Zamkati
Kwa anthu ambiri Januware ndi wokhumudwitsidwa. Matchuthi atha, kunja kukuzizira, ndipo nthawi zambiri timasiyidwa ndi mapaundi owonjezera kuchokera pakuwonjezera mu Disembala. Koma kwa ine Chaka Chatsopano chimatanthauza kuyamba kwatsopano, kuyambiranso, ndipo monga Oprah Winfrey amasangalalira- “chaka chatsopano ndi mwayi wina woti tichite bwino.”
Muli ndi mwayi wabwino chaka chatsopano chobweretsa mzimu wosintha muukwati wanu. Ngakhale m'masiku osabereka ano achisanu malingaliro atsopano amatha kuyamba kutuluka.
Kusintha malingaliro
Kodi moyo sindiwo malingaliro? Nthawi zambiri ndimawuza makasitomala anga kuti ndikukhulupirira kuti moyo ndiwowona 99.9%. Momwe timasankhira kuwona dziko lapansi ndi m'mene tidzakhalire. Chifukwa chake, sinkhani yakuchepetsa ubale wanu wonse. Izi zitha kumveka ngati zovuta. Mwina ndikungofunika kusintha malingaliro anu - pang'ono chabe. Pozindikira, mwina koyamba kwa nthawi yayitali, zabwino zomwe zidalipo nthawi yonseyi.
Zili ngati ma slippers a Dorothy a Wizard of Oz. Ndimakonda zochitika zodabwitsazi pomwe Mfiti Yabwino idawululira a Dorothy kufunika kwa ma slippers aja. Adali akuwavala nthawi zonse osazindikira mphamvu zomwe anali nazo. Pakadali pano a Dorothy adazindikira kuti sanali kufunsa funso loyenera. Funso silinali lakuti, "Kodi ndingapeze bwanji zomwe ndikufuna?" Funso lenileni linali, "Ndingazindikire bwanji zomwe ndiyenera kuchita kuti ndipukute mwala wakale ndikupeza kukongola kwake komanso mtengo wake. Mwala wamtengo wapatali umenewo ndi mnzanu!
Kupanga kusintha uku pakudziwitsa kwanu ndikosavuta kuposa momwe mungaganizire.
Nazi zinthu zitatu zomwe mungachite pompano.
1. Khalani okoma mtima
Mawu awa akunena zonse. Zosavuta, komabe zamphamvu kwambiri! "Kukoma mtima kosayembekezereka ndi kwamphamvu kwambiri, kotsika mtengo, komanso kothandiza kwambiri pakusintha kwa anthu" ~ Bob Kerry
2. Yambani kuganizira zomwe mumakonda pa bwenzi lanu
Lembani mndandanda wokumbutsani. Njira yabwino yochitira izi ndikusunga Gratitude Journal yokhudza ubale wanu. Mavuto akachuluka mutha kuyang'ana ku magazini ino kuti ikuthandizireni kusintha malingaliro onse ofunikira. Izi zitha kukuthandizani kuti musayang'ane zizolowezi zambiri zokhumudwitsa ndipo zingakuthandizeni kuzindikira zomwe zimapangitsa mnzanu kukhala wapadera. Werengani nthawi zambiri ndipo musaiwale kugawana nzeru zamtengo wapatali ndi munthu wapadera yemwe amalimbikitsa izi.
3. Dziyerekezeni kuti ndinu mnzake
Khalani ndi chizolowezi chowona zinthu monga momwe mnzanuyo akuwonera osati momwe inuyo mumaonera. Mungadabwe kuti mungaphunzire zochuluka bwanji mukakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa m'malo moweruza.
M'magawo anga operekera upangiri komanso m'malo omwe ndimakambirana nawo, ndimakonda kunena za mwambiwu -
"Zomwe mumayang'ana zikukula." Mukaika chidwi pazolakwika muubwenzi wanu, mudzawona zolakwika izi nthawi zambiri. Ngati, komabe, mukuyesera kusinthitsa malingaliro anu kukhala abwino, ndikuyang'ana pazomwe mumakonda ndikusilira za wokondedwa wanu, izi ndizomwe zidzakulitsa gawo lanu lazidziwitso.
Njira imodzi yoyambira kusinthitsa malingaliro anu ndikuyesa kuyamikira tsiku lanu lonse. Kusintha kofunikira kwambiri kwamalingaliro kumeneku kumatha kusintha kusintha malingaliro anu ndikusintha dziko lanu.
Zimagwira ngati prism, ndikusintha kuwala wamba kukhala utawaleza wamitundu. Kuwalako sikusintha kwenikweni, koma momwe timaonera timasintha malinga ndi momwe timawonera pamtengo.
Kukulitsa nyengo yoyamikirana ndi kuyamika m'banja mwanu sikuli kovuta kapena kwachilendo momwe zingamveke. Kuyamikira sikuyenera kukhala nkhani yokonzekera. Mwina kungokhala mawu othokoza chifukwa chochita ntchito inayake yachizolowezi kapena kukondera monga, "Ndasangalala kwambiri mukandithandiza kutsuka mbale usikuuno." Kapena, "Chakudya chamadzulo chinali chokoma!" Mwina mukuzindikira zomwe mnzanu wavala kapena zomwe mumakonda za mawonekedwe ake, - "malaya abwino!" Kapena, "Wow, ukuwoneka bwino mu sweti lija."
Maanja akamagwiritsa ntchito njira yolumikizirana nthawi zonse amakhala ndi chizolowezi chozindikira ndikugawana zonse zomwe amakonda wina ndi mnzake.Kodi mungaganizire momwe izi zingakhudzire ubale wanu?
Mabanja ena omwe amafunitsitsa kutenga gawo lina kuti apange nthawi yapadera tsiku lililonse ndikuchita nawo Zokambirana Poyamikira. Kukambirana Kothokoza ndikosiyana kwa Kukambirana kwa Maanja, komwe ndimaphunzitsa mu Msonkhano Wanga Wokonzekera Ukwati, Mabanja amapatula nthawi ndikugwiritsa ntchito zokambiranazi kuti adziwitse wina ndi mnzake zomwe amakonda komanso kuyamikirana.
Ndizosangalatsa kudziwa kuti ndi kuyesetsa pang'ono mutha kuyamba chaka chatsopano ndi kuyambiranso muubwenzi wanu.
Chifukwa chake, ndikuganiza Januware siokhumudwitsa konse.
Ah kukongola kwa MAWONEKEDWE!