Zamkati
- Ukwati ndi mkhalidwe wapadera wa kudzipereka
- Yang'anani mnzanu mwachifundo
- Nawu mndandanda wosavuta wothandizira kuthana ndi zovuta zam'banja:
- Onetsetsani kuti zoyembekeza zanu ndizotheka komanso zotheka
Kodi ukwati uyenera kukhala wosavuta?
Ili ndi funso labwino motsimikiza. Koma yankho ndi chiyani? Mwina yankho limenelo limadalira pamalingaliro anu. Anthu ambiri ali ndi malingaliro oyambirira paukwati wawo-kuti ukwati watsala pang'ono kukhala yankho, pamavuto amibanja yonse yam'mbuyomu.
Tikukhulupiriranso kuti mavuto aliwonse omwe tili nawo ndi munthu amene timapanga naye chibwenzi adzatha pambuyo pa mwambowo. Timadziuza tokha, Tidzakwatirana, zikhala bwino.
Kodi izi zikumveka bwino?
Komatu anthu amanenanso kuti, "Ubwenzi wabwino umafunika ntchito zambiri." Ndiye kodi banja liyenera kukhala bwanji?
Kodi kukhala pachibwenzi ndi nkhani yoti munthu akhale woyenera bwino, mokwanira? Kapena kodi chibwenzi ndichinthu chomwe muyenera kuchita-ngati ntchito yachiwiri?
Ukwati ndi mkhalidwe wapadera wa kudzipereka
Ndikuganiza kuti tikuyembekeza zabwino; koma ngati akulu, timazindikira kuti nthawi yabwino ndiyoti: mphindi. Kaya ndi banja lanu loyamba, lachiwiri, kapenanso pambuyo pake, maukwati onse amakhala ndi zovuta. Izi sizitanthauza kuti wina sayenera kumanga mfundo.
M'malo mwake, banja ndilodzipereka, ndipo ndizosangalatsa kudziwa kuti simuli nokha. Koma kukwaniritsa zosowa za anthu awiri osiyana zomwe akufuna, ndipo zikhumbo zimakhala zovuta.
Psychiatrist M. Scott Peck analemba m'buku lake The Road Less Traveled, "Moyo ndi wovuta. Tikadziwa kuti moyo ndi wovuta-tikamvetsetsa ndikuvomereza-ndiye kuti moyo suli wovuta. Chifukwa munthu akangovomereza, sakhalanso ndi moyo wovuta. ”
Nthawi yoyamba ndidawerenga mawuwa, sindinali wotsimikiza kuti ndimamvetsetsa.
Koma moyo wandiphunzitsa kuti Peck akuyesera kutiphunzitsa zenizeni zenizeni.
Ngati tivomereza kuti moyo nthawi zambiri umakhala wopanda ntchito, ndikuti miyoyo yathu nthawi zonse itipatsa mwayi wokula, titha kuyembekezera kuti iziyenda bwino. Ndikuganiza kuti akunena kuti zoyembekezera zitha kukhala mdani wathu wamkulu kapena woipitsitsa.
Mwachitsanzo, Lisa ali ndi mnzake yemwe sanena bwino cheke, motero nthawi zina amakhala wochuluka.
Akuwona izi ngati umboni wosasamala ndalama zomwe zingawononge tsogolo lawo limodzi. Koma m'malo mwake, Lisa amayang'ana kwambiri kuti mnzake amamupatsa kumvetsetsa ndi chisamaliro chapadera chomwe palibe wina aliyense amadziwa kupatsa.
Ngati muganiza za izi, ndiziti zomwe mumayika patsogolo? Kodi mukusowa chiyani? (Ndipo m'malingaliro a Lisa, mnzakeyo amangokonza izi mwachangu bwanji?)
Chifukwa chake mutha kuwona kuti momwe timapangira izi zimatha kusintha cholakwika china kukhala chodabwitsa.
Yang'anani mnzanu mwachifundo
Kukwatira kumatanthauza kukhala maso. Tikuyembekeza kumuwona mnzathu momwe alili, osati momwe timafunira kuti munthuyo akhale.
Kodi mumalandira malonjezo ambiri okhudza kusintha, koma osangotsatira? Kodi mnzanuyo amathandizira maloto anu ndikukuthandizani kuti muchiritse dziko likakugwetsani pansi?
Osakopeka ndi maloto owoneka bwino kapena nkhope yokongola. Mukhala ndi nthawi yochuluka ndi mnzanu, ndipo chithumwa chimachepa mwachangu kwambiri.
Kodi mukukhulupirira kuti munthuyu wasamala kwambiri kuti akumvetsetseni kwambiri? Kodi nonse awiri mumagawana mfundo zomwezi? Kodi mnzanuyo angamve mayankho anu modekha ndikulemekeza mawu oti "ayi"?
Nawu mndandanda wosavuta wothandizira kuthana ndi zovuta zam'banja:
- Dziwani kuti ndinu ndani komanso zosowa zanu ndi ziti
- Dziwani kuti mnzanuyo ndi ndani komanso zosowa zake ndi ziti
- Gawanani izi musanalowe m'banja
- Dziwani malire anu. Malire ena sangasinthidwe
- Dziperekeni pakukwaniritsa zolinga zanu (monga banja komanso monga aliyense payekha)
- Onani chithunzi chachikulu. Ngati mulonjeza kuti "kufikira imfa idzatilekanitse," musakwatire munthu amene amakukwiyitsani nthawi iliyonse mukamadya limodzi. Kodi mumamukonda munthuyu komanso kumva ngati kuti mumamukonda?
- Zindikirani kuti kusintha kudzakhala kofunikira nthawi ina muubwenzi uliwonse
- Ingovomerezani kuchita zomwe mukudziwa kuti mutha kuchita
- Konzekerani kukhala "ife" osataya umunthu wanu. Kuchita izi kumafuna mayesero ambiri, choncho khalani oleza mtima kwa inu nokha ndi mnzanu
- Sungani chikondi mlengalenga
Awa ndi malingaliro chabe amomwe mungakhalire mosangalala nthawi zonse ndi chikondi cha moyo wanu.
Onetsetsani kuti zoyembekeza zanu ndizotheka komanso zotheka
Zinthu zabwino kwambiri m'moyo sizimabwera mosavuta koma zikatero zimakhala zamtengo wapatali.
Mutha kulingalira zoyambitsa magazini yokhudzana ndi malingaliro omwe atchulidwa munkhaniyi. Fotokozani mu magazini momwe mumamvera ndi malingaliro awa. Lembani za ziyembekezo zanu zazikulu ndi maloto anu pamene mukuyamba moyo limodzi.
Ngati mukumva kuti mwatayika, mutha kubwerera ndikukawerenga zolemba zanu. Mwina popita nthawi, mumayamba kukhumudwa; buku lidzakuthandizani kukumbukira chifukwa chimene munakondera mnzanu.
Chiyanjano chili ngati ndakatulo: chabwino chimafuna kudzoza!