Zamkati
- Kodi ndi mwamuna weniweni? Kodi akutsatira njira yaubwenzi? Kapena wophulitsa bomba?
- Kodi izi zinali zachizolowezi zokhala pachibwenzi? Kapena kunali kuphulitsa bomba?
- Mawu a wophulitsa chikondi
- Ndiye kodi chibwenzi chabwinobwino chimawoneka bwanji?
- Okonda mabomba, mukamayesa kukhazikitsa malire achita chimodzi mwazinthu ziwiri:
- Okonda mabomba ndi opusitsa
- Okonda Mabomba sakhala otetezeka modabwitsa
Chifukwa chake mwatuluka tsiku loyamba, ndipo podikirira tsiku lanu kuti mubwere ku lesitilanti, iye akuyenda ndi maluwa akulu 24 ofiira.
Lingaliro nthawi yomweyo limadutsa m'mutu mwanu, pamapeto pake mudakumana ndi mwamuna weniweni. Ndani ali ndi kalasi, ulemu ndi zina zambiri?
Kodi ndi mwamuna weniweni? Kodi akutsatira njira yaubwenzi? Kapena wophulitsa bomba?
Kwa zaka 28 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa wamkulu, mlangizi komanso Wophunzitsa moyo David Essel wakhala akuthandiza anthu padziko lonse lapansi kuti azimvetsetsa kusiyana pakati pa chibwenzi ndi kuphulitsa bomba.
Pansipa, David akufotokoza zakusiyana, zomwe ndizofunikira kwambiri ngati mukufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti muli m'dziko la zibwenzi ndi munthu wowona mtima, wowona komanso wowona.
“Miyezi ingapo yapitayo kasitomala wanga adandiitana tonse tili osangalala. Tinkachita magawo athu kudzera pafoni pomwe amakhala mdera lina ladzikolo, ndipo ndidamuthandiza kuti athetse chibwenzi cha zaka 8, chomwe chidamuwononga kwambiri.
Monga ndimachitira ndi makasitomala anga onse, ndikulangiza pambuyo paubwenzi wautali monga choncho, kuti musakhale ndi masiku 365 motsatira. Monga njira yokhazikika, kukhazikika, kumasula mkwiyo ndikukhala osangalala m'moyo wosakwatira.
Ngakhale miyezi isanu ndi inayi inali itadutsa, anali wokonzeka kubwerera kudziko la zibwenzi. Ndipo amafuna kundiuza zonse za munthu wodabwitsayu yemwe anali atangokumana naye kumene.
Adapita kunyumba kwake, kuti akakomane pamseu wakumwa khofi, pafupifupi maola awiri pagalimoto, kuti akakhale naye mphindi 15 ndikumwa khofi.
Anachita chidwi kuti anali wofunitsitsa kuchita izi kuyambira pomwepo.
Momwe amamwa khofi ndikucheza, anali akukonzekera kuti azimuwona tsiku lililonse masiku asanu otsatira. Zomwe zimamveka zovuta koma anali wokondwa kukhala ndi bambo yemwe amafuna kukhala naye kwambiri.
Kenako adayamba mizere yofanana ya chibwenzi, "Maso anu ndi okongola kuposa maso omwe ndidawonapo. Kumwetulira kwanu kumangokhala kokongola. Ine sindinayambe ndakumanapo ndi mkazi yemwe ali wowoneka bwino kwambiri, ndi wanzeru chotere. ”
Pomwe amayika pamayamikidwe, anali kusangalala kwambiri, pafupifupi wamisala, kuti mwamunayo azikhala wachisomo komanso wokoma mtima komanso mopitilira apo.
Ndipo atamuuza, ali wofunitsitsa kupita kukabwereka ma scooter onse kuti akwere kunyanja. Ndipo ngati atakhala kuti ali ndi vuto lililonse panyumba pake, angakonde kulowa ndikukonzekera kwaulere chifukwa ndi ntchito yomwe adagwira.
Ndipo ngati samakhala otanganidwa sabata yotsatira akufuna kupanga madeti azinthu zambiri komanso zosangalatsa zomwe angathe kuchita limodzi. Anali ndi chimwemwe chodzaza tsaya.
Kodi izi zinali zachizolowezi zokhala pachibwenzi? Kapena kunali kuphulitsa bomba?
Kwa milungu ingapo yotsatira, ngakhale ndidamulangiza kuti achepetse nthawi yomwe amamuwona mwamunayo, adachita chidwi ndi kufunitsitsa kwake kuchita chilichonse ndi chilichonse kwa miniti yomwe adafunsa.
Nthawi ina, ndidamuuza kuti asamale, kuti ngakhale anali ndi nyumba yansanjika ziwiri yomwe ikamupempha kuti ayikenso nkhani zina 40 pamwamba atha kuyamba ntchito yomanga mawa.
Ndinali kuseka, iyenso anali, koma ndimayesetsa kubweretsa mfundoyi: izi sizachilendo pakukonzanso padziko lapansi.
Ndipo, dziko lonse lapansi lidagwa.
Atayamba kuda nkhawa ndikupezeka kwake ndikutsatira malangizo anga kuti ndimuwone kuti angomuwona masiku ochepa amwezi, adayamba kumukalipira.
Mawu a wophulitsa chikondi
“Kupatula apo, ndakuchitira iwe, tsopano ukubwerera mmbuyo? Mkazi wabwino angayamikire zonse zomwe ndikuchita, ndipo akufuna kuthera nthawi yochuluka ndi ine. Sindikumvetsa kuti ungakhale wosayamika bwanji ndi zonse zomwe ndachita kale. "
Awa ndi mawu a bomber wachikondi.
Bummer wachikondi amakhala wopanda chitetezo. Chifukwa chake kubisa kusadzidalira kwawo, amalemetsa omwe angakhale nawo pachibwenzi, kapena zomwe ndingakonde kunena omwe angawakhumudwitse, ndi mphatso, zoyamika ndi zina zambiri.
Ntchito zantchito?
Oo Mulungu wanga, achita chilichonse kuti athandizire wokondedwa wawo watsopano, kuti awakokere patsamba la malingaliro ndi lakuthupi lomwe amaluka pamene akuyika ndowe yomwe ndiyosiyana kwambiri ndi chibwenzi chokhala pachibwenzi.
Pofuna kufotokoza momveka bwino, amayi akhoza kuchita izi. Zaka zapitazo ndimakumbukira ndili pachibwenzi ndi mayi wina yemwe adayesetsa kundigulira zovala, ndikusiya chakudya chamadzulo kuofesi yanga, ndikupanga keke yanga yomwe ndimaikonda. Amakhala akundiyika, ndipo kwakanthawi kwagwira ntchito.
Ndiye kodi chibwenzi chabwinobwino chimawoneka bwanji?
Ndikuganiza kuti zili bwino ngati bambo akufuna kugula maluwa ake a deti tsiku loyamba, koma akuyenda kumalo odyera okhala ndi maluwa 24, kapena maluwa 48, kapena m'modzi mwa makasitomala ena omwe ndidawathandiza kuthana ndi mabomba ambiri, adatumiza limo kuti amutenge, sanali mu limo, ndi maluwa 128 mkati.
Mabomba achikondi chenicheni.
Padziko la chibwenzi, mwamuna wotetezeka sangafunikire kuchita zinthu kuti ayese kukopa ndi kupambana mkazi. Ngakhale, kodi mkazi amayenera kuchita zonse zomwe angathe kuti ayese kuyika chikole ndi mwamuna yemwe amamufuna.
Ndiyeno timayang'ana zomwe anachita pamwambapa pomwe kasitomala wanga adayamba kubwerera mmbuyo ndikuyika malire, adataya.
Okonda mabomba, mukamayesa kukhazikitsa malire achita chimodzi mwazinthu ziwiri:
- Adzakwiya. Ndipo yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito manyazi ndi kudzimvera chisoni kuti mubwererenso patsamba lawo.
- Iwo amangosowa. Masewerawa atha, agwidwa, ndipo malire ndi malire ataponyedwa kwa wophulitsayo, amatha kungosowa kwamuyaya.
Munthu wathanzi, pomwe mnzake yemwe akukwatirana naye akunena kuti akufuna malo owonjezera, amvetsetsa kuti, kubwerera, ndikupatsa munthuyo malo oti apume kuti awone ngati chibwenzicho chikuyenera kutero.
Okonda mabomba ndi opusitsa
Okonda mabomba ndi opusitsa. Osatetezeka. Ndipo adzachita chilichonse ndi chilichonse chomwe angakwanitse kuti akuyese pogona kapena kukuyesani kuti mudzipereke kwa iwo masiku angapo pasadakhale.
Mmodzi mwa makasitomala anga ena, adaganiza zobwerera m'mbuyo ndikuyamba chibwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe anali naye zaka zapitazo, ngakhale ubalewo udadzaza ndi zisokonezo komanso zisudzo kwa zaka zisanu ndi zitatu zomwe adakhala pachibwenzi.
Ndipo yemwe anali bwenzi lake lakale adatani kuti ayese kuyika nthawi ino?
Anamutumizira meseji kuti nazi zomwe akufuna kuchita: kukhala masiku atatu limodzi kunyanja yamchere mwezi uno, kupita ku Jamaica masiku anayi, mwezi wotsatira kupita kuukwati ku Canada kwa m'modzi mwaomwe anali kukhala nawo ku koleji , ndipo mwezi wotsatira adzawononga Khrisimasi ku New York City.
Kuti anzanga akuphulitsa bomba.
Ngati mukufuna thandizo, ndipo simukudziwa ngati munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi ndi wophulitsa chikondi, werenganinso zitsanzo zomwe zili pamwambapa.
Anthu otetezeka, athanzi safunika kukupatsani mphatso, Kuthokoza kopitilira ndi zina zambiri. Amadalira pantchitoyi. Ndi olimba, okhathamira komanso osangalala osakhala pachibwenzi ndi aliyense.
Wophulitsa wachikondi? Mosiyana kwambiri.
Okonda Mabomba sakhala otetezeka modabwitsa
Amakhala osatetezeka modabwitsa. Afuna kugula njira yawo kulowa mumtima mwanu. Sinthani njira zawo kulowa mumtima mwanu kapena kuyamika kulowa mumtima mwanu kapena zoyipa kwambiri, konzekerani miyezi iwiri ikubwerayi, ndipo musanadziwe kuti muli pachibwenzi chokwanira ndi wophulitsa chikondi.
Chepetsani.
Palibe chifukwa chothamangira ndikudzipereka kwa wina aliyense, khalani ndi nthawi, ndipo pemphani akatswiri ngati simukutsimikiza kuti mwalowa m'madzi opunduka.
Ntchito ya David Essel idavomerezedwa ndi anthu monga malemu Wayne Dyer, ndipo wotchuka Jenny McCarthy akuti "David Essel ndiye mtsogoleri watsopano wa gulu loganiza bwino."
Buku lake la 10, logulitsanso nambala imodzi, limatchedwa "focus! Iphani zolinga zanu ... Kuwongolera kotsimikizika kakuchita bwino kwakukulu, malingaliro amphamvu ndi chikondi chachikulu. "