Zamkati
- Kodi mnzanu ndi wankhanza? Mndandanda wa mmakhalidwe ajor
- 1. Kudziona kuti ndiwe wapamwamba
- 2. Kufunikira kwathunthu kuti tipeze chidwi
- 3. Woswa malamulo
- 4. Kudodometsa kucheza
- 5. Chiwonetsero chazonama
- 6. Wosangalatsa
- Makhalidwe ang'onoang'ono
Ukwati womwe umapangidwira kuti umve otetezeka ndikukondedwa tsopano ukupangitsa kuti uzifooka, kuzunzidwa komanso kupsinjika. Ziribe kanthu momwe mumawonetsera chikondi kwa wokondedwa wanu, nthawi zonse zimawoneka zochepa pamaso pazosavomerezeka ndi ziyembekezo zawo. Kukhala ndi wankhanza ndizovuta komanso zowononga.
Pamavuto azakwatirana, mumatha kulimba mtima pokumana ndi anthu komanso kulimba mtima kuti mufotokozere malingaliro anu. Mumayamba kukayikira zakukhalapo kwanu ndikukhala usiku mumadzifunsa kuti chalakwika ndi chiyani. Malongosoledwe anu onse ogwira mtima komanso omveka bwino akuwoneka kuti samamveka ndikunena za mnzake wamiseche.
Narcissist ndi munthu yemwe amavutika ndimaganizo; amawonetsa kusokonezeka kwamakhalidwe ndipo ndiwodzikonda kwambiri. Amasangalala kucheza ndi iwo omwe amawatamanda kapena abwino kapena oyipa ndipo nthawi zonse amatsogolera zokambirana pamutu, zomwe amawona kuti ndizofunikira.
Pogwira ntchito pagulu, amapewa anthu osagwirizana ndi malingaliro awo popeza amawona kuti malingaliro awo ndiabwino kwambiri komanso ovomerezeka.
Chikhalidwe cha ubale wa narcissist ndichachinyengo ngati njira. Samachitira anzawo anzawo mofanana. Samawapatsa ufulu wocheza nawo kapena ufulu wawo. Amafuna kuuzidwa chilichonse. Amafuna kuti anzawo azitsatira malamulo awo ndikuchita zinthu zomwe awapempha.
Kodi mnzanu ndi wankhanza? Mndandanda wa mmakhalidwe ajor
Ngati muli muubwenzi wovuta, ndipo mukuganiza kuti mnzanuyo ndi wankhanza kapena ayi muyenera kudutsa mumakhalidwe omwe amakhala mwa wanamisili, monga tafotokozera mwachidule pansipa.
1. Kudziona kuti ndiwe wapamwamba
Wolemba zamatsenga amakhulupirira kuti amakhala pakati pa malekezero awiriwo mwina abwino kapena oyipa, apamwamba kapena otsika; palibe njira yapakati yoweruzira munthu.
Amangodzidalira okha ndikuyesera kuchita zinthu paokha- popeza ndi okhawo omwe amatha kumaliza ntchito moyenera.
Wogwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo akakwiya, kukhumudwa kapena kukwiya amamva kuti ali ndi ufulu wopweteketsa anzawo munthawi iliyonse. Amawona kuti athetse malingaliro awo kukhala ofunika kwambiri kuposa kulingalira momwe munthu wakutsogoloyo akumvera.
2. Kufunikira kwathunthu kuti tipeze chidwi
Wolemba zamatsenga sangakhale ndi moyo popanda kupeza chidwi chomwe akufuna. Ngati ali muubwenzi wachikondi, akhala kuti azitengedwa ngati likulu la chilengedwe chonse.
Afuna kuphunzitsidwa, kusamalidwa ndikusamalidwa ndipo sawona kuti akuyenera kuchita chilichonse.
Kachiwiri, kutsimikizika kwanu kutsika konse chifukwa mnzanu wa narcissist adzawona ena kukhala ofunika kwambiri komanso othandiza kuposa anu.
Chilichonse chomwe munganene chidzagwera khutu losamva. Adzachita chilichonse chomwe angathe kuti anthu adziwe za iwo ndi kutamanda zochita zawo, ngakhale atavala mphaka pamutu.
3. Woswa malamulo
Kuphwanya malamulo ndichinthu chomwe ambiri amakonda kuchita. Amakonda kutsatira chifuniro chawo mosasamala kanthu kuti malamulowo amawamanga kuti achite ngakhale atakhala ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa kwambiri. Potero, amadziika pangozi iwo eni ndi ena.
4. Kudodometsa kucheza
Mutha kukhala ndi nkhani zambiri zoti mugawane, koma wolemba zatsamba amakonda kulankhula ndikugawana kuposa kumvera mndandanda wautali wazomwe zakhala zikuchitika m'moyo. Amaliza lipenga lawo mobwerezabwereza.
5. Chiwonetsero chazonama
Njala yoyamikiridwa ndikuwona kuyamikirika pamaso pa anthu zimawapangitsa kuti apange chithunzi cholakwika cha umunthu wawo. Amapanga nkhani ndikupanga chowonadi kuti amvetsere momwe angathere.
6. Wosangalatsa
AchiNarcissist ali ndi mdierekezi weniweni mkati. Ndiwokopa ndipo pachiyambi, amakuchitirani ngati achifumu. Adziwonetsa ngati omwe ali achikondi kwambiri padziko lapansi.Adzakuikani patsogolo ndikukumangirani m'njira kuti mosazindikira mukwaniritse zofuna zawo mdzina lachikondi.
Koma mphindi yomwe chowonadi chimawonongeka pamaso panu ndipo ayamba kuwona chidwi chanu; iwo enieni adzabwera patsogolo panu, kusiya inu muli osakhulupirira kotheratu.
Makhalidwe ang'onoang'ono
- Amasunga chakukhosi
- Zikusonyeza nkhawa
- Kuleza mtima
- Kukambirana hoarder
- Kusintha
- Amalonjeza zopanda pake
Kukuthandizani kuthana ndi bwenzi la narcissist moyenera apa pali malingaliro. Karyl McBride walemba ena mwa mabuku odziwika kwambiri pamutu wakuti: Will I Ever Be Free You?
Ndipo Momwe Mungayendere Kusudzulana Kwakukulu Kwambiri kuchokera kwa Narcissist ndikuchiritsa banja lanu kuti muwongolere omwe apulumuka komanso omwe akumenya nkhondo. Muyenera kuwawerengera ndi kuphunzira malangizo othandizira kuthana ndi mavuto am'banja mwachinyengo.