzi apamtima. M'malo mwake, "kuchitira wokondedwa wako ngati bwenzi lako lapamtima" kudabwera mu kafukufukuyu waku Australia wonena zaukwati ngati chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu kwambiri pakukhalitsa kwaubwenzi. Mutha kukhala bwenzi labwino mwa:
Bwenzi labwino ndi munthu amene amamvetsera. Pamene mnzanuyo akuyesera kukuwuzani kanthu, muwonetseni chidwi chanu chonse.
Anzanga amasamalira. Mufunseni kuti tsiku lake lili bwanji ndipo muwonetseni kuti mumalemekeza malingaliro ake.
Muchitireni zinthu zabwino. Anzanu amakonda kukondwerera kupambana kwa anzawo ndipo amayang'ana njira zazing'ono zomwetulirana.
Khalani ndi chidwi chake m'malingaliro. Kungakhale kovuta kukhala ndi chidwi chake m'malingaliro mukamumvera chifukwa nthawi zina chidwi chake chimatha kutanthauza kuti simukukhala nanu pakadali pano. Muwonetseni kuti mumamuthandiza pazinthu zonse.
Khalani owona mtima kwa iye. Mabwenzi abwino ndi oona mtima komanso odalirika. Izi sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kupita kukataya mtima wanu pokonda iye, koma zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumulemekeza komanso kusunga zinsinsi zake. Amayamikira khalidweli mwa inu.
Chitirani zinthu limodzi. Anzanu apamtima amasangalala limodzi. Konzani zochitika zodabwitsa monga kupita ulendo wamlungu ndi gulu la anzanu, ndikupita kumalo owonera zakale, kanema, konsati, kapena chiwonetsero. Kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa (zomwe zimapanganso zinthu za 'coupley') kumamupangitsa kuti asamaganize zokhala pachibwenzi ndi inu.
Awa ndi nsonga yopepuka koma yayikulu yopangitsa mtsikana kukugwerani pomwe samakukondani.
4. Muthokozeni
Ziyenera kupita osanena kuti ngati mukufuna kukopa msungwana wamaloto anu ndikutuluka pagulu la anzanu, muyenera kufotokoza zolinga zanu momveka bwino.
Njira imodzi yochitira izi ndikumuyamika. Muuzeni kuti ndi wokongola, muuzeni zomwe mumakonda za iye, ndipo muuzeni zabwino zomwe amachita mokometsa. Adzakonda chidwi ndipo adzakhudzidwa chifukwa mwazindikira zinthu izi za iye.
Ngati simungathe kudikira kuti mufotokozere zakukhosi kwanu iyi ndi njira yabwino yopangira mtsikana kukugwerani pomwe samakukondani.
5. Mupangitseni kuseka
Amuna amakonda kuseka, ndipo akazi amakonda kuseka. Pankhani yoti mtsikana azikukondani, kuseka nthawi zonse ndi mankhwala abwino kwambiri.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kugawana kuseka kumapangitsa maanja kukhala osangalala komanso kuthandizidwa muubwenzi wawo. Osanenapo, maanja omwe amaseka limodzi amatha kukhala limodzi kuposa omwe satero.
Mutha kupangitsa mwana wanu wamkazi kuseka mwa kusewera mozungulira, kumuseka modekha, ndikupanga "nthabwala zamkati" zachinsinsi. Izi zikuthandizani kulumikizana limodzi.
Kuseketsa mtsikana ndiye njira yopita kumtima kwake. Umu ndi momwe mungapangire kuti mtsikana agwere kwa inu pomwe samakukondani.
6. Mchitireni wapadera
Sitiyenera kudabwa kuti imodzi mwamaupangiri abwino achikondi omwe angakupangitseni kuti mumukonde ndikumuchita ngati chinthu chapadera.
Njira imodzi yochitira izi ndi kukopana naye. Yesetsani kumuseka, kumugwira dzanja, kumugwira dzanja, kutsuka tsitsi lake pankhope pake, kumunyoza mokoma kapena kumusangalatsa.
Ndibwino kukumbukira kuti kukopana ndi talente yomwe iyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito mosamala. Ngati akuwona mukukopa msungwana aliyense amene mwakumana naye, zimupangitsa kuti azimva kuperewera mukamayesa kukopana naye. Kapenanso angaganize kuti ndiwe munthu wongochita masewera osakondera ndipo sangakutengere mozama mukamamuyesa chibwenzi.
Ngati mukufuna kupangitsa mtsikana kukugwerani pomwe samakukondani-muyenera kuyamba ndi kukopana kuti mumugwire.
7. Samala kaonekedwe kako
Sizachilendo kunena kuti atsikana amafuna kukopeka ndi munthu amene ali naye pachibwenzi. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti uzisamala mawonekedwe ako. Amafuna kukhala pafupi ndi munthu yemwe amawoneka wotentha komanso wonunkhira bwino.
Kupangitsa kuti wina azikukonda sizitanthauza kuti uyenera kukhala masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena kusintha mawonekedwe ako, koma lingakhale lingaliro labwino kusamalira ukhondo wako. Tsukani mano musanapachikike ndi kuphwanya kwanu, kusamba, kumeta, kumeta tsitsi lanu ndi kuvala zonunkhiritsa kapena zonunkhira ngati ndichinthu chomwe amakonda.
Kupangitsa mtsikana kukugwerani pomwe samakukondani, izi ndizochepa zomwe mungachite.
Mutha kupanga kugwa pansi kwanu chifukwa chokhala ndi chidwi chenicheni ndi iye, kukhala wachikondi, ndikupanga maziko ozama aubwenzi. Ngati mtsikana sakukukondani pambuyo pa malangizo odabwitsawa, mulibe mwayi ndipo ndi nthawi yoti musunthire.