Zamkati
- Kodi timapanga bwanji ubale womwe umadzazidwa ndi chikondi, zosangalatsa, kulumikizana & chisangalalo?
- Kodi chibwenzi chomwe chimayamba ndi kutengeka ndi kukondana chingakhale bwino bwanji?
- Ndi misampha iti yolumikizana ndi ubale?
- Kodi timadziyesa tokha ndikupewa kudzikonda ndi malingaliro athu?
- Malangizo ndi mafunso omwe mungadzifunse kuti mudziyang'anire nokha paubwenzi wanu:
Kodi timapanga bwanji ubale womwe umadzazidwa ndi chikondi, zosangalatsa, kulumikizana & chisangalalo?
Malinga ndi a Lee Iacocca, "Cholowa chanu chikuyenera kukhala kuti mwapanga bwino kuposa momwe mudapangira." Mawu awa ndiowona mu bizinesi monganso maubale.
Ndiye zimachitika bwanji muubwenzi womwe umayamba ndi kutengeka ndi kukondana?
(Malire (komanso chikondi chonyengerera) ndimkhalidwe wamaganizidwe womwe umabwera chifukwa chokopeka ndi munthu wina ndipo umaphatikizaponso malingaliro otengeka ndi zokhumbirika komanso chidwi chofuna kukhazikitsa kapena kusungabe ubale ndi chinthu chomwe chimakukondani ndikubwezera momwe mumamvera.
Kodi chibwenzi chomwe chimayamba ndi kutengeka ndi kukondana chingakhale bwino bwanji?
Yankho: Sizimachitika popanda dongosolo komanso kuchitapo kanthu!
Tonsefe timafuna ubale womwe umadziwika kuti ndi wochuluka (mwachitsanzo, zoposa zomwe titha kufunsa kapena kulingalira). Ngakhale anthu ambiri amatha kuwonetsa ubale wawo ngati wachikondi, wachilendo, wokondwa komanso wochuluka pa Facebook ndi malo ena ochezera, sizomwe zimachitikira aliyense.
Chifukwa chiyani?
Yankho: Sitinaphunzitsidwe momwe tingalankhulire munjira yoyenera m'banja osati za zofuna zathu zokha, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale kulimbana mwamphamvu m'maubale ambiri. Zokambiranazi zimayamba ndi 'Ndikufuna' ndipo zimathera ndi 'akumva', aliyense amatenga gawo lamasewera akumenyana.
Ndi misampha iti yolumikizana ndi ubale?
Kuyankhulana kwa ubale ndi mwala wapangodya wa mayanjano ambiri, kapena osakhala ochulukirapo. Kulankhulana ndikogwira ntchito bwino, ubale umakula bwino (mwachitsanzo, kugonana, ndalama, kulera, banja, ntchito, ndi zina zambiri). Komabe, kulumikizana kumakhala kovuta, ubalewo umadumphaduka. Pofuna kupewa kubwera m'madzi, ndikofunikira kuti mupewe Kudzikonda ndi Zomwe Mumaganizira zomwe ndizomwe zimayambitsa zovuta zoyankhulana.
Kudzikonda + Malingaliro = Mavuto Olankhulana
Kodi timadziyesa tokha ndikupewa kudzikonda ndi malingaliro athu?
"Timakhala monga omwe timaganizira kwambiri." Earl Nightingale
Malangizo ndi mafunso omwe mungadzifunse kuti mudziyang'anire nokha paubwenzi wanu:
Kodi ndikulingalira zosowa zanga, zokhumba zanga, zoyambirira osati zomwe zili zabwino pachibwenzi chathu?
Kudzifufuza ganizirani ngati mawu anu ayamba ndi: Ndikufuna ... ndipanga .... Ndine ndekha amene ... motsutsana ndi zomwe zimayamba ndi "Ife."
Kodi ndikufunsa mafunso oyenera a mnzanga? (Mukuganiza, mukumva chiyani, mukusowa chiyani, ndi zina zambiri)?
Kudzifufuza mukufunsa: Zomwe ndimamva ndikunena ndikuti inu ... Chifukwa chake, zikumveka ngati mukumva _____ za ____; zili choncho? Zikumveka ngati mukufuna ____? Ndiuzeni zambiri pazomwe mukusowa pompano ndi momwe ndingakuthandizireni?
Kodi ndikulanda gawo lililonse lamavuto?
Kudzifufuza dzifunseni kuti: Kodi gawo langa ndilotani pa izi? Kodi ndingatani kuti ndithandizire? Kodi ndavomereza kulakwa kwanga kapena gawo lina la vutoli? Kodi ndikulolera zolakwa ndi zolakwika ndikupereka chisomo? Kodi ndikulankhula mwaumwini (ndikumva, ndikusowa, ndikumva mukunena, ndi zina zambiri)?
Kudzifufuza dzifunseni nokha: Kodi ndikulingalira, kapena ndikungowerenga nkhani kuposa momwe ziliri? Kodi ndikuwerenga pakati pamizere? Kodi Ndikugwiritsa Ntchito "Ziyeneretso Zapadziko Lonse" monga "nthawi zonse," kapena "sanatero"? Kodi mantha anga ndikukayika ndikukhala osatetezeka ndikuwerenga uthengawu ndikuupangitsa kukhala waukulu kuposa momwe ulili?
Kodi ndimakhudzidwa kwambiri mumkhalidwe winawake?
Dziyang'anire nokha: Kodi ndimayankha pamkangano kapena ndimasintha ndimaganizo omwewo? Kodi pali zochitika zina muubwenzi wathu zomwe ndimayankha mwaukali? Mkwiyo? Kukhumudwa? Kukhumudwitsa? Nanga izi zikundivutitsa bwanji ndipo zidachokera kuti?
Kuchuluka kwa maubwenzi sikutipeza kapena kumachitika modabwitsa. Kudziwonetsera nokha ndi kudzizindikira wekha ndiye mwala wapangodya wowonera kudzikonda kwanu ndi malingaliro muubwenzi wanu. Kuchuluka kwaubwenzi kumachokera pakukonzekera mwatsatanetsatane momwe mungapangire ubale ndi kulumikizana momasuka komanso moona mtima pamaziko a kutengeka ndi kukondana.