Zamkati
Palibe amene ali wangwiro. Palibe chinthu chonga munthu wangwiro, banja langwiro, kapena ukwati wangwiro. Ukwati ukhala ndi zovuta zake. Izi sizomwe zili 'zoyipa' kapena 'zabwino', ndi chinthu chomwe chidzakhaleko. Padzakhala masiku ndi nthawi zomwe zibwera pamene padzakhala mavuto m'banja. Ndizosapeweka. Koma mumatani mukakumana ndi mavutowa? Mwanjira ina, mumatani pamavuto omwe satha?
Kulengedwa kwa vuto
Kodi mavuto amapangidwa bwanji? Mavuto amapangidwa m'njira zambiri. Njira imodzi ndipamene m'modzi mwa omwe ali mgulu la anzawo akumakumana ndi zosasangalatsa nthawi ina. Wokhumudwitsidwayo atha kugawana zakukhosi ndi mnzakeyo. Izi zimapangitsa kuti azigawana malingaliro awo omwe mwina sangakhale ogwirizana ndi awo. Izi ndi zomwe anthu amatcha 'mkangano'. Mwanjira ina, "Nayi malingaliro anga ndi umboni wotsimikizira kuti ndikulemekeza." Wokondedwa aliyense sasunthika ndipo mkangano sunathe.
Kuchepetsa kukondana komanso kuyandikira
Ndi vuto lina lililonse kapena mikangano yomwe sinathetsedwe, imayamba kuwononga banja. Okwatilana muukwati amayamba kutaya chibwenzi ndi kuyandikana wina ndi mnzake. Mavuto onsewa m'banja akuchedwa ndipo mosazindikira kapena akumanga zopinga. Zimakhala zovuta kuti anthu awiri azikhala oyandikana ngati mavuto sakuthetsa. Nkhani zosathetsedwa zimayala maziko osunga chakukhosi. Kusunga chakukhosi sikungokhala kukwiya kosathetsedwa.
Kulankhulana palokha si vuto
Ndiye vuto ndi chiyani? Kodi ndi kulumikizana? Osati kwenikweni, ndichinthu chodziwika bwino kwambiri. Kuyankhulana kwakukulu si vuto chifukwa timalumikizana nthawi zonse mbanja. Vuto apa lili pagulu laling'ono lamalumikizidwe lotchedwa kuthetsa mikangano kapena kusowa kothetsa mikangano. Pakakhala vuto lomwe likubwera, onse awiri amayamba kuthana ndi mavuto. Kuthetsa kusamvana ndi luso lofunika kwambiri kuti lidziwe bwino m'mabanja.
Maukwati samakhala opanda mavuto kapena mikangano. Mavuto akathetsedwa osathetsedwa, amayamba kukhumudwitsa onse awiri komanso banja lomwe. Pofuna kupewa kuwonongeka kwaubwenzi, ulemu, ndi kuyandikirana, kuthetsa mikangano ndikofunikira. Kuthetsa mikangano sikumangochitika kokha. Ndi luso lomwe onse awiri m'banjamo adzapange. Mabanja amatha kuwona mindandanda yawo, kuchita nawo intaneti limodzi, kapena kulumikizana ndi Chilolezo Chokwatirana Ukwati kuti athandizidwe pa izi.