Zamkati
- 1. Kukhala woyamba kuyambitsa zokambirana
- 2. Khalani osatetezeka
- 3. Kuuzana zinsinsi wina ndi mnzake
- 4. Yamikirani ndikuwonetsa kuyamikira
- 5. Khalani chitonthozo kwa iwo
- 6. Khalani ndi ziyembekezo zenizeni mu gawo lino
- 7. Gawani zokumana nazo zofunikira paubwana
- 8. Kambiranani za nthawi yomwe munayamba kukondana
- 9. Uzani mnzanu chifukwa chake mumawakonda
- 10. Funsani mafunso ambiri
- 11. Lumikizanani m'maganizo ndi mwakuthupi
- 12. Khalani nokha
Maubale sikuti amangokhala okondana; ndizochulukirapo kuposa izi ndipo zimakhudza chikondi, chidaliro, ulemu, ndi kudzipereka.
Kupatula kukhala pachibwenzi muubwenzi wapamtima, nonse awiri muyenera kulumikizana kudzera muubwenzi wapamtima.
Njira yabwino yokwaniritsira kukondana ndikumacheza.
Zokambirana zapamtima zimangokhala za kukhala limodzi ndikusangalala limodzi. Zokambirana zotere ndi njira yokhayo yolimbikitsira mgwirizano pakati pa anzawo ndikulimbikitsa malingaliro awo kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Chifukwa china chomwe kukambitsirana kofunikira ndikofunika m'banja ndiko kuthetsa mavuto aliwonse omwe angakhale akukumana nawo.
Kuti musunge kulumikizana kwanu kapena kukondana komwe mumagawana ndi wokondedwa wanu, muyenera kuyesetsa kukambirana zakukhosi.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna mafunso apamtima oti mufunse bwenzi lanu kapena mafunso achikondi oti mufunse mnzanu, zomwe zili pansipa ndi njira zingapo zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito pokambirana ndi mnzanu.
1. Kukhala woyamba kuyambitsa zokambirana
Musachite manyazi kapena manyazi, koma m'malo mwake, khalani oyamba kuyambitsa nkhaniyo.
Khalani oyamba kuyambitsa zokambirana zaubwenzi ndikufunsa mafunso, kunena zambiri za inu nokha, mupeza kuti palibe nthawi, wokondedwa wanu azitsatira ndikuwonjezera gawo lawo pazokambirana.
Nawa mafunso abwino oti mufunse mnyamata kapena mtsikana kuti azicheza momasuka:
- Ndi chiyani choyamba chomwe mudazindikira za ine?
- Kodi kukopa kwakuthupi kumachita chiyani ngati mukuyesetsa kuti mukhale pachibwenzi?
- Kodi mumandifotokozera bwanji kwa anthu ena?
- Ndi mikhalidwe iti yomwe imandipangitsa ine kukhala wapadera kwa inu?
Kufunsa mafunso okondana awa kungakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa momwe mukugwirizanirana ndi wokondedwa wanu.
2. Khalani osatetezeka
Chotsani mantha ndi nkhawa zonse mukamayankhula ndi mnzanu. Khalani omasuka komanso owona mtima pazonse zomwe munganene ndipo limbani mtima kugawana.
Kuopa kutaya wokondedwa wanu pazowopsa zanu kukuwonetsa kusakhulupirika.
Kuti mugawane chiopsezo chanu, nayi mafunso okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe mungafunse mtsikana kapena mnyamata:
- Ndi anthu angati amene umagonana nawo?
- Kodi ndi malo odabwitsa bwanji omwe mudagonana nawo?
- Ndi kuti komwe thupi lanu ndi komwe mumakonda kukhudzidwa?
- Kugonana komwe mukufuna kuyesa?
- Kodi mwatumiza zithunzi zamaliseche kwa aliyense?
- Kodi munakhalapo ndi chibwenzi mosayenera?
3. Kuuzana zinsinsi wina ndi mnzake
Maubwenzi amafuna kuti aliyense wa iwo akhale woonamtima kwathunthu komanso osabisa wina ndi mnzake.
Akatswiri ambiri amalimbikitsa maanja kuti azigawana zinsinsi zomwe sakadagawana.
Kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi CDC adawonetsa kuti kuwona mtima ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino.
Kutsegula chinsinsi chakuya ndi njira yabwino yoyandikirira mnzanu.
Mafunso ena achinsinsi ofunsa mnzanu:
- Kodi mudachitapo chinyengo kwa mnzanu?
- Kodi ubale wathu ndi wokwanira kwa inu?
- Kodi muli ndi zozizwitsa zilizonse zomwe mungafune kuti zikwaniritsidwe?
4. Yamikirani ndikuwonetsa kuyamikira
Khalani omasuka kuuza mnzanu momwe mumayamikirira kukhala nawo m'moyo wanu. Auzeni kuti mumayamikira nthawi yomwe mumathera nawo komanso momwe ubalewu umakhudzira inu.
Kuyamikira kumangolimbitsa ubale wanu.
Onaninso: Njira 25 zoyamikirira mnzanu.
5. Khalani chitonthozo kwa iwo
Khalani othandizira ngati mnzanuyo agawana zomwe zawasokoneza kapena zawakhudza mwanjira inayake.
Adziwitseni kuti mudzakhala nawo nthawi zonse ndikuwayimilira ngakhale atatani ndikuwathandiza kupyola zochitika zomwe zimawasokoneza.
6. Khalani ndi ziyembekezo zenizeni mu gawo lino
Zokambirana zapamtima sizongokhala zachikondi koma m'malo mwake zitha kukhala zopindulitsa kwambiri. Chitanani nawo zokambirana zachuma, banja, ana, ngakhale zofuna zawo.
Izi ndi maphunziro omwe akuwonetsa kuti nonse ndinu okonzeka kuyanjananso ndi ubalewu ndipo mukufuna kuti uzikhala kwamuyaya.
7. Gawani zokumana nazo zofunikira paubwana
Kulankhula za ubwana wanu kapena nthawi musanakumane ndi mnzanu ndi njira yabwino yosonyezera wokondedwa wanu momwe analili asanalowe m'moyo wanu.
Zimakuthandizani kuwonetsa komanso zimawalola kuti awone kuchuluka kwa zomwe mwakula, mwaphunzira ndikusintha nokha pazaka zambiri.
8. Kambiranani za nthawi yomwe munayamba kukondana
Panthawi zachikondi izi, ndibwino kugawana ndikumuuza wokondedwa wanu za nthawi yomwe mudawakondera.
Itha kukhala nthawi yaying'ono kwambiri pomwe mumazindikira kuti anali 'amodzi,' koma zinali zofunikira kwambiri kwa inu.
9. Uzani mnzanu chifukwa chake mumawakonda
Gawani zifukwa zomwe mumakondana.
Timakonda ena athu pachilichonse, koma nthawi zonse pamakhala zinthu zochepa zomwe zimatikumbutsa mobwerezabwereza chifukwa chake tidasankha munthuyu, monga kumwetulira kwawo, mtundu wa maso awo, momwe amalankhulira, ndi zina zambiri.
10. Funsani mafunso ambiri
Funsani zonse zomwe mukufuna kudziwa za mnzanu. Afunseni za moyo wawo asanakumane nanu, za zolinga zawo zamtsogolo ndi chilichonse chomwe mukuwona kuti chingakuthandizeni kuwamvetsetsa.
11. Lumikizanani m'maganizo ndi mwakuthupi
Mukakhala pamenepo ndikuyankhula, zingakhale zothandiza ngati nonse awiri mumayang'anizana nthawi ndi nthawi kapena kugwirana manja kapena chilichonse chaching'ono.
Izi zitha kuthandiza kulumikizana awiriwa ndikupititsa patsogolo ubale wanu.
12. Khalani nokha
Zonse mwazonse, khalani nokha! Khalani munthu yemwe muli naye pamtima, ndipo musayese kudzisintha nokha kuti mnzanu akukondeni.
Wokondedwa wanu akuyenera kukukondani ndikukuvomerezani momwe mulili osati mawonekedwe omwe mumayika. Mofananamo, muyenera kukonda ndikuvomera mnzanu momwe alili osayesa kuwasintha kapena kukonza zolakwika zawo.