Zamkati
- Funso lalikulu
- 1. Samalani ndi mawu awo
- 2. Samalani ndi momwe mukumvera
- Zabwino kwambiri kuti zikhale zenizeni?
- Kudzimva kupusa komanso kudzikayikira
- Mumamva ngati akuyamwitsani mpweya
- 3. Samalani ndi machitidwe awo
- Zolinga za mlandu
- Narcissists ndi zopweteka kukhala pafupi
Posachedwa, pakhala vuto kwa asayansi yachitukuko pofotokoza zaka zikwizikwi, ndipo ndizosangalatsa kupatsidwa kuti zaka zikwizikwi ndiwo mbadwo woyamba kukula ndi zoulutsira mawu. Ndipo pali ena omwe, lero, amatchula pafupifupi zaka zikwizikwi zilizonse zomwe amapeza ngati wankhanza, akuyang'ana zaka zikwizikwi zomwe ali nazo ndi ma selfies ndi ma tweets.
Komabe, sipanakhalepo kafukufuku aliyense yemwe amathandizira izi mokwanira, zomwe zimatisiyira funso lofunikira; munthu angadziwe bwanji wankhanza?
Lero, simungadziwe komwe mungakumane ndi wamisala. Itha kukhala paliponse, kuchokera pakupanga anzanu atsopano, kupeza madeti atsopano, kufunafuna ntchito, kulowa nawo kilabu yatsopano yolembera antchito atsopano kuti alowe nawo kampani yanu. Chifukwa chake, zimakhala zofunikira kumvetsetsa mbendera zofiira zomwe muyenera kuyang'anitsitsa mukakumana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi vuto laukazitape kapena mikhalidwe yankhanza.
Narcissists nthawi zambiri amadziona kuti ndiabwino kuposa aliyense amene angakhale naye pachibwenzi, amafuna kuti azisilira nthawi zonse, ndipo nthawi zina, mwina amakunyazitsani pagulu kuti mulimbikitse chithunzi chawo.
Amatha kunyoza ndi kunyoza, kulephera kubwezera chidwi kapena kutaya chidwi ndi inu.
Nthawi zina, olemba narciss kuntchito atha kukhala nthawi yochuluka akucheza ndi anzawo kuti awasangalatse, atenge mbiri ya ntchito ya ena ndikupanga malonjezo omwe sadzakwaniritsa.
Akakhala oyang'anira, atha kukuvutitsani pamaso pa ena kapena ngakhale mukakhala nokha.
Funso lalikulu
Ndi zizolowezi zokhumudwitsa izi za narcissists, nanga munthu angawasiyanitse bwanji ngati atakumana nawo?
M'munsimu muli njira zitatu zodziwitsira wankhanza komanso momwe angawathamangitsire, monga akuwonetsera a Bill Eddy LCSW, JD- loya, mkhalapakati, wothandizira komanso woyambitsa mnzake ndi Training Director wa High Conflict Institute.
Bill wapereka lingaliro lamasitepe atatu lotchedwa njira ya WEB yodziwitsa a narcissists- WORDS, EMOTIONS, and BEHAVIOR.
1. Samalani ndi mawu awo
M'magawo atatu awa kuti mupeze chitsogozo cha narcissist, mawu pamwamba pamndandanda. Ngati mukukayikira kuti wina ndi wankhanza, samalani kuti anene mawu awo - abwino ndi oyipa, kaya ndi za inu kapena za ena.
Njira yotetezeka kwambiri yochitira mawu awo ndi kuwagawa m'magulu anayi omwe ndi -
Mawu abwino kwambiri (okopa) - Ambiri aiwo ndi mawu ofananira omwe akuyenera kukhala chenjezo kwa inu kuti mudzafananitsidwa ndi ena mtsogolo.
Chitsanzo - 'Palibe amene adakuchitirani zabwino kuposa ine', kapena, 'Sindinakumaneko ndi munthu wokongola ngati inu ".
Mawu oyipa kwambiri (onyoza) - Apa, muwona chisangalalo chachikulu chakuchita bwino mwa iwo ndikusowa chifundo, ngakhale atakhala ochepa. Adzanena - 'Munthu ameneyo pali wotayika kwenikweni', kapena, 'Amuna awa sangazindikire waluntha ngakhale akuwayang'ana pankhope'.
Mawu omwe akuwonetseratu kuti alibe chisoni kapena chidwi konse - Izi ndizofala kwambiri ndi wankhanza. Sazionetsa kuzindikira chidwi chanu kapena kukhalapo kwanu, makamaka mukawauza zakukumana nazo zoyipa kapena chiopsezo chokhudza inu. Ayenera kutaya chidwi mwachangu pomwe akuganiza kuti apeza.
Mawu ozunzidwa - Mudzawona kuti amisili nthawi zonse amadziona kuti ndiopambana ndipo, nthawi yomweyo, amakhala ozunzidwa. Amakumana ndi vuto lotchedwa kuvulala kwa narcissist - mlandu womwe wamisala amadziwika kuti siopambana. Ndiwo mtundu womwe ungapitilize kuyesayesa ndikuyesera kudzitsimikizira pakakanidwa udindo wokonda mnzake.
2. Samalani ndi momwe mukumvera
Gawo lachiwiri mu magawo atatu awa kuti mupeze chitsogozo cha narcissist ndikumverera kwanu.
Samalani kwambiri ndi momwe mumamvera mukamayanjana ndi munthu wankhanza. Narcissists nthawi zambiri amakupatsani malingaliro atatu omwe angafotokozedwe pansipa.
Zabwino kwambiri kuti zikhale zenizeni?
Mtundu uwu nthawi zonse umakusosani pamapazi anu musanazindikire.
Mumamva kuti ndiabwino kwa inu, mumamva kusangalala ndi kukondedwa. Mumamva chisangalalo, ndipo mwadzidzidzi mumazindikira kuti ndizabwino kwambiri kuti zitheke.
Chizindikiro chachikulu chochenjeza.
Chithumwa chimenecho ndi chenjezo chifukwa anthu omwe amakopa kwambiri komanso nthawi zambiri samakhala momwe amawonekera. Zitha kukhala kuti nthawi zina amangokongola. Koma, nthawi zina, atha kukhala kuti mukukopeka ndi wamisili yemwe posachedwa akupita kwa munthu wotsatira kuti awakope ndikupanga malingaliro awo kuti apambane.
Kudzimva kupusa komanso kudzikayikira
Ngati sakukupangitsani kuti mukhale ndi 'zabwino kwambiri kuti musakhale zowona', ena mwa anthu ochita zachiwerewere adzakhala otanganidwa kwambiri osazindikira kuti akuyika wina pansi pantchitoyo.
Izi ndi zachilengedwe kwa iwo.
Nthawi zina, simudzazindikira koyambirira, kenako nkudzakumbukira pambuyo pake mukayamba kudzikayikira. Mumayamba kudzifunsa nokha zomwe akuganiza za inu, yambani kufunsa zaulemu wanu mu ligi yawo.
Mumamva ngati akuyamwitsani mpweya
Ngati simunakumaneko ndi wina, posachedwa mudzakumana ndi munthu m'modzi yemwe nthawi zonse 'amayamwa mpweya kuchipinda.'
Zimakhala ngati narcissist onse.
Nthawi zonse amatsogolera zokambirana zawo mosasamala zomwe ena anena kapena kuganiza.
3. Samalani ndi machitidwe awo
Pomaliza, mu njira zitatu izi kuti mupeze chitsogozo cha narcissist, samalani ndi machitidwe awo. Samalani kwambiri pazomwe amachita kuposa zomwe akunena.
Narcissists ndiwanzeru kwambiri kotero kuti amatha kupanga mawu ambiri kuti akusokonezeni ndikuyesera kudzipezera machitidwe awo osavomerezeka. Ngati mungakumane ndi wamisili, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti mutha kukhala okhumudwa komanso otopa.
Samayang'ana konse za machitidwe awo oyipa, ndipo zomwe amachita ndikungoteteza mwamphamvu ndikukutsutsani chifukwa chofunsa zamunthu wawo wakale.
Muli bwino kunyalanyaza mawu awo.
Zolinga za mlandu
Njira ina yomwe akuyenera kuyang'anira ndiyoti narcissists amapeza chodzudzula kangati akalephera kukwaniritsa china chake, kapena china chake chimawasokonekera.
Adzakusunthirani ndikukudzudzulani kwambiri ngakhale pazinthu zomwe palibe kapena zomwe wina (kapena mwa iwo okha) akuchita. Nthawi zonse azipeza wina woti angamuimbe mlandu akawononga zinthu.
Izi zimachitika makamaka makamaka ndi omwe amakhala ndi mikangano yayikulu.
Narcissists ndi zopweteka kukhala pafupi
Zowona, ma narcissist ndiopweteka kukhala nawo, ndipo amatha kupangitsa moyo wanu kukhala wopanikiza ngati simukudziwa momwe mungawadziwire ndikuwapambana.
Bukuli pamagawo atatu odziwitsa munthu wamisala ndi othandiza makamaka kwa anthu omwe akufuna zibwenzi zatsopano, akufuna kusintha madera kapena akuganiza kuti wina wapafupi nawo ndi wankhanza.
Samalani zomwe a narcissist akunena (mawu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito), malingaliro omwe amakupatsani ndipo pomaliza, samalani kwambiri momwe amachitira ndi anthu.