Zamkati
Amati chaka choyamba chaukwati ndi chaka chosavuta kwambiri kukhala nawo limodzi. Chilichonse chatsopano. Kuphunzira kwanu za wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo Hei, kugonana sikopanganitsanso.
Mnzanga wanzeru, yemwe anali atakwatirana pafupifupi zaka 30 yekha, nthawi ina adati, "Chaka choyamba chaukwati simungakwanitsane, mutha kungomudya, ndipo mzaka 20 zotsatira mudzakhala Ndikanakonda ukanakhala. ”
Kwenikweni, chilichonse chomwe wakale anali wankhanza sichinali. Panali kamodzi kokha kakang'ono kakang'ono kakugwira maloto anga akwaniritsidwa ... Anatsala pang'ono kupita kundende.
Ndinakumana ndi mwamuna wanga atangotha kumene chibwenzi chazaka 12. Ronnie anali yankho la mapemphero anga. Ndiwachifundo, woganizira, wokoma, wolankhula mofewa, woganizira, wokonda, ndi zina zambiri.
Tsopano ndikudziwa zomwe ena mwa inu mukuganiza, "Omg, izi zingakhale bwanji yankho la mapemphero anu?". Ndiloleni ndikuyimitseni pomwepo.
Mwamuna wanga si mngelo; komabe, ndi munthu wabwino kuyesera kusintha moyo wake. Anali akupanga kale tsogolo labwino ndisanalowe pachithunzichi.
Popanda kuyang'anitsitsa zochitika zake, ndikungonena kuti amuna anga omwe ali m'ndende ndiwosachita zachiwawa / wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo yemwe amalipira ngongole yake pagulu.
Iye anali atadziyeretsa kale asanakumane nane; komabe, anali akuweruzidwabe nthawi yoyamba "kuchita zibwenzi," titero kunena kwake.
Kupulumuka muukwati ndi wokwatirana
Amuna anga pano akutumikiranso kundende yaku tawuni yomwe tikukhalamo. Pofika pa 4th, akhala akukhala miyezi 8 yayitali komanso yovuta.
Ngakhale ndimadziwa zam'ndende komanso m'ndende, ndimangonena kuti, "Inde," pafunso lakale lija ngati ndikufuna kukhala kwamuyaya ndi mwamunayo, ndipo chifukwa cha mbiriyi, ndingasangalale kutero kachiwiri.
Ukwati utatha kuwerengedwa, ndipo zilakolako zonse zakuthupi zidatha, ndidayamba kuganiza zopulumuka m'banja komanso momwe ndingathanirane ndi wokondedwa yemwe ali mndende.
Mkazi wanga wakale amandizunza kwa zaka 12 zomwe tidakhala limodzi. Tidagwirizana pomwe ndinali ndi zaka 17. Ndidali ndisanamalize maphunziro a kusekondale. Nditha kuzifufuza mozama za aliyense, koma iyi ndi nkhani ya tsiku lina.
Mosasamala kanthu, Ronnie anali bwenzi langa lenileni la 3 okha, ndipo ine ndi mwamuna wanga woyamba sitinakhalepo ndi aliyense amene amayenera kuchita "nthawi" kale.
Sindinadziwe zambiri za momwe amamvera asanamangidwe. Chifukwa chake malingaliro omwe anali akuzungulira mutu wanga akundiuza zomwe ndiyenera kuyembekezera komanso momwe ndingamvere pazinthu zonse zinali kugwira mapesi.
Ndinkadziwa kuti # 1 ndiyenera kupita osagonana pafupifupi chaka chimodzi ndi # 2 kuti kwanthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, ndizikhala ndikulipira ngongole zonse ndekha.
Pssshh .... Palibe vuto konse. Ndinali wozoloŵera kunena kuti wokondedwa wanga anali ndi chilakolako chogonana monga momwe ine ndinaliri (wakale anali wamkulu zaka 10 ndimatenda azaumoyo).
Komanso, ndimakhala ndikudziyang'anira pazandalama kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 18 (osati moyo wabwino wapakhomo, kachiwiri, nkhani ina ya tsiku lina). HA! Kodi ndinali wolakwitsa Chica.
Amayi ndi abambo omwe akuwerenga izi ali ndi zina zofunikira kwambiri zomwe zatsekedwa kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo pazifukwa zilizonse, ndikufuna kuyamba ndikuwombera anyamata inu. Chaka chino chakhala chovuta kwambiri, chopanikiza kwambiri, komanso chopanda thandizo kwambiri pamoyo wanga wachikulire.
Ngakhale maphunziro aposachedwa atsimikizira kuti kumangidwa kumawonjezera mavuto a chisudzulo ndikusintha mphotho ndi mtengo waukwati komanso kukopa kwa omwe ali nawo pabanja.
China chake apongozi anga adandichenjeza asanalowemo ndikuti ngati zingayende bwino, zidzakhalapo pomwe sadzachitapo kanthu kuti athandize, Mnyamata anali kunena zoona!
Ndasuntha mwina nthawi zokwanira 6 (Kuyenda moyenda moyamwa!), Galu wanga adamwalira (RIP Bowser), sindinataye imodzi, osati iwiri, koma ntchito zitatu pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana, ndadutsa magalimoto awiri, ngozi yagalimoto yomwe sindinayende ' ndapulumuka, mtengo udagwa padenga ndikugunda phazi langa (sindingathe kupanga izi), ndi zina. Mukuwona komwe ndikupita ndi izi, ndikutsimikiza.
Choyamba, pumani kaye ndikupumira ndi nkhonya za mwana chifukwa kupanikizika ndikutaya malingaliro sikungathetse vuto lililonse lomwe mukukumana nalo pakadali pano.
Ndinayendetsa Pilot mkatikati mwa tawuni yanga yaying'ono pomwe ndidakumana ndi amuna anga komanso pomwe adamangidwa koyamba.
O, ndinanena kuti ndikudwala Bipolar Disorder (nkhani ina). Komabe, ndinachotsedwa ntchito tsiku lotsatira chifukwa anamangidwa pamalo awo, ndipo ndinawayimira.
Zabwino! Ndinagwirapo zaka pafupifupi ziwiri ndikugwira ntchito molimbika pantchito ya manejala yomwe ndimagwiranso kumeneko. Ndipita kumeneko ndalama zanga.
Sizinanditengere nthawi yaitali kuzindikira kuti pamene ndinali nditakonzekera m'maganizo mwanga chifukwa cha kusowa kwa kugonana, Sindinaganizirepo za Yehova kusowa chibwenzi Ndinali pafupi kupirira.
Kukhala ndi banja labwino komanso kukhazikika m'maganizo
Sizinakhale zophweka. Ndikukuuzani, maukwati ndi ovuta, koma ndikunena kuti sitinakhalepo ndi vuto lalikulu koyamba. Kudalira ndikofunikira pamikhalidwe ngati iyi.
Chimodzi mwazomwe ndazindikira ndipo Ronnie adatchulapo kangapo, kukulitsidwa chifukwa chakukhala nawo mchipinda, ndikuti anthu amataya izi akangomangidwa.
Anthu omwe akhala limodzi kwazaka zambiri amakhala ndi ana limodzi, nthawi yomweyo amakhala ndi mavuto omwe sanakhalepo nawo pamwamba pa kupsinjika kwakudziwika komwe kumakhalapo kapena kunja kuno kuzichita zokha.
Amayamba kuneneza wina kuti awathamangira, ndipo akuyenera kukhala akutembenuzira ana awo motsutsana nawo chifukwa chake sanafune kuyankhula nawo.
Ndizomvetsa chisoni ngati mulibe chikhulupiriro kuti adzakuchitirani bwino mukapatukana, pitirizani kusiya kutayirana nthawi.
Cholozera china chachikulu chomwe ndikulakalaka kupereka ndikutsimikizira inu khalani olumikizana wina ndi mnzake kudzera munjira iliyonse yomwe angathe. Mwamwayi kwa ife, anali atatuluka ndi pulogalamu yomwe imalola kuti tizitumizirana mameseji, kucheza pavidiyo, komanso kuyimbirana foni.
Komabe, ndiokwera mtengo kwambiri, chifukwa chake kwa omwe alibe ndalama zotere, mutha kuwalembera tsiku lililonse kuti aliyense alandire CHINTHU wina ndi mnzake.
Komanso, ngati mukuganiza nokha mulibe nthawi yolemba tsiku lililonse ndipo blah blah blah, ndiye sungani. Mumakhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi anthu omwe mukufuna kukhala nawo.
Kuligwira sikumangokupatsani mtendere wamumtima komanso kumathandizanso aliyense kudziwa kuti mnzakeyo akuganiza za iwo. Momwemonso, ndidaphunzira mwachangu kuti mwina ndi zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zimakulepheretsani kuchita misala ndikukhalabe m'banja.
Dipatimenti ya zaumoyo ku United States ya zaumoyo ndi zaumunthu inafalitsa kafukufuku wawo kuti kumangidwa kumakhudza kwambiri ubwenzi ndi kudzipereka muubwenzi.
Maola ochezera ochepa, osakhala achinsinsi, komanso oletsedwa kapena osakhudzana ndi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuchita zibwenzi.
Kwa inu omwe muli kunja, monga momwe amuna anga amakonda kutchulira, upangiri wina womwe ndikufuna kupereka ndikuti zithunzi zitha kusintha.
Ndatumizira amuna anga zithunzi zambiri kuyambira Okutobala, ndipo amawakonda kwambiri. Zithunzi za phwando la tsiku la 22nd la mchimwene wake, mphwake ndi mphwake, ambiri a ine (lingaliro lake, lol), ndi zithunzi zathu limodzi (ukwati, chithunzi chathu, malonjezo, ndi zina zambiri).
Tinawerenganso mabuku angapo limodzi ndikutumiza "mauthenga achiwerewere" angapo momwe amawatchulira mobwerezabwereza. Monga ndanenera poyamba, ndi zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zingakulepheretseni kuti musataye.
Mwa kupulumuka ukwati chaka chino choyamba, tikudziwa tsopano momwe tsogolo lathu lidzakhalire komanso kuti winayo ndiwofunika. Sizinakhalepo mwanjira iliyonse, mawonekedwe, kapena mawonekedwe sanakhale msewu wosavuta, koma tikupita ndipo mwina zitha kukhala zabwino.
Onaninso: Momwe mungagwirire bambo a mwana wanu ali m'ndende.
Mawu omaliza
Ndaphunzira zambiri za ine chaka chatha chomwe sindinkaganizirapo kale. Ndinali ndisanakhale ndekha ndipo ndinali ndi mantha pachiyambipo, ndipo tsopano ndayamba kusangalala ndikuchezera ndekha.
Sindimadzipatsa ndekha ngongole zokwanira nthawi zina. Ndine wopulumuka, ndipo ndikhulupilira kuti inunso muli choncho chifukwa ngati mwakhala mukukumana ndi mayeserowa kapena mwapitapo ndipo munapambana, ndiye kuti mukudziwa kuti ndi nkhondo yosafanana ndi ina iliyonse yomwe mudakhalapo.