Zamkati
- Kodi nkhanza ndi chiyani?
- Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji kuti ndi nkhanza osati mavuto wamba?
- Zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira
- Kodi mungatani?
Kulankhula za nkhanza, makamaka kuzunza m'mabanja opatulika, ndizovuta. Mkhalidwe uliwonse, munthu, ndi ubale zimasiyanasiyana munjira zingapo. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kufananizira machitidwe ndi machitidwe a anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi chimodzi ndi ena. Komabe, pali zina zodziwika bwino zomwe zitha kuthandiza kuzindikira kuzunzidwa mukamakondana.
Kuwonjezeka kwaukwati kumatha kupangitsa kuti kuyandikira mutu woloza kukwaniritsa kukhala kovuta kwambiri. Ukwati ndi mgwirizano wovomerezeka ndipo nthawi zambiri umapangitsa kuti zizioneka zovuta kuvomereza kuzunzidwa ndi zoyambitsa zake. Chovuta kwambiri ndi lingaliro loti athetse chibwenzicho. Nkhaniyi ikuthandizani kuyankha mafunso ngati “kodi amuna anga amandichitira nkhanza?” ndipo "ngati ndili ndi mwamuna wachiwawa nditani?".
Kodi nkhanza ndi chiyani?
Kutanthauzira kosavuta kwa nkhanza ndi machitidwe aliwonse kapena nkhanza, zachiwawa kapena zochitidwa ndi cholinga chovulaza wina. Komabe, ngakhale tanthauzo lake ndi losavuta, kumvetsetsa ndikuzindikira kuzunza ndizovuta kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri, zizindikirazo zimabisika poyera kotero kuti omwe adachitidwapo nkhanza kwakanthawi kwa nthawi yayitali amayamba kuzizindikira ngati gawo la moyo wamba. Makumi asanu ndi awiri mwa anthu okwatirana omwe ali pachibwenzi amakumana ndi chochitika chimodzi chachiwawa kapena chankhanza panthawi yaubwenzi.
Pafupifupi kotala la awo Mabanja akumana ndi nkhanza monga chizolowezi cha chibwenzi chawo. Kuopsa kwa machitidwe ozunza anzawo komanso nkhanza zapabanja zimadalira pazinthu zosiyanasiyana koma chinthu chimodzi ndichowonadi: kuzunzidwa maubwenzi ndi maukwati sikungokhala kwa mtundu umodzi, jenda, kapena msinkhu. Aliyense amene ali pachibwenzi akhoza kuchitiridwa nkhanza.
Nkhanza imagawidwa m'magulu anayi osiyanasiyana: mwamalingaliro, mwamalingaliro, m'mawu, komanso mwakuthupi. Palinso mitundu ina ingapo, kuphatikiza nkhanza zakugonana ndi kunyalanyaza, koma awa amadziwika kuti ndi ma subtypes.
Zomwe zimazindikiritsa, komabe, zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kusiyanitsa mtundu uliwonse wa nkhanza.
Popeza mtundu uliwonse umagawana zofananira zambiri, ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti kupezeka kwa mtundu umodzi nthawi zambiri kumatha kuwonetsa kupezeka kwamitundu ina. Mwachitsanzo, wina amene amachitiridwa zachipongwe kapena kuchitiridwa zachipongwe mwina amamunenanso mawu ena komanso kumunyoza.
Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji kuti ndi nkhanza osati mavuto wamba?
Amayi omwe amachitilidwa nkhanza ndi amuna kapena akazi awo amakhala ndi machitidwe ofanana, izi nthawi zambiri zimatha kuwonedwa ngati gawo "labwinobwino" lokulira muubwenzi. Nthawi zambiri amanama kapena amanamizira anzawo kapena anzawo kuti ateteze ozunza anzawo. Kuyanjana pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna wake womuzunza pagulu kapena ndi abale / abwenzi nthawi zambiri kumakhala koyipa; amatha kumukhazika pansi, kumudzudzula, kumuopseza, kapena kuchita manyazi ndi cholinga chomupweteketsa mtima. Izi ndi zina mwa zizindikilo za mamuna ozunza.
Mwamuna wankhanza nthawi zambiri amateteza kwambiri mpaka kulowerera. Ayenera kudziwa komwe kuli mkazi wake nthawi zonse ndipo atha kukhazikitsa malamulo okhwima ndi zoperewera zakanthawi yomwe amakhala kutali ndi kwawo komanso omwe amakhala nawo nthawi ino. 'Chifukwa chiyani mumakhala nthawi yayitali ndi X', 'bwenzi lakolo likukulimbikitsani kuti muwononge ubale wathu, simulankhula naye' - izi ndi zina mwazinthu zomwe mwamunayo wanena.
Kuphatikiza apo, azimayi omwe amachitiridwa nkhanza samadzidalira zomwe zimaipiraipira; ambiri ayamba kukhulupirira zinthu zowopsa zomwe owachitira nkhanza akunena za iwo.
Ngakhale zizolowezi zina zoyipa zidzakhalapo nthawi ina m'mabanja kapena maukwati ambiri, ndikofunikira kuzindikira kusiyanitsa pakati pamavuto ndi nkhanza. Kulephera kumachitika pamene kutha kulumikizana pakati pa abwenzi kuli kochepa kapena kuwonongeka. Monga tanena kale, osachepera theka la maanja onse adzakumana ndi ziwawa zina pamoyo wawo.
Izi zimatero ayi amatanthauza kuti khalidweli limakhala lachilendo kapena limakhala lochitika pafupipafupi. Nthawi zambiri zochitika zamtunduwu zimazindikira nthawi yomweyo ndipo nthawi yachiyanjanitso ndi kukhululukirana zimachitika.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Zizindikiro za Mkazi Wozunza ndi Momwe Mungachitire
Zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira
Mkazi akakhala kuti akuzunzidwa, ofalitsa ambiri amayankha kuti, "Achoke!" Izi, komabe, sizimaganizira pazifukwa zambiri zomwe mkazi angasankhire kukhala ndi mwamuna wachiwawa. Choyambirira komanso chofunikira, mkazi nthawi zambiri amakondabe omwe amamuzunza, ngakhale anali achiwawa, ndipo amakhulupirira kuti atha kusintha.
Zifukwa zina mwina akuwopa zomwe zingachitike ngati atasankha kuchoka, kusadziyimira pawokha pazachuma, manyazi, kuopa kusowa pokhala, kapena kukhala ndi ana ndi omwe amamuzunza.
Ndizovuta makamaka kwa amayi omwe amazunzidwa ndi amuna awo; Mwamuna amene akwatirana naye akuyenera kukhala wodalirika, woteteza, osati wovulaza.
Kodi mungatani?
Ndiye mungatani ngati inu kapena munthu amene mumamukonda akukumana ndi banja ngati ili? Luso lalikulu kwambiri lomwe mungagwiritse ntchito ndikumvetsera ndikulola mayiyo afotokozere zakukhosi kwake. Amatha kupempha mkati kuti wina amufunse zaumoyo. Atha kukhala wokonzeka kutulutsa nkhani yake kwa munthu amene amamukhulupirira. Ndipo mwina sangakhale wokonzeka kulankhula koma akufunafuna wina amene angafune kumvetsera.
Adziwitsidwe zomwe angasankhe mdera lake; thandizirani kukumba kuti mupeze zofunikira zakomwe akukhala ngati akukhala mumzinda kapena boma lina. Khalani okonzeka kuchita zochulukirapo - ngati afunsa - koma siyani zisankho kwa iye. Ngati akufuna kutuluka muukwati wake mutha kumuthandiza kuti athetse banja lankhanza. Kusiya mnzanu amene amamuzunza kungakhale kovuta kwambiri.
Mungamuthandize kuti azilumikizana ndi mlangizi yemwe angayankhe mafunso monga 'momwe angasiye mwamuna wozunza' kapena 'momwe angachitire ndi mwamuna wozunza' ndi zina zotero.
Malo ogona, mavuto, owimira milandu, mapulogalamu othandizira, ndi mabungwe am'madera ali ndi zitseko zotseguka kwa iwo omwe akusowa thandizo; onetsetsani kuti mumulole asankhe m'malo momupangira zisankho. Chofunika koposa, khalani othandizira. Mkazi wochitiridwa nkhanza ndi mwamuna wake alibe mlandu pazomwe amachita; iye ndi wozunzidwa ndi zisankho za wina.