Zamkati
Kukonzekera upangiri waukwati
Ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti chibwenzi chanu chafika poti sichingabwererenso, chadzaza mikangano, upangiri wazokwatirana ungakuthandizeni kumanganso banja losangalala.
Komabe, banja lomwe lili ndi mikangano limatanthauza kuti inu ndi mnzanu simuli oyenera kukonzekera ndikukhala ndi mafunso oyenera kufunsa pokambirana zaukwati.
Popeza kutengeka kwakanthawi kochulukirapo muubwenzi wosokonekera, mutha kuiwala zomwe mungapemphe, ndipo mutha kukhala oziziritsa ubongo mukulangiza zaukwati.
Gawo lofunikira kwambiri pakupindula kwambiri ndi gawo la upangiri waukwati ndikukonzekera pasadakhale. Ichi ndichifukwa chake takonzekeretsa katswiri pamafunso ofunikira kwambiri pamaukwati oti mufunse mnzanu.
Katswiri kuzungulira mafunso ofunikira apabanja
Akatswiri eni ake amaulula mafunso oyenererana ndi okwatirana omwe angafunse mnzanu komanso momwe awa angakuthandizireni kufotokoza nkhawa zanu ndikupeza mayankho pamavuto anu abanja.
KEVIN WOTSATIRA, Ph.D.
Ananenapo kale ndi CS Lewis kuti banja loyenera ndi lomwe mungatembenukire kwa mnzanu ndikunena kuti, "Ndimakukondani monga momwe muliri komanso makamaka kuti musakhale momwemo."
Chifukwa chake, pantchito yanga, ndikofunikira kuti mufike pa 'dialectic' ya kusintha ndikusintha, pomwe kumangika kwa nzeru pakati pa anthu awiri chifukwa anthu ambiri amafuna kulosera zakukondedwa monga momwe aliri ndikukula / chitukuko zolinga.
Nayi zipolopolo zanga za meta.
Pali mafunso mkati mwamafunso omwe amafika pamikhalidwe yosasangalatsa koma yofunikira yomwe tonsefe timakonda kunyalanyaza munthawi yakukhazikitsa
- "Kodi mthunzi wa zomwe mumakonda ndi ine ndi uti?"
- "Ndingatani kuti ndizikukondani kwambiri chifukwa cha inu?"
- "Ngati pali mkwiyo pa ine pansi pa radar muukwatiwu, zikadakhala kuti?"
- “Ndi zolumikiza ziwiri ziti zomwe ndimayika kunja uko? Ndiye kuti, ndifunsa / kunena chiyani koma ndikukoka china? ”
- “Kodi ndasowa chiyani za ndiwe ndani?”
ANGELA AMBROSIA, Woyang'anira Ubale
Nazi zopereka zanga;
- Kodi ndingatani kapena kunena chiyani kuti mumve bwino?
- Mukamakhala omangika, ndi njira iti yabwino yoti ndiyankhire?
Mukufuna chiyani paubwenzi wathu? Mukufuna chiyani kwa ine? Zanu?
DAVID RISPOLI, Phungu
Pali zifukwa ziwiri zomwe maanja amapezera upangiri waukwati. Chifukwa chachikulu ndichakuti banja lili pamavuto ndipo m'modzi mwa iwo ndipo nthawi zina onse awiri amafuna kuti banja lawo liziyenda bwino.
Kawirikawiri, munthu m'modzi adafufuza kale muubwenziwo, ndipo upangiri umawoneka ngati njira yomaliza yopulumutsira banja.
Chifukwa chachiwiri chomwe maanja ena amafunsira upangiri waukwati ndikuti akufuna kukonza banja lomwe lakhazikika kale.
Mosasamala kanthu za zomwe zingakupangitseni upangiri, potengera "Mafunso Othandizira Ukwati Kufunsa Mnzanu", nazi zitatu zanga zapamwamba:
- Ngati upangiri wa maukwatiwu ukanakhala wopambana, ndipo kumapeto kwa nthawi yathu mu Upangiri wa Maukwati ukwati wathu unali wodabwitsa, banja lathu limawoneka bwanji?
- Kodi mukuganiza kuti ukwati wathu ndi utali bwanji lero pachithunzichi chokwatirana chaukwati chomwe tidalemba pa funso nambala 1?
- Ndi chinthu chimodzi chiti chomwe tingachite palimodzi lero kuti tifikitse pafupi ndi chithunzi chomwe tidalemba mu funso nambala 1?
Maukwati samapulumutsidwa konse kwa alangizi aukwati kapena maofesi amakochi a maukwati, amapulumutsidwa pomwe maanja amatenga mfundo zomwe amaphunzira ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito molimbika kubanja lawo tsiku lililonse.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndimapereka njira zowonetseratu zakukwatiwa. Sindinawonepo aliyense akusintha kapena kupulumutsa banja lawo poyang'ana pagalasi loyang'ana kumbuyo.
NICOLE GIBSON, Wokwatirana & Wothandizira Banja
Monga wololeza wololera komanso wothandizira mabanja, komanso mkazi wokwatiwa ndekha, ndapeza kuti pali mafunso ambiri omwe amabuka mukamaganizira za upangiri waukwati komanso mukamapereka upangiri waukwati.
Chimodzi mwazokhumba zanga ndikugwira ntchito ndi maanja ndipo ndimakonda kuwauza banjali kuti ndikugwira nawo ntchito, upangiri waukwati, m'maso mwanga, sikuti ungowasunga pamodzi koma kuti mudziwe zomwe akubweretsa ubale womwe ukufunika kuwunikiridwa chifukwa chilichonse chomwe akuchita muubwenzowu, atenga nawo gawo potsatira, ngati pali wina wotsatira.
Nayi mafunso angapo opangira upangiri okwatirana omwe mungafunse mnzanu:
Mumamva bwanji ndimamva mawu oti "kukondana"?
Kodi "kukondana" kumatanthauza chiyani kwa inu, kutanthauza chiyani chomwe chingakusonyezeni inu kudziwa kuti mukukondana?
Kodi malingaliro anu ndi otani pankhani yachipembedzo?
Mumamva bwanji za ana (mwachitsanzo, mukufuna ana?)
Ngati zinthu zikhala chimodzimodzi muubale wathu, kodi mungasangalale nazo?
Kodi mumadziona kuti ndinu oyambilira kapena odziwikiratu?
Ngati titadzuka mawa ndipo "mavuto" onse omwe tili nawo m'banja mwathu adakonzedwa, zikadawoneka bwanji?
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti mumandikonda?
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti ndimakukondani?
Kodi m'banja mwanu munakulira m'banja lotani?
Malingaliro anu ndi otani pankhani zachuma?
Mafunso onsewa ndi ozindikira kwa onse awiri komanso kwa mlangizi wa maukwati chifukwa chipembedzo, ndalama, ana, kuleredwa m'mabanja, kukondana, mtundu wa umunthu, ndi malingaliro achikondi ndi nkhani zazikuluzikulu zofunika kuyankhidwa m'banja.
SUSAN WINTER, Woyang'anira Ubale
Mukuopa kundiwuza chiyani?
Ndi zidziwitso zachuma ziti, zogonana kapena zamakhalidwe zomwe mumaopa kundiuza chifukwa choopa zomwe ndingachite?
Pali chilichonse chomwe mumandibisira, poganiza kuti ndikuweruzani kapena ndikufuna kukusiyani?
Ubale umafuna malo otetezeka 'onena zoona.'
Zolepheretsa kutengeka zimakhazikitsidwa pomwe sitingathe kukhala tokha ndikuwopa anzathu kudziwa omwe tili ndi zomwe tili.
Kutenga komaliza
Mafunso othandiza okhudzana ndi maukwati ndi chiyambi chabwino kupanga limodzi ndi mafunso ena okhudzana ndi ubale wanu. Taonani awa!