Zamkati
- Kupanga chisankho chokonda
- Cholinga chachikondi
- Zolimbikitsa kukonda
- Kuchiritsa kuchokera ku chikondi
- Chikondi chopanda malire
Pali mbali zisanu zokondana mwadala zomwe tiziyang'ana mukamakonda mnzanu, kapena mnzanu:
- Chisankho chokonda
- Kukonda ndi cholinga
- Zoyambitsa kukonda
- Kukonda mukuchiritsidwa kutayika kwa zomwe zinali
- Kukonda mosagwirizana
Kukonda wokondedwa wanu mwadala kudzaphatikizapo kupita patsogolo mwadala kuti mupirire mayesero, ndi chikondi chonse.
Kupanga chisankho chokonda
Mmoyo wathu, aliyense payekha ali ndi zosankha, ndikupanga zisankho. Timadziwitsidwa kwa mnzathu ndipo ubale wathu umakula pakapita nthawi (zimangosintha). Chikondi chimayamba munjira yolumikizanayi. Ndi chifukwa cha kulumikizana kumene mgwirizano ungachitike. Mumasankha chikondi. Mutha kukhala ndikumagwira ntchito m'banja lanu, kapena kusiya nthawi ikakhala yovuta. Kaya ndi umagwirira, kapena mphamvu yoyendetsa yomwe yakubweretsani pamodzi; mwasankha kukhala ndikukonda. Ndi kusankha kwanu. Ndi dala.
Cholinga chachikondi
Pali chifukwa chomwe anthu amapangira mgwirizano, kukhala ndiukwati. Pali zoyembekeza, zikhulupiliro, ndi machitidwe omwe anthu amatsatira. Pali kufanana ndi kusiyanasiyana komwe kumakwaniritsa zomwe zikugwirizana. Pali cholinga pakupeza wokwatirana naye, kukhala wolungama muukwati, kuthana ndi nthawi yovuta, ndikukhala ndi moyo wokondana tsiku lina. Cholinga chanu mchikondi chimawonetsa zolinga zanu.
Zolimbikitsa kukonda
Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chimakukakamizani mnzanu? Kumbukirani momwe mudakonderana wina ndi mnzake. Monga inueni:
- Ndi ntchito yotani yomwe yachitika mbanja?
- Kodi nchifukwa ninji muli ofunitsitsa kugwira ntchitoyo muukwati wonse?
- Zidagwira ntchito m'mbuyomu kwa inu?
- Mukuyesetsa kuti mugwirizane m'banja?
Mukumbukira zokumbutsani zabwinozi zakanthawi zam'mbuyomu pomwe mudalimbikitsidwa kukonda. Mukukumbukira zomwe ndimachita komanso malonjezo omwe mudapanga.
Kuchiritsa kuchokera ku chikondi
Nthawi zambiri m'mabwenzi, timavulaza wokondedwa wathu, kapena tadzivulaza tokha. Kukonda machiritso kumatanthauza kudziwa kuti pali bala lomwe ungafune, kusamalira bala, kulisamalira mpaka litachira. Mabala a munthu aliyense samachira msanga. Kuleza mtima ndi njira imodzi yochiritsira. Momwemonso chiyembekezo. Kondani kwathunthu kufikira mutachira.
Chikondi chopanda malire
Palibe zadzidzidzi mukamakonda mnzanu. Palibe malo a quid pro quo (izi za izo). Ngakhale, ndi mgwirizano ndipo onse awiri amayesetsa kuchita mbali yawo, awa si masewera opambana payekhapayekha. Mgwirizanowu umatanthauza kukonda mwadala ngakhale zinthu zikuwoneka bwanji. Kudzipereka ndi udindo wokonda mnzanu - wopanda cholakwa komanso wopanda chiweruzo.
Kumbukirani, mumayamba kukonda, mumapitiliza kukonda, ndipo mumatha kukonda mnzanu mwadala nthawi yayitali.