Zamkati
- Momwe mungapangire kudaliranso muubale
- Fotokozani momwe mukumvera
- Nachi chitsanzo cha zokambirana zoyipa,
- Funsani mlangizi wa mabanja
Kodi mukudziwa kuti kuonera kuli ponseponse kuposa momwe timakhulupirira? Kafukufuku waposachedwa wa 2018 akuwonetsa kuti opitilira theka la anthu omwe akuchita chibwenzi adabera anzawo. Amuna amanamabe kuposa akazi, koma kafukufukuyu wasonyeza kuti theka la azimayi omwe anafunsidwapo nawonso anali pachibwenzi.
Ndizodabwitsa kwambiri kuti maanja ambiri amakhalira limodzi chibwenzi chitawululidwa. Amadutsa nthawi yawo yowawa limodzi ndipo pamapeto pake amakhala olimba. Malinga ndi Selfgrowth.com, kuchuluka kwa maubale omwe amagwira ntchito atabera ndi 78%. Chiwerengerochi ndi cha maanja omwe samatha nthawi yomweyo. Komabe, sizinanene kuti ndi angati omwe pamapeto pake amachita pambuyo pake. Pali zitsanzo za maubale opambana atabera. Omwe adayambitsa Beyond Affairs, gulu lotsogolera kusakhulupirika, ndi chimodzi mwazomwezi.
Momwe mungapangire kudaliranso muubale
Chofunikira paubwenzi wabwino pambuyo ponyenga ndikupanganso kukhulupirirana. Kusakhulupirika kumaphwanya kudzipereka kwa okwatirana, makamaka okwatirana omwe adalumbira pamaso pa anzawo ndi abale awo kuti adzakhala okhulupirika kwa wina ndi mnzake mpaka imfa.
Popanda kukhulupirirana, ungakhale ubale wopanikiza komanso wosasangalatsa. Ndi nyumba yamakhadi yomwe idzagwa kuchokera kamphepo kabwino. Ubale wonse wokhalitsa uli ndi maziko abwino komanso malo abwino. Kusakhulupirika kumawononga maziko amenewo ndikusintha malo okhala. Ngati banjali likufunitsitsa kukhala limodzi ndikukhala ndi chibwenzi chabwinobwino atabera, akuyenera kuyambiranso ubale wawo kuyambira pomwepo.
Ngati banjali liganiza zokhala nacho, pali chikondi pamenepo. Ndikokwanira kupewa chisudzulo, koma sizokwanira mokwanira pamapeto pake.
Maubwenzi opambana atabera amafunika kukonza zomwe zawonongeka musanapitilize kupita patsogolo, mfundo zokhululukirana ndikuyiwala zitha kukhala zokwanira kunyalanyaza zikumbutso, koma osati za kusakhulupirika.
Kukhazikitsanso chikhulupiriro ndi sitepe yoyamba. Transparency ndichinsinsi. Zitha kumveka zosamveka, koma ndiye mtengo wokhala pachibwenzi. Dziperekeni nokha pachimake chachifupi. Chitani izi bola zitengere kuti munthu ayambenso kumukhulupirira.
Chotsani zoikamo zonse zachinsinsi pa kompyuta yanu komanso foni yanu. Perekani mapasiwedi anu onse kuphatikiza maakaunti anu aku banki. Lowetsani kudzera pamavidiyo pafupipafupi, makamaka mukafunika kukhala mochedwa muofesi. Zitha kumveka ngati zopondereza, koma ngati mukufunitsitsa kukhala ndi chibwenzi chabwinobwino mukatha kubera, mudzayesetsa. Pakangotha milungu ingapo, icho chizikhala chizolowezi, ndipo sichikhala chovuta kwambiri.
Fotokozani momwe mukumvera
Patulani mphindi zochepa ola limodzi patsiku kuti muzilankhulana. Popeza banja lanu, sikuyenera kukhala zovuta kupeza mitu yoti mukambirane kupatula momwe tsikulo lidayendera. Khalani achindunji ndipo phatikizani malingaliro anu ndi momwe mukumvera.
Nachi chitsanzo cha zokambirana zoyipa,
Mwamuna: Tsiku lako layenda bwanji?
Mkazi: Zabwino, inu?
Mwamuna: Zinali bwino.
Mkazi: Usiku wabwino
Mwamuna: Usiku wabwino
Ngati simunazindikire, kunali kuwononga nthawi kwakukulu. Palibe kulankhulana, ndipo sizinapangitse ubale uliwonse. Onse awiri adzafunika kuyesetsa kuyankha ndikukambirana mwatsatanetsatane. Mafunso omwewo ndiofunikira, kapena osavutikira nawo ndikuyamba ndi nkhani yanu nthawi yomweyo.
Mwamuna: Pamsonkhano wamasana lero, adagulitsa buledi winawake yemwe ndimakonda. Ndikuganiza kuti amatcha Tiramisu.
Mkazi: Chabwino, ndiyeno?
Mwamuna: Mumakonda kuphika, sichoncho? Tiyeni tiyesere kufika Loweruka lino, titha kupita kukagula zinthu m'mawa.
Mkazi: Titha kuwonera Youtube usiku watha ndikuwona maphikidwe.
Zolemba lachiwiri, ngakhale zokambiranazo zitangotenga mphindi zochepa, zinali zofunikira. Awiriwo adakhazikitsa tsiku laling'ono mkati ndi kunja kwa nyumbayo ndipo adayandikira chifukwa chazomwe amagwirizana. Panalibe miseche, ndipo zimawathandiza kukumbukira bwino.
Funsani mlangizi wa mabanja
Ngati cholepheretsa kulumikizana ndi chovuta kuthana, koma onse awiri ali ofunitsitsa kupitiliza ndi chibwenzi chawo, mlangizi atha kuwongolera njira. Musachite manyazi kuganiza kuti mwatsala pang'ono kumaliza nzeru zanu. N'zovuta kuganiza mozama mukakhala ndi zochitika zambiri. Ngati mukupeza kuti mukufunsa, kodi ubale ungagwire ntchito pambuyo ponyenga? Chitha. Muyenera kulimbikira.
Alangizi a mabanja ndi akatswiri odziwa ntchito zosiyanasiyana omwe ali ndi zokumana nazo zosiyanasiyana pothandiza maanja kuyambiranso ubale wawo. Izi zikuphatikiza momwe mungakhazikitsirenso chibwenzi mutabera. Kusakhulupirika ndizomwe zimayambitsa mavuto m'banja. Nthawi zambiri, anthu amakhala ndi zibwenzi chifukwa pali china chomwe chimasowa muubwenzi. Amuna akuyang'ana kukhutira ndi thupi pomwe akazi akufuna kukhudzidwa.
Alangizi a mabanja atha kuthandizira kusanthula kuti tipeze zovuta zomwe zimayambitsa. Amatha kuthandiza kukonza zomwe zawonongeka ndikuletsa zomwezi kuti zisadzachitikenso mtsogolo.
Kupulumuka kusakhulupirika ndi njira yayitali komanso yokhotakhota. Koma pali kuunika kumapeto kwa mumphangayo, siulendo wopanda chiyembekezo.
Maubwenzi opambana pambuyo pobera sikuti ndi osowa. Koma sizimachitika mwadzidzidzi. Kukhazikitsanso chidaliro, kulumikizana, ndi chiyembekezo chamtsogolo ziziwabwezera banjali panjira yoyenera. Munthu amene wachita kusakhulupirika adzafunika kuleza mtima. Okwatirana ena samakhululuka nthawi yomweyo ndikuyamba phewa lozizira, kugwetsa makoma onyada ndikuwugwirira ntchito.
Mabanja omwe amakhala limodzi pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika akuchita izi mwina pofuna kupewa chisudzulo chosokoneza kapena chifukwa cha ana awo. Kaya chifukwa chake ndi chotani, moyo pansi pa denga limodzi umakhala wabwinopo ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ukayambiranso. Palibe amene amafuna kukhala ndi munthu amene amamunyoza. Ngati mupita kukakhala limodzi, palibe chifukwa chomwe simuyenera kuyesetsa kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino mukamachita zachinyengo.