Zamkati
Kutalika ndi kufupikitsa kwake? Inde, si zachilendo.
Izi sizitanthauza kuti mupitiliza kuonana ndikukhala ogonana, makamaka ngati muli kale pachibwenzi (chatsopano). Sizimatanthauzanso kuti mupitiliza kukambirana wina ndi mnzake ndikuthamangira kwa iwo mukakhala ndi mavuto.
Momwe mumamvera komanso zomwe mumachita ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana.
Ngati mukuganiza za "kodi sizachilendo kukonda wokondedwa wanu?" koma simudzipereka pakadali pano, ndiye musadandaule konse za izi.
Chitani zomwe mukufuna, pitirizani kucheza nawo ngati ndizomwe zimakusangalatsani. Silo vuto, ndi dziko laulere. Komabe, ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi wina, ndiye nthawi yokhayo zinthu zimasinthira.
Zoletsa zimagwira ntchito. Werengani zolemba zabwino.
Munkhaniyi, tikungokambirana pankhani yokondana naye wakale mukakhala pachibwenzi chatsopano. Chifukwa, ngati simuli pachibwenzi chilichonse, ndiye kuti amene mumakhala naye pachibwenzi ndi kugona naye siudindo wina aliyense.
Ganiza, kumva, kuchita
Zomwe mukuganiza komanso zomwe mumamva ndi zanu komanso zanu zokha.
Palibe amene angasokoneze malingaliro anu achinsinsi ndi malingaliro anu. Zitha kutengeka ndi zinthu zakunja ndi zokumana nazo, komabe ndi zanu komanso zanu zokha.
Malingana ngati simukuchita kapena kutsegula pakamwa panu pazomwe mukumva, palibe amene ali ndi ufulu wokuweruzani. Malamulo amakono amaweruza anthu pazomwe amachita komanso zolinga zawo pambuyo pake. Chidziwitso: kuyankhulanso ndi verebu, ngati simukudziwa.
Anthu ena sangathe kudzithandiza okha kutsegula pakamwa pawo. Kukhala ndi malingaliro kapena malingaliro ena sikofunikira.
Chifukwa chake ngati mukumva kuti mumamukondabe wakale wanu, zili bwino, bola ngati simukuchita (kapena kuyankhula) za izo. Ngati mukuganiza kuti muyenera kukhala owona mtima ndi wokondedwa wanu wapano, ganizirani za zabwino zomwe zingapange. Ili ndiye mtundu wavuto lomwe limatha pakapita nthawi. Mukamachita zochepa, zimatha.
Chifukwa chake pitirizani kukonda mnzanu wapano. Potsirizira pake, chikondi chanu chakale chidzatha, kapena osachepera, zilibe kanthu.
Ngati mumamukondabe wakale wanu ndikudabwa kuti "ndichifukwa chiyani ndimaganizirabe za wokondedwa wanga tsiku lililonse?" onetsetsani kuti simunena kapena kuchita chilichonse chomwe chingasokoneze ubale wanu wapano.
Sizofunika kwenikweni. Chifukwa chake kuti zikhale zosavuta, kuganiza ndikumverera ndikwabwino. Kunena ndikuchita ndikuyang'ana zovuta.
Kubwereranso kwa wakale
Ngati mukuyesedwa kuti mukhale ndi zovuta ndi wakale wanu, bola ngati simunadzipereke pano, pitirizani kusangalala.
Zingapangitse kuti muyanjanenso ngati banja. Pali maubale ambiri omwe amangofunika kupuma pang'ono. Mavuto apadziko lonse lapansi adatulutsa moto ndi chibwenzi, ndipo nthawi zina kutha ndi zomwe zimafunikira kuti zibwezeretsere.
Ngati mukukhulupirira mwayi wachiwiri, ndi choncho.
Ngati mukuganiza mozama mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu watsopano, zimakhala zovuta. Anthu ambiri amadzifunsa kuti, "kodi sizachilendo kukonda bwenzi langa lakale, ndikukhala ndi chibwenzi chatsopano." Zimachitika kwambiri ngati chibwenzi chanu chatsopanocho sichiri chapafupi kapena chakuya monga momwe munalili poyamba, osatinso.
Ndi chisankho chodzikonda, ndipo kusiya bwenzi lanu lakale kwa bwenzi lanu ndikusuntha. Koma kukhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri mutangomaliza kumene kumangokhala mankhwala "obwerera kumsika".
Chifukwa chake muyenera kudzifufuza nokha kuti ndi ndani yemwe akuyenera kukuyenderani bwino.
Chomaliza chomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikuwatsogolera onse awiri pomwe mukukonza momwe mukumvera. Kubwereza kawiri kumatha kukupangitsani kutaya zonse ziwiri.
Kumamatira nacho
Mukasankha kukhala ndi munthu watsopano, palibe chifukwa chowauza kuti, "Ndimakondabe bwenzi langa lakale." kapena china chake chopusa.
Patulirani nthawi yanu ndi khama lanu ndi mnzanu watsopano ndipo pewani wakale wanu.
Chotsani nambala yawo, sinthani, pewani magulu wamba. Palibe chabwino chomwe chingatuluke ndikusangalatsa malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro am'mbuyomu, makamaka ngati mwasankha kale.
Osabzala mbewu zamtsogolo posangalala ndi malingaliro okondedwa wanu kwa mnzanu watsopano. Zakale zidapita, ndipo uzisunge pamenepo.
Ngati mumadzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa chifukwa mumaganizirabe za "Kodi sizachilendo kukonda wokondedwa wanga," ndiye yesetsani kukondweretsa mnzanuyo.
Gwiritsani ntchito ulendo wolakwa kuti mukhale bwenzi labwino komanso wokonda. Ngati mumangokonda kuchita zinthu mopitirira malire ndipo mumangokhalira kudumpha zomwe mumakonda kuyambira kale mpaka pano, ndiye kuti mukusewera ndi moto ndipo khalani okonzeka kuwotchedwa. Dziganizireni kuti mwachenjezedwa.
Kunena zowona konse, ngati mumakondabe wokondedwa wanu mwanjira ina, amadzaza malingaliro anu, momwe mumamvera, anzanu atopa kale kumva "Ndimamukondabe" akulira m'mawa kwambiri, osapita kudzipereka nthawi yomweyo.
Ngati mukufuna kuchita zogonana ndi munthu wina kuti mukwaniritse zosowa zanu, pitirizani.
Koma chibwenzi?
Khalani kutali ndi izo mpaka mutayamba kukondana ndi munthuyo. Ngati mukuwerenga nkhaniyi chifukwa nkhaniyi ikukukhudzani ndipo munalakwitsa kudzipereka kwa munthu wina, ndiye kuti mupanga chisankho chovuta posachedwa.
Zoyambirira, ndizabwino.
Kodi ndi zachilendo kukondabe wokondedwa wanga? Inde. Kodi nkwachilendo kupitiliza kukhala pachibwenzi nawo kwinakwake, uhm ... wabwinobwino? Zakhala zikudziwika kuti zichitike. Makhalidwe? Ayi. Kukondabe wokondedwa wanu kumangokhala vuto ngati mungaganize zoyamba chibwenzi china msanga.
Kugwa mchikondi sichisankho, koma kulowa mu kudzipereka ndi chisankho chomwe timadzipangira tokha ndi anzathu.
Ngati mwalakwitsa kusankha izi molawirira kwambiri, simuchedwa kuthana ndi vutolo. Mwina, chitirani chilungamo mnzanu watsopanoyo ndikuchokapo, kapena musapitirire pamenepo.