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Nditatenga Gary Chapman, 5 Chilankhulo ChachikondiKuwunika kovomerezeka, ndidaphunzira chilankhulo changa chachikondi ndikumakhudza ndipo chilankhulo changa chachiwiri ndi nthawi yabwino. Ndimasangalala kukhala ndi amuna anga ndipo timakonda kuthera masiku athu tikuyenda, zinthu zakale, kukwera mapiri, komanso kudya limodzi.
Koma phunziro limodzi lomwe ndaphunzira zokhudza banja, ndichowonadi kuti kuti timukonde bwenzi lathu, tiyenera kukhalanso paulendo wokondana tokha. Ndikatenga nthawi yodzisamalira ndekha, ndili ndi zambiri zoti ndipatse mwamuna wanga ndi anthu ena m'moyo wanga.
Makandulo aumodzi ndi chizindikiro chokongola patsiku laukwati chifukwa mitima iwiri imakhala imodzi. Pamene ndinakwatirana ndi amuna anga tinali ndi kandulo ya umodzi paguwa, komanso tinali ndi makandulo awiri osiyana mbali zonse za kandulo ya umodzi. Makandulo awiriwa amayimira miyoyo yathu, mabanja omwe tidachokera, zosangalatsa zapadera, ndi magulu osiyanasiyana a abwenzi. Makandulo awiri ozungulira kandulo yathu yaumgwirizano azikumbukira nthawi zonse kuti tasankha ulendo limodzi, koma palibe munthu m'modzi yemwe angatimalize. Ndife amodzi komabe tili anthu awiri okhala ndi zosowa zosiyana.
Ndikofunika kukhala nthawi yotalikirana
Mwamuna wanga ndi ine tonse timafunikira nthawi yopatukana kuti tiziwerenga mabuku, kufufuza zosangalatsa, komanso kukhala ndi okondedwa athu. Ndipo tikakhala ndi nthawi limodzi, timakhala ndi zambiri zoti tizipereka ndikukambirana. Moyo umakhala wosasunthika, wosasangalatsa komanso wosasamala tikalumikizidwa m'chiuno, koma tikapeza nthawi yoti tikwaniritse zosowa zathu timapeza kusangalala, mtundu, ndi chisangalalo muukwati wathu.
M'buku la Dr. John Gottman, Mfundo Zisanu ndi Ziwiri Zopangira Ukwati Kugwira Ntchito, amagawana kuti, "Pali nthawi zina pamene mumakopeka ndi wokondedwa wanu ndipo nthawi zina mumamva kufunikira koti mubwerere ndikubwezeretsanso ufulu wanu." Kupeza malire pakati pa kulumikizana ndi ufulu ndi gule yemwe ine ndi mwamuna wanga tonse tikuphunzirabe. Muubwenzi wathu, ine ndine wokondedwadi amene amafuna kukondana komanso nthawi yocheza; pomwe amuna anga amadziyimira pandekha kuposa ine.
Zaka zambiri zapitazo, yoga idakhala njira yodzisamalira ndekha yomwe sindikufuna kukhala popanda. Nditayamba kuchita yoga, ndimafuna kuti amuna anga azichita nane. Ndidamufuna kuti azichita nawo zauzimu komanso zakuthupi chifukwa ndimakonda kukhala naye ndipo ndimamvanso ngati zomwe zitha kukhala zolumikizana kwa ife. Ndipo kuti amupatse ulemu, adayesa nane kangapo, ndipo samadana ndi yoga, koma sichinthu chake.
Kukhala ndi madera osiyana
Kunena zowona, zidanditengera kanthawi kuti ndisiye malingaliro anga okonda yoga limodzi. Ndinayenera kudzutsidwa kuti ichi ndi chizolowezi chomwe chimandithandiza kudzaza chikho changa, koma sinjira yabwino ya amuna anga kuthera ola limodzi. Amalolera kupita kokayenda, kusewera ng'oma, kukwera njinga yake, kugwira ntchito zapakhomo kapena kuthera nthawi mongodzipereka. Zoti amakonda ntchito yakunyumba ndi mwayi wanga chifukwa ndimanyansidwa nazo! Zinali zofunika kuti ubale wathu ukhale bwino, kuti ndizindikire kuti yoga siyidyetsa moyo wake, koma imandipatsa chakudya ndipo ndikofunikira kuti ndigwiritse ntchito nthawi ino popanda iye. Ndili ndi zambiri zoti ndipereke ubale wathu ngati ndapatula nthawi ino pandekha.
Palinso moyo wochuluka mwa ine komanso mu ubale wanga ndikamacheza ndi okondedwa amtengo wapatali. Ndizopatsa moyo kutenga mphwake ndi mphwake kumakanema, kuyenda ndi zibwenzi, ndikukambirana pafoni ndi anzanga. A John Donne ndiotchuka kwambiri ponena kuti, "Palibe munthu wachilumba." Momwemonso, palibe ukwati womwe uli pachilumba. Timafunikira anthu ambiri kuti tipeze chidzalo m'moyo.
Tengani kanthawi kuti muganizire mafunso ofunikira awa:
- Kodi mumatani kuti mudzaze chikho chanu?
- Kodi mukulemekeza zomwe mnzanu akufuna kuti azisamalira?
- Kodi ndi liti pamene mudakhala nthawi yabwino kuchita china chake chotsimikizira moyo ndi wina kupatula mnzanu?
- Kodi mumalola malo okwanira?
Popeza ndine mnzake yemwe ndimakonda kwambiri nthawi yabwino ndikukhudza, pamakhala nthawi zina pamene ndimauza amuna anga kuti ndikufuna nthawi yochuluka yocheza nawo. Ndipo momwemonso, amandidziwitsanso akafuna nthawi yokhala yekha kuti adzilimbikitsenso tisanalumikizane. Kupeza chithunzi choyenera pakati paubwenzi ndi kudziyimira pawokha sizotheka nthawi zonse. Chofunika koposa, ndikuzindikira kwathu kuti zonsezi ndizofunikira m'banja, motero tsiku ndi tsiku timayesetsa kukambirana ndandanda wathu, chifukwa chake tikupanga malo azokhumba zathu ndi zosowa zathu tonse.
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Mwina muyenera kudzikumbutsa kufunikira kodziyimira pawokha komanso kulumikizana, pakupanga malo mnyumba mwanu ndi kandulo imodzi yayikulu kuyimira moyo limodzi, kenako ndikuyika makandulo awiri ang'onoang'ono ozungulira lalikulu, kuwonetsa kufunikira kwa moyo wanu . Ndikukhulupirira kuti malo omwe timalola kulumikizana ndi makina athu otithandizira, timakhala ndi mwayi wokhala limodzi, mpaka pomwe timagawane. Chifukwa chake yambani kudzipezera malo ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti zibweretsa moyo komanso chisangalalo muukwati wanu.