Zamkati
- Makhalidwe omwe amayembekezera zokhumudwitsa za banja:
- Makhalidwe omwe akuwoneratu kukwaniritsidwa kwa ukwati:
- Makhalidwe omwe amayembekezera kukhumudwitsidwa ndi mabanja
- Makhalidwe omwe amaneneratu kukhutira muukwati:
- Makhalidwe omwe amaneneratu kusakhutira muukwati:
- Makhalidwe omwe amaneneratu kukhutira muukwati:
- Zinthu zofunika m'banja
- Zomwe zingathetse kusamvana
- Zomwe zimayesedwa
- Zomwe zimaseketsa
- Zomwe zimakwaniritsidwa
- The element of companionship
Kuchuluka kwakulekana ku United States komanso nkhawa yotsatira zaukwati munthu woyenera pa nthawi yoyenera zimapangitsa kusankha wina woti akwatirane ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri kwa achikulire osakwatira. Ndicho chifukwa chake nkofunika kuti mukhale wokonzeka kudzipereka kwa winawake ngati mukufuna kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino. Kodi pali zinthu zina zomwe zinganeneratu kuti mudzakhala osangalatsidwa kapena ayi?
Malinga ndi akatswiri, pali zifukwa zopitilira makumi awiri mphambu zisanu zokonzekera ukwati zomwe zikuyenera kuthetsedwa musanapange chisankho. Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti mavuto am'banja, kuphatikiza chisudzulo, amachitika chifukwa choti anthu sadziwa izi.
Anthu ambiri amakhulupilira kuti ukwati ndi chinthu chaumulungu chofuna kutukula anthu. Ndiye chifukwa chake zimawoneka ngati chinthu chomwe munthu sayenera kuchiona mopepuka. Komabe, chodabwitsa ndichakuti, ndi mabanja ochepa omwe amatenga nthawi kuti amvetsetse kufunikira kwa mgwirizano wotere, ndipo ambiri aiwo amachita mwakufuna kwawo.
Pambuyo pofufuza zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi za kafukufuku wamagulu a anthu ndikutsatira mabanja angapo kwazaka zambiri, ofufuza adazindikira zinthu zambiri zisanakwatirane zomwe zimakwaniritsidwa m'misonkhano itatu yapadera:
Makhalidwe anu, monga umunthu, mawonekedwe a banja lanu, monga kulumikizana. Zomwe mukukhala komanso kulumikizana kwanu, monga kuvomereza ukwati kwa makolo.
Tiyeni tiwone bwino kwambiri zisonyezo za zigawo zitatu izi za anthu, okwatirana, ndi zina zomwe zikuwonetsa kukonzeka mbanja.
Makhalidwe ake
Omwe atsekedwa makamaka omwe amapanga izi ndizofunikira izi:
Makhalidwe omwe amayembekezera zokhumudwitsa za banja:
Zovuta kusinthasintha kukakamizidwa. Zikhulupiriro zosweka, mwachitsanzo, "Anthu sangasinthe. Pamwambamwamba, kukwiya komanso chidani, kukhumudwa, kukwiya, nkhawa, kudzidalira.
Makhalidwe omwe akuwoneratu kukwaniritsidwa kwa ukwati:
Zowonjezera, kusinthasintha, kudzidalira, luso lotha kulumikizana.
Ndikofunikira kwa anthu osakwatira omwe akuganiza mozama zaukwati kuti adziyese pamakhalidwe omwe atchulidwa pamwambapa. Makhalidwe amenewa amapanga gawo la zomwe Jeffry Larson amatcha "malingaliro anu okwatirana."
Kuchuluka kwa kukhazikika kwamalingaliro kumakulitsa mwayi wanu wokhala ndi banja losangalala. Kuphatikiza apo, zingakhale zabwino kwa inu kuzindikira kuti zina mwazomwe zili zokonzeka mosavuta ndizosavuta. Zomwe mukufunikira ndizokhazikika komanso zolimbikitsira monga momwe mungakhalire ndi madera ofooka, (mwachitsanzo, kumva kusowa chochita mukakumana ndi mavuto, mkwiyo, ndi zina zambiri).
Mutha kuchita izi kudzera pazodzikongoletsa, kupeza malangizo kuchokera kuchipembedzo chanu, kapena ngakhale kupita kuchipatala. Chofunikira ndikuti mudziwonetsetse nokha pazokonzekera zaukwati zomwe zatchulidwa kale ndikulimbikitsa madera omwe akubwera monga zofooka zanu musanalowe m'banja. Kumbukirani, mavuto amunthu payekha samachiritsidwa ndiukwati, amasokonezeka ndi banja.
Wokondedwa wanu alibe matsenga ofuna kukonza mavuto anu. Izi zimakhudzanso zomwe makolo ena amachita. Nthawi zambiri, makolo amakonda kukakamiza ana awo kukwatira chifukwa amaganiza kuti kukwatiwa kumabweretsa udindo. Komabe, sizomwe zili choncho ndipo maukwati ambiri okakamizidwa samathera kugwira ntchito, limodzi kapena onse awiriwa akupitilizabe kukhala mosasamala.
Kupitilira apo, tiyeni tiwone gawo lachiwiri lazizindikiro pazinthu zina zazikulu zomwe zimatchedwa maanja.
Zalangizidwa - Njira Yokwatirana Yoyambira Pa intaneti
Makhalidwe Apabanja
Zomwe zikuchitika pano zikuphatikiza izi:
Makhalidwe omwe amayembekezera kukhumudwitsidwa ndi mabanja
Kusafanana pamikhalidwe yofunikira pamunthu, monga chipembedzo kapena maudindo omwe akuyembekezeka m'banja
- Kudziwana kwakanthawi
- Kugonana musanalowe m'banja
- Mimba musanalowe m'banja
- Kukhala limodzi
- Kusayankhula bwino
- Maluso oyipa othetsera kusamvana komanso kalembedwe
Makhalidwe omwe amaneneratu kukhutira muukwati:
- Kufanana kwamakhalidwe
- Kudziwana kwakutali
- Maluso oyankhulirana
- Maluso abwino othetsera kusamvana komanso mawonekedwe
Zochuluka zomwe mumakhala nazo ngati banja, ndizochepa mwayi wokhala ndi banja labwino. Mulimonsemo, mutha kusintha mawonekedwewa munjira zosiyanasiyana. Inu nonse mutha kupita kukalandira upangiri wa maanja kuti mugwiritse ntchito chibwenzi chanu musanakumane ndi mavuto.
Muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mumvetsetse komwe mukulephera kukwatirana, kudziwana wina ndi mnzake kwakanthawi kokwanira musanakwatirane mwachangu. Akatswiri ena amati kusakhala pamodzi komanso kugona musanalowe m'banja. Komanso, palibe buku lililonse loti muzitsatira.
Pomaliza, tiyeni tiwunikire zinthu zakanthawi zomwe zimawonetseratu kukhutira ndi banja.
- Mgwirizano wamunthu payekha komanso banja
Ponena za izi, liwu loti 'nkhani' limatanthauza banja lanu ndi abwenzi. Zimaphatikizaponso zomwe mumachita mukamakwatirana monga zaka zanu ndi ndalama zanu komanso thanzi la banja lanu.
Makhalidwe omwe amaneneratu kusakhutira muukwati:
- Achinyamata (kukhala osakwana 20)
- Zochitika zabanja zochokera koyipa, monga
- Kutha kwa makolo kapena kusamvana kwakanthawi m'banja
- Kudzudzula mgwirizanowu ndi makolo ndi abwenzi
- Kupsinjika kwaukwati kuchokera kwa ena
- Kuphunzira pang'ono ndikukonzekera ntchito
Makhalidwe omwe amaneneratu kukhutira muukwati:
- Ukalamba
- Zokumana nazo zathanzi labanja
- Banja losangalala la makolo
- Kuvomereza kwa makolo ndi abwenzi ubalewo
- Maphunziro ofunikira ndikukonzekera ntchito
Malinga ndi akatswiri, momwe nkhani yanu ilili ndi mwayi wabwino wokhala ndi banja labwino. Apanso, mutha kupitilirabe patsogolo ndikugwirira ntchito kukonza zonsezi kuti mukonzekere zosintha m'moyo zomwe zimachitika mukamayenda pamsewu.
Zinthu zofunika m'banja
Dr Sylvia Smith, wolemba nkhani waku Great Britain, amadziwika kuti ndi gwero lodalirika pankhani yodziwa momwe angapangitsire banja lomwe amafotokoza, m'modzi mwa zolemba zake, momwe zinthu zisanu zofunika kuchita zingathandizire kukwatirana .
Zomwe zingathetse kusamvana
Malinga ndi iye, momwe okwatirana amayeserera kusamvana kwawo ndi gawo limodzi la banja losangalala ndi lochita bwino. Anthu awiri akaganiza zopangana chotere, zisankho zina ziyenera kuthetsedwa. Mwinanso onse adachokera kumbuyo komwe kusamvana kumathetsedwa mosiyanasiyana.Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti azikhala limodzi mozama kuti adziwe momwe athetsere kusamvana pakati pawo.
Zomwe zimayesedwa
Ubale umayesedwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Izi zitha kuphatikizira zinthu monga matenda, maubale apabanja, kapena kukakamizidwa kuntchito. Kuphatikiza apo, kukhala ndiubwenzi wapatali ndikosavuta mukakhala m'mizinda kapena zigawo zosiyanasiyana ndipo mukufuna kukwatira. Kulimbana ndi mkuntho wa moyo limodzi kumathandiza banja kukhala ndi malingaliro owona kwenikweni pazovuta za moyo. Nthawi zolimba zimatha kulimbitsa maubwenzi ndikupangitsa anthu kuyandikira, kapena zitha kuwononga moyo kuubwenzi wawo mpaka kuwasokoneza.
Nthawi zoyeserera zoterezi zimatha kupereka lingaliro ngati banja ndi la okwatirana kapena ayi. Zitha kuthandiza awiriwa kuzindikira ngati ali ndi chidwi chofuna kumvetsetsa zomwe ali okonzekera ukwati. Chibwenzi chomwe chimakhala ndi gawo lokhalitsa ngakhale mutayesedwa ndi nthawi zovuta musanalowe m'banja chimakhala ndi mwayi wopitilira momwemo mutakwatirana.
Zomwe zimaseketsa
Moyo molingana ndi Dr Sylvia ndiwowopsa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, nthabwala ndichofunikira kwambiri kuti banja likhale losangalala. Kuseka kuli ndi mphamvu zochiritsira ndipo kumawerengedwa kuti ndikoyenera kukonzekeretsa ukwati. Ngati banja limaseka limodzi liyenera kukhala limodzi. Kudzisekerera, kupeza zofooka zanu, kuzindikira zofooka zanu ndikuyesera kuzithetsa moseketsa kumalimbitsa mgwirizano. Kudzimva kukhala wonyozeka ndikutha kumapeto kwanthabwala za mnzanu mwina ndiye njira yoti mudzimasule kuubwenzi woopsawu.
Zomwe zimakwaniritsidwa
Ngati mungasankhe kuyenda limodzi mbali ndi mnzanu paulendowu, muyenera kudziwa zolinga za wina ndi mnzake. Ngati zolinga za mnzanu ndikukhala pakatikati pa mzinda ndikuyenda mtsogolo mdziko lapansi, pomwe mukuyesetsa kukhala kumidzi ndikukhala ndi banja, ndiye kuti mwina simunayenera kukhala limodzi.
Kuphatikiza pa zolinga za moyo, zinthu monga zofunikira, zikhulupiliro ndi machitidwe amakhalanso okonzekeretsa banja ndipo zimathandizanso paubwenzi wabwino womwe mungakhale nawo mutakwatirana. Ngati mudakhala ndi zolinga zofanana, zogwirizana, komanso zikhulupiriro zanu ndizofanana, mwina mukadakhala kuti mwapeza masewera oyenera nokha.
The element of companionship
Pamapeto pa tsiku, munthu aliyense amayang'ana munthu yemwe angamutulutsire, osazengereza kapena kusunga. Ngati muli pachibwenzi pamkhalidwe wabwino kwambiri momwe nonse mumadziwana zenizeni za mbiri ya wina ndi mnzake, ndipo mumalandilanabe ndi kuvomerezana ndi mtima wonse, ndiye chiyambi chabwino kwambiri.
Ngati mukukhalabe ndi kukayikira kwakanthawi kochepa komanso mafunso m'mutu mwanu, ndiye kuti zingakhale bwino kutulutsa zinthu zonse poyera musanasaine mapepalawo - ngakhale zitakhala kuti zikutanthauza kumapeto kwa mutu waubwenzi ndi munthu ameneyo. Ndibwino kukhala ndi munthu amene amakulandirani momwe mulili kusiyana ndi kudzikakamiza kuti mukhale ndi munthu winawake yemwe muyenera kubisala mbali zanu ndikumaganiza kuti adzazitaya ngati chowonadi chitatuluka.
Kugawana zokonda zofananira ndikuchitira limodzi limodzi ndi gawo la ubale wabwino. Ngati zokonda ndizosiyana kwambiri m'banja, atha kukhala mosiyana. Ngati gawo laubwenzi likusowa mu mgwirizano, zitha kutanthauza kuti kulibe zofunikira pakukonzekera ukwati.
Asananene kuti ndikutero, awiriwo ayenera kudzifunsa mafunso asanu awa ndikuyesa kuti ndi okonzeka kugawana moyo wawo wonse.
- Mukuganiza kuti banja lingakuwonjezereni chiyani pamoyo wanu?
- Kodi ndinu wokonzeka kulandira ukwati wanu monga chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pamoyo?
- Kodi mumatha kusintha kapena ayi?
- Ndi chikondi kapena kungofuna moyo?
- Kodi mwamaliza ndi gawo lalikulu lazolinga zomwe mwakhazikitsa pamoyo wanu?
Munthu ayenera kulongosola zomwe zikusoweka m'miyoyo yawo ndi momwe banja lingathandizire kuchotsa kusowa kumeneku. Kodi ali okonzeka kutenga udindo wotere? Kodi angathe kupatula zonse ndikuyika banja lawo patsogolo?
Komanso, kodi angakwanitse kulipira mtengo wotsatirapo waukwati? Kodi ali okonzeka kusintha kusintha kwakukulu kumeneku? Ukwati umakubweretserani bwenzi komanso banja lonse m'moyo wanu.
Kuphatikiza apo, m'moyo wonsewo, muyenera kuyimitsa kaye zofuna zanu kuti muthandize kukwaniritsa zokhumba za ana anu. Muyeneranso kumvetsetsa zomwe mnzanu akunena kapena zomwe akukumana nazo. Nthawi zina mumayenera kunyengerera, ndipo nthawi zina mnzanu amayenera kusintha.
Komanso, kodi kukwatiwa ndi winawake wokhudzana ndi chikondi kapena ndi lingaliro chabe lachikhalidwe kapena chosowa munthawi yanu? Kukhala pamodzi chifukwa cha chikondi ndi komwe kumapangitsa moyo kukhala wodala apo ayi chibwenzi chotere chimakhala cholemetsa chomwe chikukula pamapewa anu.
Moyo wabanja umabweretsa, limodzi ndi chikondi ndi chisangalalo, mtolo wa maudindo ndi kusintha komwe kumatha kubweretsa zolepheretsa zina m'moyo wanu.
Chifukwa chake, ganizirani komwe muli m'moyo musanalowe m'banja. Onani zinthu zonse zomwe zatchulidwa pamwambapa. Nkhani ndikuti mutha kupitiliza kugwira ntchito pazinthu zonsezi. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kuyika batani loyimitsa pang'ono kuti mukwatire mpaka mutakhala okonzeka komanso kukhala ndi kukhazikika kwachuma komanso kwamaganizidwe musanakhazikike.
Yesetsani zolakwa zanu monga banja. Gwiritsani ntchito zolimbikitsana kuti mupange kinks muubwenzi wanu wapano kuti mukhale ndi banja labwino.
Kukhala pabanja ndichinthu chomwe muyenera kugwira ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku mapepala atasainidwa. Onse awiri ayenera kuchita zonse zomwe angathe kuti akhalebe ndi ubale wolimba. Ayeneranso kukumana ndi nthawi zambiri zovuta limodzi.