Zamkati
- Lemekezani mnzanu
- Sangalalani limodzi
- Lamulirani mkwiyo wanu
- Lekani kusunthira cholakwacho
- Yambitsaninso chidaliro
Nkhani zaukwati zitha kuwonongeka mpaka pomwe maanja amaganiza kuti amafunikira malo okhazikika amthupi ndi amalingaliro kuti ateteze kuwonongeka kosatheka kwa thupi lawo, malingaliro, mzimu ndi moyo wawo. Pambuyo pake nthawi zambiri amapatukana. Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti kupatukana kwaukwati sikuletsa chisudzulo m'malo mwake kumatha kubweretsa banja. Kupatukana nthawi zambiri kumakhala nthawi yolimbikitsa kwa okwatirana omwe amapezeka kuti ayimitsidwa kwinakwake pakati paukwati ndi chisudzulo. Kudzimva wosatsimikizika, chisoni, mantha, mkwiyo ndi kusungulumwa zikuyembekezeredwa. Pakakhala kulekana, pamakhala chiwopsezo chotha cha chisudzulo — chomwe nthawi zambiri chimakhala kutha kwa banja. Momwe mumamvera pakupatukana kwanu kungadalire ngati inu ndi amene munayambitsa kapena ayi, komanso zifukwa zake zinali zovuta ndi zovuta m'banja lanu.
Kulekana kuli ngati chisinthiko koma ndikumverera kwachisokonezo mtsogolo. Chifukwa cha kupsinjika kwakukulu komwe kumayambitsa, zosankha mopupuluma, mopupuluma zimapangidwa nthawi zambiri. Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovulaza banja.
Kuphunzira kulemekezana komanso kukhala ndi umunthu mnyumba momwemo kungapulumutse banja litatha banja - izi zimathandiza kulimbikitsa kulumikizana kwabwino komanso kopita patsogolo.
Njira zotsatirazi zitha kuthandiza kuyambitsanso banja nthawi yopatukana:
Lemekezani mnzanu
Njira yoti mukonzere ndikusunga banja lanu ndikuphunzira momwe mungalemekezere mnzanu. Pakhoza kukhala kukwiya, chisoni, mantha ndi mkwiyo mumtima mwanu chifukwa chakumbuyo koma muyenera kuzisiya. Muyenera kukonda ndi kulemekeza wokondedwa wanu chifukwa cha umunthu wawo komanso momwe alili. Mukakhala okhoza kulemekeza wokondedwa wanu momwe alili, mutha kupeza njira yothetsera kusamvana kwanu mwachangu komanso mokoma mtima komanso moyenera. Kulemekezana wina ndi mnzake ndiye maziko komanso maziko a ubale uliwonse ngakhale banja.
Sangalalani limodzi
Kusangalala limodzi ngati banja ndi imodzi mwanjira zopulumutsira banja lanu mukapatukana. Kuchezera limodzi, kupita m'makanema, kupita pamaulendo, ziwonetsero, makonsati pamodzi ndi njira yobwezeretsanso chikondi ndi chidwi muukwati mutasiyana. Khalani ndi nthawi yopanga zosangalatsa ndi mnzanu nthawi zambiri. Izi zikuthandizani kuti mugwirizanenso limodzi komanso kuyambiranso chikondi ndi chidwi chomwe munali nacho wina ndi mzake asanasiyane. Monga momwe mumachitira m'masiku oyambirira aukwati wanu kapena momwe mumachitira muli pachibwenzi ndizomwe muyenera kuyamba kuchita. Ngakhale, kupatukana kumapangitsa zinthu kukhala zovuta koma iyi ndi njira yanu yapadera yosonyezera kuti mumakondanabe ndikusamala za chisangalalo cha mnzanu.
Lamulirani mkwiyo wanu
Kuti mukonzekere banja mukatha kupatukana, muyenera kuphunzira kudziletsa. Muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire odekha komanso ozizira mukakwiyitsidwa. Mutha kusankha kupita kokayenda panja mukawona kuti mwakwiya. Simuyenera kuyeserera kutukwana kapena kuzunza mnzanu nthawi iliyonse mukamakangana kapena simukugwirizana naye. Zitha kuwononga ubale womwe mukufuna kusunga. Onetsetsani kuti mwakhala odekha ngakhale wokondedwa wanu atatenthedwa ndi kukwiya, pewani kuyeselana kuti muponye mawu achipongwe m'banja.
Lekani kusunthira cholakwacho
Gawo lofunikira pakupulumutsa chibwenzi mutapatukana ndikutenga udindo pazomwe mukuchita, osachita, zolakwika, zolakwitsa, komanso zolakwika. Ngati mukufuna kuyanjananso ndi wokondedwa wanu ndizobwezeretsa kukwiya, kufotokoza chidani ndikusunthira kwa iye pazomwe mwachita. Muyenera kufikira pomwe mutha kugawana zopweteketsa mtima ndi malingaliro anu munjira yopindulitsa ndi cholinga chomvetsetsana ndi mgwirizano kuti muthane ndi mavuto am'banja mwanu. Tengani udindo ndi mwamuna pazomwe mukuchita komanso machitidwe anu m'malo momuimba mlandu mnzake.
Yambitsaninso chidaliro
Kukhulupirirana ndichofunika kwambiri muukwati. Ndi poyala pomwe ukwati ndi ubale wina uliwonse umayimilira. Popanda kukhazikitsanso chidaliro chomwe mudali nacho kwa mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu kale, ndili ndi chisoni kukuwuzani kuti ukwatiwo ugwa.
Zimatenga nthawi yayifupi kwambiri kuwononga chidaliro chomwe wina ali nacho kwa inu komanso nthawi yayitali kuti mumangenso. Kukhazikitsanso kukhulupirirana kumafunikira kuti muziyang'anira momwe mumakhalira, kukhala osamala momwe mumakhalira. Kukhazikitsanso chidaliro muukwati wopanda chimwemwe ndichofunikira kwambiri pakubwezeretsanso chikondi ndi kukondana banja litatha. Ngati mukufuna kupulumutsa banja lanu mutapatukana muyenera kiyi!