Zamkati
- Zomwe zimakhala ngati kukhala ndi wamankhwala osokoneza bongo
- Chifukwa ninji?
- Kodi mutha kukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino ndi wanamisili?
- 1. Phunzirani kukambirana
- 2. Musalole kuti kudzidalira kwanu kuvulazidwe
- 3. Pezani thandizo
Tonsefe timadziwa munthu m'modzi wamisili; enafe timakhala ndi m'modzi ndipo enafe mwina timamukonda. Komabe, kukhala ndi munthu wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo sizothandiza. Wolemba zamatsenga amafotokozedwa kuti "Munthu amene amadzikondera kwambiri kapena amasilira". Palibe cholakwika ndi kudzikonda wekha, komabe, wamisala walumpha malire a kudzikonda napita nawo pamlingo wina - kudzikonda.
Anthu omwe amakhala nawo kapena omwe amachita nawo ma narcissist ndiye omwe amadziwa momwe zingakhalire zosokoneza.
Amatha kulepheretsa kukula kwanu ndipo nthawi zonse amafuna kudziyamikira komanso kudzithokoza. Koma ndi zovuta zanji zomwe zimakhala chifukwa chokhala ndi wankhanza ndipo mutha kukhaladi ndiubwenzi wabwino ndi iwo? Tiyeni tipeze!
Zomwe zimakhala ngati kukhala ndi wamankhwala osokoneza bongo
Ingoganizirani kukhala pachibwenzi momwe mumadzipereka nthawi zonse, kunyengerera, ndikupereka 100% yanu osayamikiridwa. Zili ngati kukhala ndi wina yemwe akuwoneka kuti samasamala za china chilichonse koma iwo eni. Mutha kudabwa kuti bwanji wina angayambane chibwenzi, ndiye chifukwa sizinali choncho nthawi zonse.
Poyamba, ma narcissist amatha kukhala anthu osiririka. Nthawi zambiri amakhala moyo wachipani, anthu otchuka kwambiri omwe mumawadziwa.
Mutha kukhala kuti mumakopeka nawo kapena nthawi zina mumawamvera chisoni. Umu ndi momwe amapangira anthu kuwakonda.
Komabe, zonsezi zimangokhala ndewu zoyipa, katundu wambiri wamavuto komanso zopweteketsa mtima.
Chifukwa ninji?
Narcissists ndizosatheka kukondweretsa. Palibe chomwe mungachite chingakhale chokwanira. Amawoneka kuti ali ndi chidziwitso chodzitcha okha kukongola. Zili ngati kuti palibe chofunikira kapena chokwanira kwa iwo. Izi, muubwenzi, zimakhala zowopsa kwambiri. Popeza amatha kutsogolera munthu nthawi zonse kuti akhulupirire kuti ndichinthu china chake cholakwika.
Ndi anthu odzikonda omwe sasamala za momwe zochita zawo zimakhudzira ena.
Amawachitira zabwino osaganizira momwe angakhalire ndi anthu ena. Uku ndikusintha kwa siginecha ndipo kungakuthandizeni kuti muwone mosavuta.
Zotsatira zoyipa zakukhala ndi wankhanza ndikulekerera mkwiyo wawo.
Mkwiyo ndi chikhalidwe chofala chomwe chimapezeka pafupifupi pafupifupi onse ochita zankhanza. Zitha kuchititsanso kuti anthu azinena mawu achipongwe ndipo nthawi zina, zayamba kufika poipa kwambiri.Wogwiritsira ntchito zida zankhanza akaitanidwa kapena kukumana ndi machitidwe awo, chitetezo chawo chimakupatsirani chipongwe kapena kukuwa.
Wolemba zachiwerewere alibe chisoni, chifukwa chake, nthawi zambiri amapezeka kuti amadzipangira chifukwa chozunzidwa ndi chuma.
Osandimvetsa molakwika, narcissists sadzavomereza zolakwa zawo. Komabe, kuti apange mikhalidwe momwe angakondere ayesetsa kuzithetsa pogwiritsa ntchito zinthu zakuthupi. Zonsezi, poyambirira, zitha kugwira ntchito ngati pachibwenzi. Koma, mudzawona zochita zawo kukhala zopanda pake komanso zopanda pake pamapeto pake.
Kodi mutha kukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino ndi wanamisili?
Palibe chomwe chingakhale chathanzi paubwenzi ndi wankhanza. Komabe, ngati muli kale pachibwenzi ndi wamatsenga, mutha kuzipangitsa kuti zisakhale zovuta. Ndi kusintha pang'ono pamakhalidwe anu, muwona kusintha pang'ono pamakhalidwe awo.
1. Phunzirani kukambirana
Chinthu chimodzi chosintha ndi "malingaliro onse kapena opanda kanthu". Muyenera kudzilimbitsa nokha ndikudziwa zomwe muyenera kuloledwa kapena zosayenera.
Muyenera kufotokoza mbali yanu pazomwe zachitika ndipo mwanjira iyi mutha kukhala ndi zomwe mukufuna. Wolemba zamatsenga nthawi zonse amayesetsa kuti asachite chilichonse chomwe akufuna. Izi zikuyenera kuyima.
2. Musalole kuti kudzidalira kwanu kuvulazidwe
Wolemba zamatsenga amadyetsa anthu osadzidalira chifukwa amatha kunyengerera. Musakhale nyama yawo.
Zikhala zabwino kuti wolemba nkhani azikhala ndi munthu wotsika kuti athe kumugwiritsa ntchito kupeza zosowa zawo.
Musalole kuti wamankhwala omwe mumachita nawo masewerawa akupangitseni kumva kuti muyenera kulandira chilichonse chosafunikira. Mukatero, kuzunzidwa komanso kusayamikiridwa sizingachitike.
3. Pezani thandizo
Musaope kufunafuna thandizo kuchokera kwa okondedwa anu. Lankhulani zamavuto anu ndipo ngati pakufunika pitani kuchipatala. Ndizovuta kusintha munthu ndipo sizomwe muyenera kukhala mukufunanso kuti muchite. Koma mutha kuwapangitsa kuti asinthe momwe amakuwonerani.
Kukhala ndi wamankhwala osokoneza bongo kumatha kukhala chokumana nacho chowopsa. Koma mutha kuthandiza kuti zinthu zizikhala bwino. Narcissism itha kukhala chifukwa chakupwetekedwa muubwana kapena kuleredwa mwankhanza ndipo palibe ulemu womwe umapangidwira anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lamakhalidwe onyansa.