Zamkati
- Momwe kukhudzidwira kumakankhidwira kutali
- Okondedwa athu akudziwa
- Kuwona mtima
- Momwe izi zikuwonekera m'moyo wanga
Tikamverera kutengeka kwakukulu timakhulupirira kuti ndikosavuta kubisala motere ndikupondereza malingaliro athu.
Timakhala osasunthika kapena osachita chidwi poyesa kuwonetsa mkwiyo womwe tili nawo.
Vuto ndi njirayi ndikuti mnzanu akumva izi.
Matenda opatsirana ndi gawo la zokumana nazo zaumunthu.
Popeza sitingabise zakukhosi kwathu bwanji osaziulula poyera?
Momwe kukhudzidwira kumakankhidwira kutali
Maganizo ndi machitidwe amanjenje pakuchita kwakunja ndi malingaliro amkati.
Sizinthu zomwe titha kuwongolera. Zimachitika pomwe sitikufuna. Mwachitsanzo, ndingafune kuwonetsa momwe ndasangalalira ndi chochitika chachikulu cha mnzanga koma ndikumva kuthedwa nzeru ndi kuchuluka kwa mbale yanga sabata imeneyo.
Nthawi yomweyo, ndidavala nkhope yothandizana naye ndikunena kuti ndine wokondwa kuti tipita ku mwambowu.
Pakatikati pazomwe zikuchitikadi ndi mantha kuti mutha kukwanitsa kuchita zina mu sabata ino. Mnzanga akufunsa ngati zili bwino ndipo ndikuti zikumveka bwino. Amandiyang'ana mokayikira ndikufunsa ngati ndikutsimikiza. Ndikuti, "Ndikutsimikiza".
Kodi izi zimachitika kangati?
Timachita ngati zinthu zabwino pomwe sizili choncho. Timachita izi kuti tisangalatse okondedwa athu, komanso kuti tisakhumudwitse iwo.
Komabe, pakuchita izi tiyenera kukankhira pansi malingaliro athu.
Zingakhale zotani, kukhala oona mtima kwa ife eni?
Kuvomereza momwe zimamvekera kuwonjezera chochitika china ndikutsatira sitepe yotsatira ndikudziwitsa mnzathu. M'malo mopitilira zomwe timakumana nazo timakumana nazo.
Okondedwa athu akudziwa
Vuto ndi njirayi ndikuti anthu amadziwa.
Wina yemwe amakhala pafupi nanu nthawi zonse amatenga momwe mumamvera ngakhale mutakhala akatswiri pakudzibisa. Amatha kumva momwe mukumvera.
M'buku lake, The Influential Mind, Tali Sharot, akufotokoza momwe matenda opatsirana amagwirira ntchito.
Kodi kusamutsa kwamaganizidwe kumagwira ntchito bwanji? Kodi kumwetulira kwanu kumabweretsa chisangalalo mwa ine? Kodi kukhumudwa kwanu kumabweretsa mkwiyo bwanji m'maganizo mwanga? Pali njira ziwiri zazikulu. Choyamba ndi kutsanzira kosazindikira. Mwina munamvapo za momwe anthu amatsanzirira manja, mamvekedwe ndi mawonekedwe a nkhope za ena. Timachita izi zokha - ngati musunthira nsidze zanu m'mwamba pang'ono, inenso ndichita chimodzimodzi; ngati mukung'ung'udza, ndikutheka kwambiri. Thupi la winawake likamawonetsa kupsinjika, timatha kudzilimbitsa tokha chifukwa cha kutsanzira ndipo, chifukwa chake, timakhala ndi nkhawa m'matupi mwathu (Sharot, 2017).
Mitundu yamanjenje yamayankho pamachitidwe a ena nthawi zambiri samazindikira.
Koma zikuwonetsa kuti kubisa zamkati mwathu sizotheka.
Kuwona mtima
Tikayamba kudzidalira tokha timatsegula mwayi wokhala paubwenzi wapamtima ndi okondedwa athu.
Timavomereza zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwathu ndipo timalola anthu omwe timawakonda kudziwa momwe zinthu zimamvera.
Tikayamba kukhumudwa mnzathu atalengeza za zomwe akufuna kupita sabata limenelo timayesa kubisa izi.
Ngati titha kukhala pachiwopsezo chathu ndikumuuza kuti tikupanikizika, ndiye kuti izi zitha kutichitikira mwachifundo komanso momvetsetsa.
Mwina mnzanu atha kukuthandizani kuchotsa china chake m'mbale yanu kuti musamapanikizike kwambiri. Mwinanso akumvetsetsa kuti iyi siyi sabata yabwino kwambiri kuti mupite pamwambowu.
Amamvanso kuti wakanidwa komanso wakwiya mukawafotokozera zakuti wathedwa nzeru.
Mosasamala zomwe zimachitika, mukuchita zowona ndi mnzanu ndipo simukuyesera kubisa zomwe mwakumana nazo chifukwa cha iye.
Popeza adzakhala ndi lingaliro loti kubisala kwanu bwanji osasankha kuwona mtima?
Momwe izi zikuwonekera m'moyo wanga
Ndimakhala ndi mnzanga wodabwitsa yemwe wazindikiritsa kuzindikira kwamilandu. Sindingamubisire zakukhosi kwanga.
Nthawi zina izi zimakhala zokhumudwitsa koma pamapeto pake zandithandizira kukhala wokhulupirika kwathunthu.
Kudziwa kwake mwanzeru kwandithandiza kukhala munthu wabwino. Sindinganene kuti nthawi zonse ndimalolera kuti ndimudziwitse zinthu zikakhala kuti sizili bwino koma cholinga changa ndikuti ndichite zomwezo.
Pali nthawi zina pamene ndimalephera pa izi ndipo ndimaganiza kuti zimachepetsa ubale wapakati pathu. Ndikamalankhula ndekha nthawi zambiri amakumana nane ndikumvetsetsa komanso kuyamikira kukhala naye zenizeni.
Ndimafotokozanso mtima wanga mokoma mtima pomwe ndimamuganizira zomwe adakumana nazo. Sindikupita kokwiya ndikumadzudzula mnzanga chifukwa chodandaula kapena kuthedwa nzeru.
Ndikunena zowona ndikukhala ndi udindo wonse pazomwe ndakumana nazo. Chifukwa chake ndikukulimbikitsani kuti musiye kudandaula za momwe mnzanu akumvera ndikulimbikira kuti mukhale ogwirizana polankhula zowona kwa inu.
Pamlingo wina, adziwa kuti mukubisa zomwe zikuchitikabe.