Zamkati
- Mikangano imadziwika nthawi zonse
- Mumalandira "A" pakuchita khama
- Moyo ndi chinsinsi
- Phunzirani zidule zatsopano
- Kupeza wothandizira woyenera
Maanja samakonda kufunafuna upangiri wa maanja kapena chithandizo chamaubwenzi mpaka atakumana ndi zoopsa. Uphungu kwa maanja nthawi zambiri umakhala njira yomaliza kwa mabanja omwe ali pamavuto.
Manyazi omwe amabwera chifukwa chofuna chithandizo cha maubwenzi amatha kulepheretsa mabanja ambiri kupita kuchipatala pomwe mavuto ayamba, kapena mavuto asanayambe.
Komanso, nthawi yanji yolangiza maanja? Ndipo momwe mungapezere othandizira maanja? Kodi pali mafunso ena omwe maanja angavutike kuyankha.
Komabe, pafupipafupi, maanja olimba mtima amabwera kuupangiri wa maubwenzi ngakhale palibe cholakwika. Mabanjawa amayesetsa kupewa m'malo mochiza mavuto am'mbuyomu.
Ukwati umafuna kukonzekera bwino kuti banja likhale ndi tsogolo labwino. Ndipo mosasamala kanthu za kukondana kapena kukondana kumene mumakhala nako kwa wina ndi mnzake, mumakhala ndi mikangano ndi kusiyana.
Ngakhale mavuto ambiri mbanja nthawi zambiri amakhala osakwanira kuti apeze upangiri wa maanja, zina mwazinthuzi zimatha kukhala mavuto azibwenzi za nthawi yayitali.
Zikhale choncho kudzera pamaupangiri apabanja pa intaneti, upangiri wa maukwati musanalowe m'banja, kapena chithandizo chamankhwala chokha nthawi zonse kumakhala bwino kugwiritsa ntchito Ubwino wa upangiri wa maanja pamaubwenzi zinthu zisanachitike.
Pofuna kutsimikiziranso mkanganowu pano pali zifukwa zina zofunira maubwino othandizira maanja pomwe palibe cholakwika zingakhale zabwinoko kuposa kuyambitsa mavuto atayamba kale kapena kuchedwa kuti upangiri waukwati:
Mikangano imadziwika nthawi zonse
Mikangano nthawi zambiri imawonekera kwambiri kwa omwe amangodutsa kuposa omwe akukhudzidwa.
Mavuto obisika chifukwa cholumikizana bwino m'banja kapena maubale atha kupanga zovuta kuthana ndi mavuto pamene awiriwo akulephera kuthana ndi mavuto awo, osamvetsetsa za zomwe anzawo akufuna.
Zotsatira zake, vuto likayamba kukulirakulira, kulephera kwa awiriwa kulankhulana bwino kumayamba kukhudza madera ena komanso mbali zina zaubwenzi wawo.
Mbali inayi, maanja omwe amafunafuna akatswiri kuti awathandize kuthana ndi mavuto m'banja omwe mwina sangawadziwe ali ndi zida zothanirana ndi kusamvana m'banja kapena m'banja lawo.
Zachidziwikire, si banja lililonse lomwe limafunikira wothandizira kuthana ndi mavuto awo, koma kukhala ndi cholinga chachitatu mchipindacho sikuvulaza.
Mumalandira "A" pakuchita khama
Khama, lokha, lomwe limafunikira kuti azitha kupatsidwa upangiri maanja nthawi zonse zitha kutanthauza kuti maanja akuyika mphamvu ndi kulimbikira m'banja ndi kuthana ndi mavuto kuposa maanja omwe satero.
Lingaliro lopezekapo upangiri wa maanja pazithandizo zodzitetezera m'malo mothana ndi zovuta zitha kukhala zamtengo wapatali. Kupanga upangiri wa maanja kukhala patsogolo kungapangitse kuti azimva mgwirizano komanso mgwirizano.
Moyo ndi chinsinsi
Pokhala moyo wosadalirika, palibe banja lomwe lingakhale lotetezeka ku mavuto kapena tsoka - kulimba kwa banja kuyambira pachiyambi, kumakhala bwino.
Banja lomwe limakhala ndi nthawi yolembera limodzi, sabata iliyonse kapena mosagwirizana, atha kukhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi moyo limodzi ndikupanga chitetezo ndi mgwirizano.
Kwanthawizonse ndi nthawi yayitali, ndipo chilichonse chitha kuchitika, chifukwa chake ndichofunika kukonzekera pasadakhale.
Kumbukirani kuti uphungu suli wa maanja okha omwe ali pamavuto komanso kwa maanja omwe akusangalala ndi maubale awo.
Phunzirani zidule zatsopano
Phindu lina la maupangiri apabanja ndikuti mumayamba kuphunzira zidule zatsopano, zododometsa, ndi machitidwe.
Kupatula phindu lodziwikiratu la kulumikizana kwabwino komanso kuthana ndi kusamvana, kulangizidwa koyambirira kwa mabanja kungalimbikitse magawo ena amoyo wanu. Zina mwa izo zalembedwa pansipa:
- Mlangizi wa maanja kapena wothandizira angakuthandizeni kuwunika momwe mumakhalira ndikuzindikira zomwe zimayambitsa izi. Makhalidwe otere akadziwika, mutha kuphunzira kuwongolera.
- Kumakuthandizani kuti muziyembekezera moyenerera osati ndi mnzanu wokha komanso ndi inunso. Uphungu wa maanja itha kukuthandizani kuti muyang'ane mkati ndikulankhula ndi ziwanda zanu komanso zosakwanira m'moyo wanu.
- Mumaphunzira kuyankha mlandu pazomwe mukuchita ndikupanga chithunzi chenicheni cha ubale wanu.
- Zimalimbitsa chibwenzi chomwe mumagawana ndi wokondedwa wanu. Mutha kuphunzira njira zatsopano zopezera chikondi cha mnzanu, ndipo nawonso atha kupanga chimodzimodzi kwa inu.
Kupeza wothandizira woyenera
Monga banja, ngati muli otseguka kuti mupeze upangiri wa maanja musanakumane ndi zovuta zomwe zingakhalepo, izi zingakuthandizeni kulimbitsa banja lanu.
Koma chimodzi mwazinthu zazikuluzikulu zomwe zimakhudza banja kutsatira upangiri wa maanja akupeza mlangizi woyenera kapena wothandizira. Ndiloleni ndikuthandizeni kudutsa chonchi.
Tsatirani izi ngati chitsogozo chopeza mlangizi woyenera komanso woyenera:
Gawo 1 - Kuyambira kusaka
Ili ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri pakupeza upangiri wabwino wamaanja. Mutha kuyamba mwa kufunsa anzanu ndi abale anu kuti akuthandizeni; iyi ndi njira yofunidwa kwambiri momwe mungapezere mayankho kuchokera kwa munthu amene mungamukhulupirire.
Ngati kufunsa malingaliro sikukukondweretsani, mutha kuyang'ana pamakina apadera komanso odalirika monga:
National Registry of Marriage-Friendly Therapists, The International Center for Excellence in Emotionally-Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), ndi The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT).
Muthanso kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti. Komabe, iyi iyenera kukhala njira yanu yomaliza.
Gawo 2- Fufuzani ziyeneretso ndi luso loyenera
Ngati simunapatsidwe kale, funsani maphunziro auphungu kuti awone momwe angakhalire okonzeka kuthana ndi nkhawa zanu.
Kuphatikiza pa maphunziro apamwamba, funsani za ukadaulo waluso. Kusankha mlangizi wokhala ndi chidziwitso chochuluka kungakhale kofunikira, komanso.
Gawo 3- Malangizo ofunikira aphungu
Gawo ili likuthandizani kumvetsetsa za mikhalidwe ndi mikhalidwe yomwe muyenera kuyang'ana nthawi yanji posankha mlangizi wa banja.
Yambani ndikufunsa mafunso ofufuza, zikhulupiriro zawo ndi ziti, ngati ali okwatiwa kapena ayi, ngati adasudzulidwa, ngati ali ndi ana, ndi zina zambiri.
Mafunso oterewa angakuthandizeni kuzindikira momwe mungakhalire ogwirizana ndi mlangizi wanu.