Zamkati
- 1. Pezani ntchito yabwino
- 2. Pangani malo oti mukhale ndi nthawi yanokha
- 3. Pemphani thandizo
- 4. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yabwino ndi ana
Kukhala kholo lokha lokha kwa mwana kwinaku mukuyenera kusamalira maudindo osamalira banja ndi zonse zomwe mumagula si ntchito yophweka.
Nthawi zambiri, zimabweretsa moyo wopanda thanzi komanso wopanikiza, osati kwa kholo lokha komanso kwa mwana.
Amayi ambiri amakakamizidwa kukhala mayi wosakwatiwa malinga ndi momwe zinthu zilili, ndipo ngakhale amayi ochepa amakhala amayi osakwatiwa posankha, mosakayikira ndichinthu chovuta kuthana nacho.
Kafukufuku wina adawonetsa kuti azimayi ambiri ogwira ntchito akukumana ndi zovuta polowetsa ntchito ndi mabanja chifukwa chothinana kwambiri pantchito, nthawi yocheperako, komanso kufunika kokwaniritsa zomwe ena amawayembekezera.
Maudindo omwe mumagawana ndi mnzanu mwadzidzidzi amagwera m'manja mwanu. Mwadzidzidzi, muyenera kukhala bambo komanso mayi kwa ana anu.
Muyenera kusamalira moyo wawo ndikuyang'anitsitsa kukula kwawo bwino ndikuwononga ndalama zonse zomwe muyenera kupeza kuti zikuthandizireni kukhala moyo wotopetsawu!
Kwenikweni ndi cholimba kuyenda kwa azimayi ambiri osakwatiwa padziko lonse lapansi.
Zambiri zimatengera kuchuluka kwa ana omwe muli nawo komanso zaka zawo. Kwa munthu aliyense, ndi nkhani yosiyana ponseponse, ndipo palibe amene angakupatseni 'yankho limodzi lamatsenga,' lomwe lingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zovuta zakulimbana ndi moyo wa amayi.
Chifukwa chake, kumakhala kofunikira kuti mutha kusintha kusintha komwe kukukuzungulirani ndikupeza yankho lomwe lingathandize kwambiri pamavuto a amayi osakwatiwa.
Onaninso:
Muyenera kudzimana zambiri panjira, koma chifukwa cha mwana wanu, mudzatha kudzipereka.
Yankho la moyo wokhala mayi wosakwatiwa limakhalabe ndi thanzi pakati pa - thanzi lamunthu, banja, ndi chisamaliro cha ana, & ntchito yanu.
Chifukwa chake zimakhala zofunika kwambiri kuti mudzikonzekeretse ndikuwona zomwe mukufuna patsogolo.
Nawa maupangiri a amayi osakwatiwa omwe angakuthandizeni kupeza malire pakati pa ntchito ndi nyumba.
1. Pezani ntchito yabwino
Kugwira ntchito kuti muthandize mwana wanu ndizotsimikizika. Popeza ndalama zonse zakunyumba zimadalira inu, ndiudindo womwe sungachedwetsedwe ngakhale mutakhala ndi mwana wanu.
Tsopano, mayi wopanda mayi kupeza ntchito yabwino yomwe ingakupatseni nthawi yabwino yocheza ndi mwana wanu komanso kumamupezera ndalama zokwanira kusamalira banja ndipo ndalama zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito ndichinthu chosatheka.
Pamapeto pake, mudzakhala amene mudzayenera kusintha kuti mukhale oyenera moyo womwe mumakhala nawo.
Chonde musandimasulire molakwika! Mutha kupeza ntchito yomwe mumakonda ndipo nthawi yomweyo, kucheza ndi ana anu, koma monga ndidanenera, muyenera kuyenda pa chingwe cholimba.
Nthawi zambiri mumayenera kudzipereka pa banja lanu chifukwa chantchito yanu kapena mosinthana ndi vuto mukakhala ndi vuto labanja.
Ntchito yomwe muli nayo idzakhudzanso momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanu ndi ana anu.
Kukhala ndi ntchito yantchito kumatanthauza ntchito 9 mpaka 5, komanso zimapangitsanso kupatukana pakati pa ntchito ndi nyumba; kotero, ngati muli anzeru, mutha kupereka nthawi kwa mwana wanu osadandaula za ntchito yanu.
Kumbali inayi, kugwira ntchito ngati freelancer kapena kugwira ntchito kunyumba kumakupatsani mwayi wocheza ndi ana anu.
Komabe, sizingakhale zofunikira kalikonse ngati simungathe kulinganiza ntchito yanu ndi udindo wanu monga mayi.
Ntchito iliyonse ili ndi zofunikira zake. Koma zitha kuthandiza kwambiri ngati mungalankhule ndi manejala wanu kapena aliyense amene mukugwira naye ntchito, ndikuwapangitsa kuti amvetsetse udindo wanu.
Anthu ambiri amakonda kuthandiza ena, ndipo mutha kuwatsimikizira kuti ntchito yanu singasokonezeke ngati mungaloledwe nthawi yocheperako yamaofesi. Ndikhulupirire. Palibe vuto kufunsa.
2. Pangani malo oti mukhale ndi nthawi yanokha
Monga mayi wopanda kholo, Ndikofunikanso kuti musaiwale kudzipatsa nthawi yopuma.
Pokangana pakati pa ntchito, nyumba, ndi mwana, mutha kuyiwala kusamalira moyo wanu.
Nthawi zambiri kuchuluka kwa ntchito sikukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yoti "ine", koma zomwe muyenera kumvetsetsa ndikuti thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe ndi thupi ndilofunika.
Kunyalanyaza zosowa zathu kumatha kudzetsa nkhawa komanso kusakhutira, zomwe pang'onopang'ono zimayamba kukhudza moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku, zomwe zingasokoneze ubale wanu ndi mwana wanu komanso mtundu wa ntchito yanu.
Ngati mungathe kukonza moyo wanu wokwanira kuti mupatse nthawi yopuma, ndiye kuti mukuzichita bwino.
Simuyenera kuthera mphindi iliyonse yaulere kuntchito kwanu ndi ana anu. Muyenera kupeza njira zodzithandizira ku mavuto onse omwe mumakhala nawo sabata limodzi.
Kupeza zosangalatsa kapena zochitika zina zitha kukuthandizani kuti musangalale. Koma mukufunikirabe kutuluka m'nyumba nthawi ina.
Muyenera kumasula mtolo, womwe umangogwera pamutu mukangolowa mnyumba.
Pitani panja, muzicheza, tengani zakumwa zingapo ndi anzanu, pitani kocheza, kambiranani ndi munthu chilichonse chomwe chimakusangalatsani.
Kudziyanjanitsa ndi izi kudzatsitsimutsa nthawi yanu yotanganidwa. Mutha kulembanso munthu woti azilera ana kuti asamade nkhawa za iwo nthawi yonseyi.
Kapenanso mutha kufunsa oyandikana nawo nyumba kapena anzanu kuti aziwasamalira. Izi zimandibweretsanso ku mfundo yanga yotsatira.
3. Pemphani thandizo
Palibe manyazi kupempha thandizo. Simunthu wopambana yemwe amayenera kutenga udindo uliwonse pa iyemwini.
Si kufooka kupempha thandizo, komanso kunyada kwanu sikungamusangalatse mwana wanu. Kudzidalira kwambiri kudzakupweteketsani inuyo komanso mwana wanu m'kupita kwanthawi.
Komanso, ganizirani zomwe mungachite mutadwala? Simuli loboti. Ndinu munthu woyenera kusangalala.
Anthu okuzungulirani nthawi zambiri amakhala achibadwa ndipo amakhala okonzeka nthawi zonse kuthandiza.
Anzanu ndi abale anu onse adzakhala achimwemwe chifukwa cha kuwakhulupilira kwanu, ndipo adzatsimikizika kuti inunso mukuchita bwino. Chimene chimakhalapo chifukwa chofunsa thandizo ndi "kulakwa kwa mayi wopanda bambo."
Mungamve kuti mukulephera kuthandiza mwana wanu choncho muyenera kupempha thandizo, kuti simukuchitira mwana wanu zokwanira komanso kuti mukudzikonda.
Mudzadziimba mlandu chifukwa chosakhala kholo labwino kwa mwana wanu. Koma ndikhulupirireni, kudziimba mlandu uku sikungakuthandizeni kapena mwana wanu. Kumva kuti wolakwa ndi wabwinobwino, koma uyeneranso kukhala wowona mtima.
Dziyamikireni nokha, pazomwe mumachita bwino, ndikuyamikira cholakwa chanu. Nthawi zina kudziika patsogolo kapena ntchito yanu kuposa ana anu kumakhala bwino, ndipo pamapeto pake, mumawachitira izi.
4. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yabwino ndi ana
Tsopano choyambirira komanso chachikulu ndi ana anu. Ngakhale ntchito yanu ndi yotani, ndikofunikira kuti mumathera nthawi yabwino ndi ana anu.
Pakadali nthawi yabwino, sindikutanthauza kuti mumagwiritsa ntchito laputopu yanu kapena mafoni mukamapereka theka la khutu ku zomwe mwana wanu akunena kapena kuchita, koma kuwayang'anira ndi kuwakonda kuti azigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu kuchita zinthu ndi iwo.
Apititseni ku nkhomaliro, mverani zomwe zikuchitika kusukulu yawo ndi zatsopano zomwe aphunzira, pitani kumipikisano yovina kapena masewera ampira.
Inde, monga mayi wopanda bambo, simungathe kuchita zonsezi ngakhale mutafuna, choncho perekani zomwe zimapangitsa mwana wanu kukhala wosangalala.
Muyeneranso kukumbukira momwe mumachitira pozungulira iwo; ana amaphunzira kutengera chitsanzo cha makolo awo.
Kotero, khalani ndi nthawi yokwanira yocheza nawo ndikusangalala ndikuwakonda. Ndipo kumwetulira!
Lolani ana anu kudziwa kuti ndinu okondwa nawo limodzi ndipo musawapangitse kumva ngati mtolo.
Ngakhale ana samazimvetsetsa, amatha kuzimva, choncho yesetsani kuiwala nkhawa zomwe muli nazo.
Kusinthasintha kwamomwe mumachitira ndi ana anu kumathandizanso kwambiri. Muyenera kukumbukira kuti si maloboti, komanso satsatira zomwe mwapanga.
Amakonda kuchita zosemphana ndi kuphwanya malamulo, chifukwa chake muyenera kungopeza njira yothanirana ndi izi.
Kungakhale kovuta kukhala ndi mwana wosamvera (ndipo ana ndi osalamulirika monga lamulo) omwe amafuna kuti muzisamala nawo nthawi zonse, koma nthawi zonse samalani kuti musamakhumudwitse mwana wanu, si njira yabwino kwambiri yosankhira konse.
Chofunikira kumapeto ndikuti mupitilize kuwakonda ndikuwadziwitsa kuti amakondedwa.
Monga mayi wosakwatiwa, muyenera kudzipereka kwambiri ndikukwaniritsa zolakwa zambiri.
Ndi ntchito yomwe imafunika mtima wonse kuti ichitike. Koma kumbukirani kuti simuli nokha. Nthawi zonse pamakhala ena okuthandizani, ndipo kupitirira apo, muyenera kuvomereza zolephera zanu ndikupitabe patsogolo.
Monga mayi wopanda ana wogwira ntchito, sipadzakhala kulekanitsika pakati pa moyo wanu wakunyumba ndi nyumba yanu.
Amadziphatika nthawi ina kapena ina, koma muyenera kupanga malire anu pakati pa ziwirizi, ndipo ndi kwa inu momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito bwino.
Mapeto ake, palibe amene amadziwa kapena kukonda mwana wanu kuposa inu.