Zamkati
- Kukumana ndi vuto lapadera
- Kukhala mgulu lomwelo
- Osangowonjezera moto pamoto
- Limbikitsani ubalewo
- Tsatirani ubale womwe mumafuna
Maubale okhalitsa ndiukwati amadziwika ndi zovuta komanso zomwe zimawopseza mgwirizano. Kupatula apo, pali chifukwa chomwe "kudwala ndi thanzi ... labwino kapena loipa" lakhala gawo lamsinthano wokwatirana m'banja.
Ngakhale mavuto ena amabwera kuchokera kudziko lotizungulira, monga mavuto azachuma kapena tsoka lalikulu, ena amayamba chifukwa cha mgwirizano kapena - zovuta kwambiri komabe - kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe ali pachibwenzi.
Zikuwoneka zowopsa kwambiri, kuvulala kwamitsempha monga kuvulala kwa ubongo nthawi zambiri kumangochitika zokha komanso popanda cholakwika ndi mnzake.
Ngakhale chibwenzi pambuyo povulala muubongo chimakumana ndi zovuta zatsopano. Koma zovuta izi sizingagonjetsedwe, ndipo ngati zingayendetsedwe bwino zitha kubweretsanso ubale.
Kukumana ndi vuto lapadera
Ndikofunika kuwunikira kuti zochitika zamankhwala ndi matenda ndizosiyana ndi zina zomwe zimawopseza ubalewo. Ngakhale sitingathe kuzizindikira pamlingo woyenera, kuvulala kwaubongo kumatha kuyika zovuta zapadera pachibwenzi chomwe chimachokera komwe chimachokera.
Chuma chokhalitsa kapena tsoka lalikulu limabwera kuchokera kudziko lotizungulira, likuwononga kwambiri ubale wochokera kunja.
Ngakhale ndizovuta, zochitika zakunja zoterezi zitha kubweretsa kuyanjana kwa mnzake.
Zikatero, kuti muthandizire mnzanu, muyenera "kuzungulira magalimoto" kapena "kukumba" kupita pirira zowawa zomwe ena anakumana nazo pa iwo.
Monga graphite yomwe idasandulika daimondi potenthedwa ndi kukakamizidwa, othandizana nawo kuthana ndi vuto akhoza kupambana ndikupambana.
Ngakhale zochitika zamankhwala komanso matenda amtunduwu amakhala ndi vuto lofananalo, malo opangira zovuta amapangitsa zinthu kukhala zovuta.
Dziko lozungulira ubalewo siliyenera kulakwa; kupsinjika kosayembekezereka ndi mkhalidwe wachipatala wa m'modzi mwa iwo pachibwenzi. Mwadzidzidzi munthu ameneyo akhoza kukhala amene akusowa kwambiri ndipo sangakwanitse kupereka.
Ngakhale aliyense achita khama, izi zimatha kubweretsa mkwiyo. Ndikofunikira nthawi imeneyo kukumbukira kuti anzawo ali mgulu lomwelo.
Kukhala mgulu lomwelo
Kuvomereza ndikudziwa zovuta zapabanja kapena pachibwenzi pambuyo povutitsidwa ndi theka chabe. China chofunikira kuchitira othandizana nawo pothandizana ndi matenda ndi thanzi ndikupeza ndikukhalabe pagulu limodzi.
Chodabwitsa, komabe, ubongo wathu wamunthu wovuta ungapangitse izi kukhala zovuta.
Mukuwona, monga anthu, ndi chikhalidwe chathu kugawa zinthu. Khalidwe logawika anthu mwanjira inayake ndi chinthu chosankhidwa mwachilengedwe, limatithandiza kuti tikhale ndi moyo posankha zochita mwachangu, ndipo timaziwona zikuwonekera adakali ana.
Chinthu chingakhale chotetezeka kapena chowopsa; nyama ikhoza kukhala yaubwenzi kapena yankhanza; nyengo imakhala yabwino kapena yovuta; munthu atha kuthandiza kapena kusokoneza kuyesayesa kwathu pakusangalala.
Tikamakalamba, timaphunzira za dziko lapansi, ndipo zambiri zake zimakhala zotuwa osati "zakuda ndi zoyera," koma chibadwa chogawa m'magulu chimatsalira.
Chifukwa chake, pamene munthu yemwe timamukonda adwala chifukwa chakulephera kwakanthawi kapena kuchipatala, malingaliro athu ogawika m'magulu amatha kupanga zodabwitsazi, kugawa wokondedwayo ngati "woyipa" m'njira yachisangalalo chathu.
Izi zitha kuchitika chifukwa chakuti gawo lopulumuka lamagulu limatiphunzitsa - kuyambira tili achichepere - kuti tisunthire pazabwino komanso kusiya zoyipa.
Muubwenzi pambuyo povulala muubongo, zovuta ndi maudindo ambiri zimawonekera kwa mnzake wosavulazidwa. Koma wopulumukayo sakupanga zovuta - kuvulala kwawo ubongo ndiko.
Vuto ndiloti kugawa malingaliro athu kumangoyang'ana wopulumukayo, osati kuvulala kwaubongo. Wopulumuka, yemwe tsopano akusowa ndalama zambiri ndipo sangathe kuchita zambiri, atha kumamuwerengera molakwika ngati woyipa.
Koma choyipa ndi kuvulala kwaubongo, osati wopulumuka yemwe adamupangitsa. Ndipo m'menemo muli vuto lankhanza: Kuvulala kwaubongo kumakhudza wozunzidwayo, koma posintha momwe wopulumukirayo amakhalira kapena umunthu wake, zitha kupangitsa ubongo wa mnzanu kusokoneza wotsalayo.
Ngakhale munthu m'modzi adavulala muubongo, tikukhulupirira tsopano kuti chibwenzicho chidapitilira.
Othandizana nawo omwe angakumbutsane - komanso iwo eni - kuti kuvulala kwaubongo ndiye munthu woyipa atha kuthana ndi "ine motsutsana nanu" zomwe magulu anzeru angapangitse molakwika.
Amatha kukhala mbali yomweyo ya "ife motsutsana ndi kuvulala kwa ubongo". Ndipo nthawi zina zimatheka ndikukumbutsa kuti: "Hei, kumbukirani, tili mgulu limodzi."
Osangowonjezera moto pamoto
Mbali yodziwikiratu yakukhala mgulu lomwelo ndiyo osagwira ntchito motsutsana ndi zolinga za timu.
Osewera mpira samakankha mpira kupita kwa wopita nawo, pambuyo pake. Zikuwoneka ngati zosavuta, koma ngati kukhumudwa kapena kukwiya kutenga ndikuwongolera machitidwe athu, titha kuchita zinthu zomwe zimawonjezera vutoli.
Osatengeka ndi malingaliro amenewo ndikuwonjezera moto.
Kwa opulumuka, yesetsani kulimbana ndi malingaliro achabechabe kapena kuchitiridwa nkhanza.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyipa kwambiri zomwe opulumuka angachite - pachibwenzi chawo pambuyo povulala muubongo - ndi fuse ndi lingaliro loti ndiwovutitsidwa kapena wopanda ntchito.
Zowona, wopulumuka sangakwanitse kuchita zinthu zina kuposa kale, koma kuyang'ana kwambiri maluso omwe atayika kumapangitsa kukhala kovuta kuwona zotsalira.
Kwa omwe sanathandizire kuvulala kwaubongo, osachepetsa kapena kupatsa mphamvu wopulumukayo.
Kupulumuka kuvulala kwaubongo ndikuchira ndi kovuta mokwanira popanda kupangidwa kuti mumve kuti mukuleredwa kapena kutoleredwa ndi mnzanu. Ndipo ngati cholinga cha timu ndikubwezeretsa wopulumukayo, kuyendetsa mpira kumachotsa mpira kutali ndi cholingacho.
Komanso, musawope kuwonetsa chiopsezo. Anthu omwe sanavulazidwe akhoza kukakamizidwa kuti aziwoneka ngati "ali ndi zonse zomwe akuyang'anira," koma sizikhala choncho, ndipo mawonekedwe ake nthawi zambiri amakhala osakhutiritsa.
Mwanjira ina, kuvomereza ndikugawana zakukhala pachiwopsezo kungatsimikizire wopulumukayo kuti sali okha akulimbana ndi kusintha.
Limbikitsani ubalewo
Muubwenzi pambuyo povulala muubongo, abwenziwo ayenera kuyesetsa kuti asachite motsutsana ndi zomwe akugawana, koma sikokwanira.
Chibwenzi chilichonse chachikondi chiyenera kudyetsedwa panjira ngati chikhala. Kupatula apo, ngakhale chomera chanyumba chomwe - chotetezedwa ku tizilombo komanso zinthu zina zakunja - chitha kufota ndi kufa ngati sichipatsidwa madzi, chakudya, ndi kuchuluka kwa dzuwa.
Chifukwa opulumuka, pezani njira zogwiritsa ntchito. Pezani zochitika zenizeni ndikudzipereka kuzichita, ndikukhala ndi cholinga chofananira pakukonzanso.
Opulumuka ayeneranso kuthandizira anzawo pantchito zatsopano. Othandizana nawo atha kutenga maudindo atsopano omwe kale anali opulumuka (mwachitsanzo, kuphika, ntchito yakunyumba).
Opulumuka atha kuthandiza anzawo powalandira kusintha kumeneku ngakhalenso malingaliro omwe amabwera nawo, kupereka chithandizo ndi chitsogozo (makamaka ngati m'malo mowadzudzula monga "sizomwe ndimachitiramo.")
Pomaliza, opulumuka atha kufunsa anzawo ndi abale awo kuti athandize anzawo.
Anthu omwe sanavulazidwe akhoza kukhala osafuna kupeza chithandizo chifukwa amadzimva kuti "akuyenera kuthana ndi zinthu" paokha.
Ngakhale kuli koyenera kuthana ndi ziyembekezo zopanda nzeru, chithandizo chofulumira chitha kuperekedwa ngati wopulumukayo apempha thandizo kwa abwenzi, abale, ndi othandizira ena.
Chifukwa anzanu, thandizani mnzanu kupeza njira zatsopano (kapena kusintha njira zakale) zogwiritsa ntchito.
Ngati othandizana nawo ataya lingaliro loti opulumuka adakali ndi zambiri zoti achite, ndikuphatikiza ndi lingaliro loti ali olemetsa kapena kuyika chidwi pa zomwe sangathe kuchita, zikhala zovuta kwambiri kuti opulumuka apereke.
Tsatirani ubale womwe mumafuna
Wina atha kugawa zina mwazomwe zanenedwa pamwambapa monga kuchepetsa kuwonongeka kwa ubale womwe umayambitsidwa ndi kuvulala kwaubongo. Ngakhale alibe chiyembekezo, magawowa si olondola kwathunthu.
Tiyeni tikhale achilungamo ndikuvomereza chowonadi chowawa: ndi china chake chosintha moyo monga kuvulala kwaubongo, zabwino zambiri zomwe zimatsata ndikuwongolera kuwonongeka. Koma kuwongolera kuwonongeka sikuyenera kukhala yokhayo kuchitapo.
Monga tafotokozera m'ndime yoyamba ya gawo lino, kuvulala muubongo kumabweretsa zovuta pamiyeso iliyonse. Koma ndi kusinthasintha pang'ono kwamaganizidwe, titha kuzindikiranso ngati mwayi.
Omwe ali pachibwenzi pambuyo povulala muubongo amakakamizidwa kuti awunikenso pomwe ali ndi zomwe zili zofunika kwa iwo.
Ngati zingafunike, kudzera pakuchita modzipereka ndikuwongoleredwa, zitha kuyendetsanso kukula ndi kusinthika kuzolinga zomwe abwenziwo adagawana.
Poganizira izi, ndipo momwe maudindo, ntchito, ndi ziyembekezo zikusintha, ndikofunikira kuyesa kusunthira kuubwenzi womwe mukufuna - kuvulala kwaubongo kapena ayi.
Kotero, pitilizani kukhala ndi tsiku usiku ngati simunapite kukavulala kuubongo.
Onse omwe akuyanjana nawo ayenera kulimbikitsa maubwenzi awo ndi nthawi yomwe amakhala okha.Nthawi imeneyo limodzi ndiyofanana, ngati siyofunika kwambiri, kuposa kusanachitike kupsinjika kwa chibwenzi pambuyo povulala muubongo.
Ganizirani za upangiri wa maanja ndi othandizira pakulankhula.
Uphungu wa maanja ukhoza kuthandizira kuyankhulana pakati pa abwenzi, kuzindikira komwe kumayambitsa mikangano mobwerezabwereza, ndikupatsanso upangiri wopindulitsa kapena kupereka zida ndi zinthu zina.
Ndipo ngati zingatheke, lingalirani zamankhwala ogonana ndi akatswiri pantchito kapena akatswiri ena.
Chifukwa cha zovuta zosiyanasiyana za kuvulala kwaubongo (mwakuthupi ndi kwamaganizidwe), komanso chifukwa choti kukondana ndikofunikira pakukondana kulikonse, akatswiri atha kuthandiza maanja kulimbikitsana kapena kuyanjananso muubwenzi wawo.