Zamkati
- 1. Landirani zosiyana
- 2. Dziphunzitseni
- 3. Kumvetsera mofanana zikhalidwe zonse
- 4. Phunzirani chilankhulo kuti muzilankhulana bwino
- 5. Khalani oleza mtima
- 6. Kambiranani momwe zingagwirire ntchito
- 7. Phunzirani kulolera
Ukwati suli mgwirizano wa anthu awiri okha.
Ndicho mgwirizano wa mabanja awiri. Ndikosavuta kulandira banja latsopanoli ngati ali ochokera mdera lanu. Komabe, mphamvu zimasintha muukwati wachikhalidwe.
Apa, mabanja onsewa ayenera kumvetsetsa chikhalidwe chatsopano, kuzolowera ndikuwalandila ndi manja awiri.
Pali zovuta zambiri pakagwa maukwati achikhalidwe.
Zovuta zonsezi zimabwera kwa maanja omwe agwirizana mgwirizanowu. M'munsimu muli njira zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavuto amenewa komanso kukuthandizani kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino.
1. Landirani zosiyana
Mukakwatiwa ndi munthu wachikhalidwe china, mumalowa m'dziko losadziwika.
Mwadzidzidzi mudzadziwitsidwa kuzikhalidwe zambiri zomwe simumazidziwa. Izi, mwakamodzi, zitha kukufikirani monga chikhalidwe, koma mvetsetsani kuti ndi dziko lanu tsopano. Njira yabwino yosamalira kusinthaku ndikumvetsetsa kusiyanasiyana ndikuwalandira momwe alili.
Mutenga nthawi kuti mumvetsetse chikhalidwe chatsopano ndipo zili bwino.
Musayembekezere kuti zonse zigwere malowa usiku wonse. Lankhulani ndi mnzanu kuti mumvetsetse zosiyana ndikuyesera kuzimvetsetsa. Zolakwa zimachitika koyambirira, koma zili bwino.
Njira yabwino yolandirira kusiyana ndikutsegulira kwathunthu.
2. Dziphunzitseni
Simukufuna kukhala ndi banja lolephera chifukwa cha chikhalidwe china, sichoncho?
Njira yothawira izi ndikuphunzitsa ndikuwunika zikhalidwe ndi zikhalidwe za mnzanuyo momwe angathere. Nenani za masiku aubwenzi wa mnzanu, momwe anakulira, banja lawo komanso za ubale wawo wakale.
Kufunsa mafunso otere kumakuthandizani kumvetsetsana bwino. Inu mukanadziwa kuchokera komwe iwo akuchokera. Mukadziphunzitsa nokha za chikhalidwe cha anzanu ndikuzikumbatira, banja lanu lidzayenda bwino.
3. Kumvetsera mofanana zikhalidwe zonse
Chikhalidwe chilichonse chili ndi miyambo ndi malamulo ake. M'banja la azikhalidwe nthawi zonse pamakhala chiwopsezo chotaya miyambo ina.
Maanja nthawi zambiri amatengedwa ndi mabanja onse momwe amayembekezera kuti azitsatira miyambo yawo.
Izi zitha kukhala zovuta kwa maanja kunena kuti ayi sikungathandize ndipo kutsatira zinthu zingapo kungasokoneze iwo ndi ana awo. Apa ndi pamene chikumbumtima chawo chimasewera.
Monga kholo, simukufuna kuti mwana wanu azitsatira chikhalidwe chimodzi. Pofuna kupewa chisokonezo ndikusangalatsa aliyense, lembani zofunika pazikhalidwe zonsezi ndikutsatira.
Kusankha njira yapakati sikungakhale kophweka, koma muyenera kutero.
4. Phunzirani chilankhulo kuti muzilankhulana bwino
Wina sangazindikire poyamba, koma vuto la chilankhulo limatha kukhala vuto ngati mwakwatirana kunja kwa chikhalidwe chanu.
Nthawi yamasiku kapena pomwe mumakumana, zinthu zinali bwino koma mukafunika kukhala ndi munthu amene salankhula chilankhulo chanu, kulumikizana kumatha kukhala kovuta.
Yankho la izi litha kukhala kuti mumaphunzira chinenero cha wina ndi mnzake. Kuphunzitsana chilankhulo kuli ndi maubwino awiri. Chimodzi, mutha kulumikizana bwino. Chachiwiri, mumacheza pafupipafupi ndi apongozi anu komanso abale anu.
Mwayi wovomerezedwa mwachangu ndi apongozi anu uchulukirachulukira ngati mungalankhule chilankhulo chawo.
Musalole kuti kulumikizana kulumikizane nonse awiri.
5. Khalani oleza mtima
Musayembekezere kuti zinthu zizikhala bwino komanso zachilendo nthawi yomweyo. Nonse mwina mukuyesetsa kuti musalole kuti chikhalidwe chanu chizibwera pakati pa banja lanu, koma zinthu sizingachitike kuyambira pachiyambi. Mudzapunthwa ndi kugwa, koma muyenera kuyesetsabe. Kuleza mtima ndichinsinsi.
Zimakhala zovuta nthawi zonse kusintha chikhalidwe chatsopano mwadzidzidzi.
Padzakhala nthawi yomwe simukudziwa choti muchite kapena mungadzitemberere nokha chifukwa cholakwitsa, koma osataya mtima. Kuphunzira zatsopano kumatenga nthawi. Pitirizani kuyesera ndikusunga mayendedwe. Pambuyo pake, mudzazindikira zonse ndipo zinthu zidzakhala bwino.
6. Kambiranani momwe zingagwirire ntchito
Musanakwatirane ndi mnzanu wachikhalidwe china, khalani pansi ndi kukambirana momwe mukukonzera kuti zinthu ziziyenda bwino.
Kugwirizana komanso kulumikizana pakati pa nonsenu ndikofunikira. Nonse awiri mudzakhala mukupita kumalo azikhalidwe zatsopano ndipo muphunzira zinthu zambiri zatsopano.
Uwu sudzakhala ulendo wosavuta konse.
Nonse mudzayesedwa komanso kuyang'aniridwa kwambiri zaka zoyambirira zaukwati wanu. Nonse muyenera kuyandikana ndikuwongolerana pakakhala zofunikira.
Chifukwa chake, lankhulani za izo ndi kujambula pulani ya momwe anyamata azithandizira ukwati wanu wachikhalidwe.
7. Phunzirani kulolera
Sikuti chikhalidwe chonse ndi changwiro.
Padzakhala nthawi pamene simudzavomereza miyambo kapena mwambo winawake. Kukhazikitsa malingaliro anu ndikuyesa kunena chifukwa chake sizolondola kumatha kukulitsa vuto lanu.
Phunzirani kulolera.
Paukwati wosiyana chikhalidwe, muyenera kuphunzira kulemekeza zikhalidwe ndi miyambo ya wina ndi mnzake. Zimabwera ndi kuvomereza. Ndipo mukalandira chikhalidwe cha mnzanu, ndiye kuti palibe chifukwa chofunsira malingaliro awo.
Sikoyenera kuyika malingaliro patsogolo nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina, lolani kutengeka kuti kutsogolere muukwatiwu.