Zamkati
- 1. Kusowa ndalama kwa wina ndi mnzake komanso m'banja lanu
- 2. Sewerani Masewera
- 3. Kuyiwala za ubale wanu
- 4. Zosatheka kapena zoyembekezeredwa
Si chinsinsi kuti nthawi zambiri mabanja osudzulana amakhala okwera. Kusudzulana ndiwowopsya kwa okwatirana aliwonse ngakhale ali ambiri, ngati si onse omwe akukwatirana popanda kufuna kusudzulana! Mavuto azachuma komanso kulumikizana molakwika ndi zina mwazifukwa zazikulu komanso zoonekeratu zomwe maukwati amalephera. Koma palinso zifukwa zina zomwe maukwati amalephera nawonso zomwe nthawi zambiri zimatha kunyalanyazidwa. Zina mwazifukwazi ndizodabwitsa komanso zowoneka zonyoza, pomwe zina zimawonekeratu (mwachitsanzo, kusakhulupirika, kapena kuzunza). Ngati mungayesetse kumvetsetsa zina mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe maukwati amalephera ndikuphunzira momwe mungatetezere banja lanu pamavuto ngati awa, mudzasunga moyo wautali, chisangalalo, komanso thanzi laukwati wanu kuti zizikhala choncho kwa zaka zambiri zikubwerazi.
Nazi zifukwa zisanu zodabwitsa zomwe maukwati amalephera, komanso zina zamomwe mungatetezere banja lanu ku mavuto otere
1. Kusowa ndalama kwa wina ndi mnzake komanso m'banja lanu
Kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu pophunzira zomwe zimafunika kuti banja liziyenda bwino, kugwira ntchito yodzikulitsa komanso kukhala ndi zolinga pamoyo wanu monga banja ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi mabanja achimwemwe, athanzi komanso ataliatali.
Pankhani yogwira ntchito, timadziwa kuti tikufunika kuyika luso kuti tikwaniritse bwino koma pazifukwa zina, sitiganiza kuti tikusowa maluso kuti banja likhale lolimba. Kusayika ndalama muukwati wanu ndi chitukuko chanu ndi chiwopsezo chachikulu ndipo mungapewe mosavuta.
Onetsetsani kuti banja lanu likhalabe lolimba poonetsetsa kukula kwanu kwa banja ndi banja; Upangiri wa maanja, mabuku, ndikudzipereka kuti mumagwiritsa ntchito maola ochepa sabata iliyonse pakuwunika za banja lanu komanso ubale wanu pamodzi ndi njira zonse zomwe mungayambire kupanga ndalama ngati izi. Kenako kugwira ntchito limodzi kuvomereza kapena kupanga zosintha zilizonse, popanda mlandu kapena kuweruza, kuwonetsetsa kuti mutha kuyika zifukwa zomwezi zomwe mabanja akukwaniritsa mndandanda wazowopseza banja lanu.
2. Sewerani Masewera
Nthawi zambiri pamakhala "sewero" losafunikira momwe timalumikizirana ndi okwatirana. Mwachitsanzo; Titha kulephera kukhululukira anzathu, kukwiya chifukwa chazovuta zazing'ono zomwe timachita, kutengera zomwe mnzathu akufuna kuti tipewe kukambirana moyenera, kapena kusewera nawo omwe achititsa nkhanzayo. Masewero oterewa amatha kukhala chifukwa chomwe maukwati amalephera.
Ngati sitingathe kuzindikira momwe timalankhulirana, makamaka, momwe timapewa kukumana ndi zovuta zathu, zovuta zathu, komanso zomwe zimakhumudwitsa, zingakhale zovuta kuti tikambirane modekha zomwe okwatirana ambiri amakumana nazo pakapita nthawi. Timabwereza mosalekeza machitidwe omwe taphunzira - kuwonetsa ziwonetsero zathu paziukwati ndi ana athu. Chitsanzo chomwe sichimapereka mwayi kwa okwatirana nawo mwayi wokula kapena kuyanjanitsa kusiyana kwawo, kapena kuchiritsa zakale. Zinthu zakuya ngati izi zitha kuchititsa banja kukhala lopanda thanzi komanso lotalikirana pakapita nthawi.
Ili ndi vuto losavuta kuthana nalo, limangotengera kuwunika kwanu, kuti muthe kuzindikira machitidwe anu ndi machitidwe anu, komanso kufunitsitsa kukhala osatetezeka, ndikuchepetsa chitetezo chanu. Ndipo ngati mukuwona machitidwe a mnzanuyo, muyenera kupereka malo osaweruza, olekerera kuti mnzanu afotokozere zovuta zawo, mantha kapena nkhawa (zomwe akuteteza ndi sewero lawo).
3. Kuyiwala za ubale wanu
Ndizoseketsa momwe nthawi zina kuti chifukwa chakuti okwatirana adakwatirana zimawoneka kuti zikuwonjezera kukondana komwe kudachitika kale. Zachidziwikire, tonsefe timadziwa kuti banja limafunika kugwira ntchito, koma mwanjira ina iliyonse zinthu zimayamba kukhala zowopsa munjira zina kuposa momwe ziyenera kukhalira. Ukwati ndiwongofuna kumanga banja limodzi, ndipo inde zimafunika kugwira ntchito, koma vuto ndiloti nthawi zina ubale, chikondi, ndi ubwenzi womwe unapangidwa pakati pa okwatirana asanakwatirane umasokonekera mu 'moyo waukwati' ndipo ichi ndi chifukwa china chomwe maukwati amalephera. Chiyanjano kapena ubwenziwo waiwalika penapake panjira. M'malo mwake, kupanikizika kumakhalapo kuti ukwati ukhalebe.
Ngati mukuganiza zaukwati monga chikole chokhazikitsa moyo limodzi womwe umaphatikizira ana, ndalama, moyo wamba, komanso ubale wanu komanso ubwenzi wanu, ndiye kuti mudzakhalabe pafupi. Izi zipitilizabe kukondana, kulumikizana, komanso ubwenzi zomwe zidapangitsa nonse kuzindikira kuti mumafuna kukhala moyo wanu limodzi poyamba. Ngati mumacheza ndi mnzanu poika ubale ndi mgwirizano womwe muli nawo patsogolo; posachedwa mudzakumana ndi zovuta zina pamoyo ngati kuti ndi maloto.
4. Zosatheka kapena zoyembekezeredwa
Iyi ndi mutu womwe ungagwirizane ndi momwe timalumikizirana bwino; ndi chifukwa chachikulu chomwe maukwati amalephera. Koma ndizosavuta kuyang'anira.
Nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi ziyembekezo za anzathu a m'banja kapena anthu ena atizungulira omwe nthawi zambiri amatikhumudwitsa pamene anzathu sakwaniritsa ziyembekezozi. Zomwe ambiri aife sitimazindikira ndikuti ndizosatheka kukwaniritsa zomwe aliyense akufuna - makamaka ngati ziyembekezozo sizinafotokozedwe mwamawu kwa munthu amene akuyembekezeka kuchita zinthu mwanjira inayake!
Pali chifukwa chosavuta cha izi - Tili ndi mawonekedwe apadera amdziko lotizungulira. Tonsefe timakonza zidziwitso mosiyanasiyana. China chake chomwe chili chofunikira ndipo chikuwoneka kuti ndichomveka bwino kwa munthu m'modzi mwina sichingadziwe za munthu wina, ndipo palibe amene angachite izi.
Lingaliro lomaliza
Chifukwa chake pamene tili ndi ziyembekezo za wina ndi mnzake koma sitikuzifotokozera, winayo alibe mwayi. Adzakugwetsani pansi chifukwa sadzadziwa chilichonse chomwe mukufuna. Chifukwa chake ndizomveka kupanga chizolowezi chofotokozera zomwe mukuyembekezera m'mbali zonse za moyo wanu komanso ubale wanu limodzi. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti chifukwa choti mumayembekezera kuti mnzanuyo achite zomwe zikuyembekezeredwa, koma zimatsegulira mpata kukambirana, kukambirana, ndi kunyengerera. Kuti mutha kupeza malo apakati, ndipo chifukwa chake onse awiri amamva ndikumavomerezedwa wina ndi mnzake.