Zamkati
- Zolimbitsa thupi kutengera pulogalamu yawayilesi yakanema ya TLC, Clean Sweep
- Kusankha zoyenera m'banja
- Zomwe ziyenera kusungidwa, kuponyedwa kapena kuwonjezeredwa
- Sungani, ponyani ndi kuwonjezera zofunikira kwa anthu apabanja nawonso
Ndimakonda kuchita uphungu ndisanakwatirane. Mabanja ali ndi maso owala komanso opindika. Amasangalala ndi ulendo watsopano womwe akufuna kuyamba. Amalemekeza kwambiri bwenzi lawo. Ndiwokonzeka kuyankhula za njira zoyankhulirana ndikuvomera upangiri ndi zida zatsopano. Sanakonzebe zaka za mkwiyo kapena zokhumudwitsa. Ndipo nthawi yayitali ndi nthawi yachisangalalo, kuseka, ndikuponyera masomphenya amtsogolo lawo limodzi. Ndikofunikira, komabe, kuti ndikalimbikitse maanjawa kuti akhalebe ndi ziyembekezo zabwino zakutsogolo. Kudzakhala ziphuphu, padzakhala masiku ovuta, padzakhala zosowa zosakwaniritsidwa, padzakhala zokhumudwitsa. Koma kulowa m'banja ndi kumvetsetsa koyenera ndikofunikira. Yembekezerani zinthu zazikulu koma konzekerani ndikuyesera kupewa zoyipa. Osamakhutira. Limbanani ndi kudzikonda. Ndipo osaleka kudabwitsadi ndikuthokoza kuti winawake wasankha kuti azikhala nanu tsiku lililonse.
Zolimbitsa thupi kutengera pulogalamu yawayilesi yakanema ya TLC, Clean Sweep
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe ndimakhala nawo maanja asanapange ukwati kumawoneka ngati kothandiza kwa iwo pambuyo pake akakumana ndi zovuta zina m'moyo. Ntchitoyi idakhazikitsidwa kale ndi kanema wakale waku TV pa TLC wotchedwa "Clean Sweep." Ngati mungakumbukire chiwonetserochi, katswiri amabwera m'nyumba yosasokonekera ndikuwakakamiza kuti akonzekere ndikuyeretsa. Amatha kudutsa muzinthu zawo pang'onopang'ono ndikuyika zinthu mumulu wosiyanasiyana wotchedwa "Keep", "Toss", kapena "Gulitsa". Amatha kusankha zinthu zomwe sangakhale opanda, zinthu zomwe akufuna kutaya kapena kupereka, ndi zinthu zomwe akufuna kuyika kugulitsa garaja kuti athandize kupeza ndalama zochepa.
Zalangizidwa - Asanakwatirane
Kusankha zoyenera m'banja
Pogwiritsa ntchito zowonetserazi, ndikupempha maanja kuti akhale pansi ndikukambirana magawo ena pazomwe akufuna kusunga, kuponyera, ndikuwonjezera [m'malo mogulitsa]. Pamene anthu awiriwa akusankha kuphatikiza miyoyo yawo muukwati, akusankha kudzizindikiritsa ngati gulu limodzi, banja latsopano, komanso bungwe lawo. Chifukwa chake nkofunikira kuti onse asankhe zomwe zingathetse banja lawo (osati makolo awo, anzawo, awo). Amatenga nthawi kuti ayang'ane kumbuyo kwawo komwe adachokera komanso mbiri yaubwenzi wawo ndikusankha zomwe angafune kuti banja lawo liziwoneka bwanji. Magulu omwe amakambiranawa atha kukhala momwe mikangano idasamalidwira, momwe ndalama zimawonedwera, momwe ana adaleredwera, momwe chikhulupiriro chidathandizira, momwe chikondi chidasungidwira kapena sichinasungidwe amoyo, momwe ndewu zimathetsera, ndani adachita zotani panyumba, chiyani "Malamulo" am'banja osanenedwa analipo, ndi miyambo iti yomwe inali yofunikira.
Zomwe ziyenera kusungidwa, kuponyedwa kapena kuwonjezeredwa
Maanja akuyenda pamitu imeneyi ndikusankha - kodi timasunga izi, timaponyera, kapena kodi timawonjezera china chosiyana? Chitsanzo chikhoza kukhala poyankhulana. Tiyerekeze kuti banja la omwe adzakhale mkwatibwi lasintha mikangano pansi pa rug. Amasunga mtendere ndipo samalankhula zenizeni. Tiyerekeze kuti banja la mkaziyo linali losangalala ndi mikangano ndipo kuti kulalata inali njira yabwinobwino yomenyera. Koma kumenyanako kumathetsedwa nthawi zonse ndipo banja limangopitilira ndikupanga. Chifukwa chake tsopano ayenera kusankha banja lawo. Zolankhula zawo zitha kumveka ngati izi:
“Tiyeni tisunge mawu, tifunefune kukhala ndi mikangano yamtendere. Koma tiyeni tizilankhula nthawi zonse ndipo tisasese zinthu pansi pa rug. Tiyeni tiwonetsetse kuti tisalole dzuwa kuti lilowe pa mkwiyo wathu ndikufulumira kupepesa. Sindikukumbukira kuti ndidamvapo makolo anga akupepesa ndipo sindikufuna kukhala ngati iwowo. Chifukwa chake tiyeni tiwonetsetse kukhala okonzeka kunena kuti 'Pepani' ngakhale sitikufuna kutero ngakhale zitatanthauza kuti tithetse kunyada kwathu. ”
Amuna ndi akazi amtsogolo amavomereza malingaliro omwe ali pamwambapa ndikupita kukwatirana mwachangu kufunafuna izi kukhala zachizolowezi chawo. Kotero kuti tsiku lina, ana awo akapatsidwa uphungu asanakwatirane, amatha kunena, “Ndinkasangalala kuti makolo athu ankakambirana nkhaniyi. Ndinkakonda kuti samakuwa koma kuti nawonso amapewa mikangano. Ndipo ndimawakonda kuti amati ndikupepesa - ngakhale kwa ife nthawi zina.”Ndi chithunzi chokongola bwanji cha zisankho zomwe banja ili limapanga mtsogolo.
Sungani, ponyani ndi kuwonjezera zofunikira kwa anthu apabanja nawonso
Koma iyi ndi nkhani yaukwati - ya anthu apabanja, nanga izi zingathandize bwanji? M'malingaliro mwanga, sikuchedwa kwambiri kukhala ndi nkhani iyi. Mutha kukhala ndi zowawa zambiri, zizolowezi zina zoyipa, malamulo osaneneka pakadali pano; koma mwayi wosunga, kuponyera, kapena kuwonjezera sutuluka pazenera. Zokambiranazi zitha kukhala koyamba kuti mulankhule momwe njira zanu zogwirira ntchito zimachokera ku banja lanu. Zingakuthandizeni kufotokoza chifukwa chake Khrisimasi imasanduka nkhondo chifukwa munthu m'modzi nthawi zonse amafuna kuti azicheza ndi achibale ake pomwe winayo amangokhala chete m'mawa ndi makolo awo okha. Itha kukuthandizani kufotokoza chifukwa chake m'modzi wa inu alimbikira ndalama ndipo winayo amasangalala ndi kagwiritsidwe ntchito. Mungadabwe ndi kusamvana komwe kumabwera, osati kuchokera kuchabwino kapena cholakwika, koma kuchokera kuzinthu zomwe ife akuwona chabwino kapena cholakwika chifukwa tidawona akutengera bwino kapena molakwika kuyambira ali aang'ono.
Chifukwa chake ngakhale mutakhala m'banja zaka 25, pitani kwanu, khalani pansi ndikukambirana. Sankhani zomwe mukufuna kusunga - ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mumamverera kuti zimagwiradi ntchito kwa inu ngati banja kapena zinagwirira ntchito makolo anu kapena ena omwe mumawayang'anira. Sankhani zomwe muyenera kuponya - ndi zizolowezi ziti zomwe zikusokoneza ubale wanu kapena kulumikizana bwino? Ndipo sankhani zomwe mungawonjezere - ndi zida ziti zomwe simunagwiritsepo ntchito kapena ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mukuwona zikugwira ntchito kwa maanja ena zomwe simunagwiritse ntchito?
Inu monga banja mumayamba kulemba malamulo a ukwati wanu. Ndi chinthu chowopsa koma chopatsa mphamvu. Koma kuyambitsa izi lero kudzakuthandizani kuti muzimva ngati maanja omwe atsala pang'ono kukwatirana - omwe amadzimva kuti palibe chomwe chingawapangitse kuti azikonda okondedwa awo komanso omwe ali ofunitsitsa kuchita chilichonse chomwe chingathandize kuti banjali likhale lolimba. Zimapereka chiyembekezo pakusintha ndikupanga mapu a momwe mungafikire kumeneko.