Zamkati
- Wothandizira wabwino sangalole kuti izi zichitike
- Kubwezeretsa ubale panjira
- 1. Maganizo
- 2. Udindo waumwini
- 3. Yesetsani
Mabanja ambiri amawopa upangiri waukwati. Amawona ngati kuvomereza kugonjetsedwa ndikuvomereza kuti china chake chalakwika ndi ubale wawo. Izi sizivuta kukumana nazo nthawi zonse. Amaganiza kuti akayamba upangiri waukwati, wothandizirayo awunika zolakwika zonse zomwe zili pachibwenzi ndikudzudzula m'modzi kapena onse awiri. Izi sizikuwoneka ngati njira yosangalatsa.
Wothandizira wabwino sangalole kuti izi zichitike
Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zomwe ndimafunsa maanja mgawo lawo loyamba ndi "Mungandiuze nkhani ya momwe mudakumana?" Ndikufunsa funsoli chifukwa ndikufuna kuti ayambe kukumbukira ndikulankhula zomwe zimawakopa kuti awonetse zomwe zimabisika nthawi yakumenyana. Atha kuyamba kupeza mphamvu kuchokera kuzinthu zabwino, ngakhale zayiwalika zaubwenzi wawo.
Ndikufunsanso kuti: “Ngati banja likadakhala momwe mumafunira ndipo ichi chidakhala gawo lanu lomaliza, bwenzi chibwenzi chimawoneka bwanji? Mukadakhala mukuchita chiyani mosiyana? ” Chifukwa changa cha izi ndi ziwiri. Choyamba, ndikufuna kuti ayambe kuyang'ana kwambiri pazomwe akufuna osati zomwe sakufuna. Chachiwiri, ndikufuna kuwalimbikitsa powonetsa kuti zochita zawo zitha kusintha ubale wawo.
Kubwezeretsa ubale panjira
Zaka zingapo zapitazo ndidapanga Msonkhano Wokonzekera Ukwati ndikuupereka kangapo pachaka. Muchigawo chino ndimaphunzitsa maanja zida ndi maluso owathandiza kuwongolera ubale wawo. Izi zikuphatikiza luso lakumvetsera ndi kulumikizana, kukhazikitsa zolinga ndi njira zoyendetsera nthawi, ndi malangizo ena othandizira maubwenzi. Koma, ndisanayambe kufotokozera maluso awa, dongosolo loyamba la bizinesi ndikulimbikitsa maanjawa kuti asinthe machitidwe awo. Imeneyi si ntchito yophweka ndipo imafuna kusintha kwakukulu kwa paradigm.
Mwanjira ina, kusintha kwakukulu pamalingaliro ndikofunikira kuti zinthu zikuyendere bwino.
Ndifotokozera mabanja anga kuti maziko amasinthidwe omwe akuyamba ndi malingaliro awo. Ndikofunikira kuti akhale ndi malingaliro oyenera kuti zinthu zisinthe.
Pali mfundo zazikuluzikulu zitatu zomwe ndizomangira pazofunikira zonse izi.
Ndimawatcha Mphamvu ya 3 P's.
1. Maganizo
Kodi moyo sindiwo malingaliro? Ndimauza maanja anga kuti ndikukhulupirira kuti moyo ndiwowona 99%. Zomwe mumayang'ana zikukula. Mukaika chidwi pazolakwika za mnzanu komanso ubale wanu, ndizomwe mudzakumana nazo. Komabe, ngati mungasankhe kuyang'ana pazabwino ndiye zomwe mudzawona. Tsopano, ndikumvetsetsa kuti maubwenzi akakhala ndi mikangano yambiri, kusamvana kumakuta ndikubisa zonse zabwino. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndimalimbikitsa maanja anga kuvala zisoti zawo za Sherlock Holmes ndikukhala "ofufuza zamphamvu" muubwenzi wawo. Ayenera kufunafuna mosalekeza ndikulitsa zinthu zabwinozi. Izi zimakhala zopambana chifukwa pochita izi amasangalala ndikupangitsa kuti okwatirana awo azisangalala, ndipo amatenga nawo mbali pazosintha zomwe zikuchitika.
2. Udindo waumwini
Ndili ndi mawu a Gandhi omwe adalembedwa pakhoma m'chipinda changa chodikirira chomwe akuti: "Khalani kusintha komwe mukufuna kuwona padziko lapansi." Ndikufuna kusintha izi pamsonkhano wanga kuti: "Khalani kusintha komwe mukufuna kuwona pachibwenzi chanu." Ndifotokozera maanja anga kuti ndizomveka kwambiri kuyang'ana mphamvu zanu zamtengo wapatali pazomwe mungachite kuti musinthe m'malo mongolakalaka ndikudzifunsa kuti mnzanu asintha liti. Ndimawakumbutsa kuti mphamvu zawo zagona pakufunitsitsa kwawo kukhala kusintha kumene akufuna kuwona mu ubale wawo.
3. Yesetsani
Ndimaphunzitsa zida ndi maluso ambiri mu msonkhano wanga, koma ndimauza maanja anga kuti maluso awa sadzawathandiza ngati sadzawatengera kunyumba ndikukawagwiritsa ntchito. Amuna samabwera kudzandiwona kuti andithandize ndi chochitika chapadera. Amabwera kudzakambirana za nthawi yayitali, zizolowezi zosagwira ntchito. Chifukwa tikudziwa kuti machitidwe omwe amachitika kwa nthawi yayitali amakhala chitsanzo. Ndiye mukamazolowera nthawi zonse zimakhala chizolowezi. Chifukwa chake akuyenera kuyamba ndi machitidwe abwino ndikuzichita nthawi yayitali kuti akhale chizolowezi. Tsopano ali mu "malo opanda nzeru." Akwanitsa kuphatikiza chizolowezi chatsopano chathanzi muubwenzi wawo, ndipo zangochitika zokha. Izi, zachidziwikire, zimaphatikizapo kubwereza kosasintha kwamakhalidwe abwino awa. Maanja akuyenera kuchita zomwe akufuna, osati zomwe sakufuna, mpaka pomwe zomwe akufuna zikhale zenizeni zawo.
Pokhapokha atavomereza kusintha kosinthaku m'maganizo ndi pomwe kusintha kwenikweni kungachitike.
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