Zamkati
- 1. Kusokonezeka maganizo
- 2. Kuopa kukanidwa
- 3. Akuganizabe zakugonana kwawo
- 4. Wokhazikika mu ubale wakale
- 5. Ali ndi nkhani zachuma
- 6. Ufulu wochita zomwe akufuna
- 7. Zinthu zina zofunika kwambiri
- 8. Osakhoza kumva chikondi
- 9. Zitsanzo zoipa kulikonse
Kodi mungalingalire dziko lapansi momwe anthu alibe chidwi chofuna kukondana? Zovuta kuti mumvetse izi, sichoncho? Pali gawo limodzi la anthu omwe amasankha kukhala osakwatira.
Osangoti "kupuma pang'ono kuchokera ku maubale" koma osakwatira. Ndi munthu wamtundu wanji amene amadziuza yekha kuti, 'Sindikufuna kuyamba chibwenzi?' Tiyeni tiwone chodabwitsa ichi.
Pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe mwamuna ndi mkazi angasankhire kukhala osakwatira.
1. Kusokonezeka maganizo
Munthu sangafune konse kukondana chifukwa adakumana ndi zoopsa kapena adawona zoopsa kunyumba. Zovuta zaubwana zalumikizidwa ndi matenda amisala komanso thanzi.
Mwana yemwe wakulira m'banja lankhanza atha kumuuza kuti safuna kukondana atawona momwe ubale wawo ndi makolo wawo ulili: kukalipira, kufuula, kulira, kumenya, kutsutsa kosalekeza, komanso kusasangalala konse.
Kukula ndichitsanzo cholakwika chotere cha ubale womwe umayenera kukhala wachikondi ndikokwanira kutsimikizira mwana kuti sakufuna kukondana.
2. Kuopa kukanidwa
Munthu angadziuze yekha kuti asakondane chifukwa sanakhazikike mtima. Mwina adakondana kamodzi kapena kawiri m'moyo wawo, koma zinthu zidatha molakwika, ndipo adakanidwa.
Kwa anthu ambiri, zonsezi ndi gawo lamasewera achikondi, ndipo amakhala olimba mtima kudzera muzochitikazi. Amadziwa kuti nthawi ichiritsa zopwetekazo.
Koma kwa ena, kuopa kukanidwa ndichimodzi mwazifukwa zoti musakondane. Zowawa zakukanidwa zili zambiri kwa iwo, chifukwa chake amadzisiya okha posankha kukhala mbeta kwamuyaya osayika pachiwopsezo.
Ngakhale atakhala kuti ali ndi malingaliro otere, amatha kunena kuti "Sindikufuna kukukondani" ngakhale wina atawachita chidwi.
3. Akuganizabe zakugonana kwawo
Ngati munthu akufunsabe zakugonana kwawo, atha kukhala kuti sakufuna kuyamba kukondana. Kukondana ndi munthu m'modzi kumachepetsa zisankho zawo, ndipo atha kukhala ndi nthawi yoyeserera zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana zakugonana.
4. Wokhazikika mu ubale wakale
"Sindikufunanso kukondana" - ndikumverera komwe munthu amakhala nako pomwe adakalibe kale.
Munthu woteroyo anali ndi chikondi chakuya komanso chofunikira m'mbuyomu, ndipo sangathe kupita mtsogolo. Amakhalabe omangika, amakondabe wakale, ngakhale ubalewo watha kwakanthawi.
Samadzilola kuti ayambenso kukondana chifukwa zingatanthauze kuti palibenso mwayi wobwereranso ndi munthu amene akuganiza kuti ndiye chikondi chawo chenicheni.
Izi zitha kukhala zowoneka bwino kwambiri, ndipo munthu amene adakhalapo m'mbuyomu angafunikire chithandizo chaukadaulo kuti aphunzire momwe angadzilole ndikudziloletsanso kukondanso.
Onaninso: Momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi.
5. Ali ndi nkhani zachuma
Ngati mulibe gwero la ndalama, mutha kusankha kuti musakondane. Kwa inu itha kukhala nkhani ya "Sindikufuna kukondana chifukwa sindingathe kuyika pachibwenzi."
Mumadandaula za momwe mungakhalire pachibwenzi pomwe simungakwanitse kupita ndi mnzanu kukadya kapena kuwawononga ndi mphatso nthawi ndi nthawi.
Mumadandaula kuti mudzawonedwa ngati otsika mtengo kapena osagwira ntchito. Mumasankha kuti musakondane, mpaka mutha kuyambiranso ndalama.
6. Ufulu wochita zomwe akufuna
"Sindikufuna kukondana chifukwa sindikufuna kumangiriridwa." Tonsefe timadziwa wina wotero, sichoncho? Wosindikiza motsatira.
Amasangalala ndi maubale opepuka koma safuna kuti zinthu zifike poipa, chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti sangachite zomwe akufuna panthawi yomwe akufuna.
Anthu ena amasankha kukhala osakwatira chifukwa ufulu wawo ndiwofunika kwambiri kwa iwo ndipo amaganiza kuti kulumikizana mosasunthika kumatha kutenga izi. Sali okonzeka kupanga zokambirana zomwe sizingapeweke zomwe ubale wachikondi umafunikira.
Samafuna udindo wokhala ndi ubale wabwino. Kwa iwo omwe amafunikira chikondi monga momwe amafunikira oxygen, kusankha kukhala wosakwatira kwanthawi zonse pazifukwa izi kumawoneka kwachilendo. Koma bola munthuyo akhale woona mtima ndi omwe angakhale nawo pachibwenzi, munthu sangadzudzule zosankha zawo.
7. Zinthu zina zofunika kwambiri
Anthu ena amakhalabe osakwatira chifukwa miyoyo yawo ili ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri osati chikondi. Kugwa mchikondi sichinthu chachikulu kwa iwo.
Ophunzira adadzipereka pamaphunziro awo, akatswiri achichepere omwe amafunikira kudzionetsera kuntchito kuti athe kukwera makwerero ogwira ntchito, anthu osamalira makolo odwala, oyenda padziko lonse lapansi omwe akufuna kuwona mayiko ndi zikhalidwe zambiri momwe angathere asanakhazikike.
Izi ndi zifukwa zomveka zosakondera anthu awa chifukwa akufuna kuyang'ana kwambiri pazomwe akuchita ndipo sayenera kuthera nthawi ndi mphamvu kuubwenzi wachikondi, pakadali pano.
8. Osakhoza kumva chikondi
Anthu ena samadutsa magawo ena otukuka, ndipo zotsatira zake ndikuti sangathe kumva chikondi chachikulu.
Amakonda kugonana, ndipo amakonda kucheza ndi anzawo, koma samakondana chifukwa sangathe. Silo funso loti musakumane ndi munthu woyenera. Anthu awa alibe luso lopanga chibwenzi chachikondi ndi munthu wina. Amatha kunena kuti "Sindikufuna kukondana" ali pachibwenzi kapena nthawi zina ndichinthu chomwe amadziwa pansi pamtima kapena amavutika kuti amvetsetse.
9. Zitsanzo zoipa kulikonse
“Osakondana!” mnzako wapamtima amakuuza. Nthawi zonse zimathera pomwepo. ” Mukuwona maanja ambiri osasangalala kotero kuti mukuwona kuti ndibwino kuti musakondane koposa kukhala mu ubale woopsa.
Chifukwa chake pali zifukwa zina zosakondera. Koma pamapeto pake, limafunsa funso: kodi moyo ungakhale bwanji popanda zokoma zomwe chikondi chakuya, chodzipereka chimatulutsa?