Zamkati
- Yesetsani kukhululuka kuchokera pansi pamtima
- Kukhululuka pambuyo poperekedwa
- Chifukwa chiyani kulapa ndi kukhululukirana muukwati ndikofunikira?
- Kulapa ndi kukhululukirana m'banja sikudzakhala kophweka
Ukwati m'zaka za zana la 21 nthawi zambiri umawoneka wosiyana kwambiri ndi maukwati omwe agogo athu ndi agogo athu amayamba kumayambiriro kwa zaka za m'ma 2000. Makolo athu anali ndi kuleza mtima kwabwino, ndipo kukhululukirana muukwati sinali nkhani yayikulu nthawi imeneyo.
Masiku ano maukwati amawoneka ngati othamangira, osakhala ndi mnzake womvetsetsa zosowa kapena umunthu wa mnzake, zomwe zitha kubweretsa kusamvana, kusagwirizana, kapena kuipidwa muukwati.
Tsoka ilo, kulumikizana molakwika uku, ngakhale sikofunikira kapena kwakukulu, kumatha kuyamba kusokoneza banja kuchokera mkati, kusokoneza maziko oyambira achikondi ndi kudalirana chifukwa chakusalapa komanso kukhululukirana.
Momwe mungakhululukire ndikukhululuka kumaoneka ngati chinthu chosatheka. Kulapa - machitidwe opepesa moona mtima chifukwa cha zomwe wachita kapena mawu, nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati njira yolumikizirana. Mawu achi Greek omwe kulapa kumagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati dzina ndi "metanoia," kutanthauza "kusintha malingaliro."
Ndi kangati pomwe mumalankhula mawu okhumudwitsa kwa mnzanuyo? Ndi kangati mwa nthawi zomwe mudapepesapo, kapena mwangoyeserera kupitilira ndikunyalanyaza ndemanga ndi zomwe zakhudza mtsogolo?
Zachisoni, mabanja ambiri akusankha zomwe zatchulidwa pamwambapa. M'malo modzichepetsa ndikulapa, tikunyalanyaza zopweteka zomwe zidachitika chifukwa cha zomwe tidachita komanso zolankhula zathu ndikulola malingaliro olakwika kuti afike chifukwa cha iwo.
Yesetsani kukhululuka kuchokera pansi pamtima
Onse awiri mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kuyesa kukhululukirana mbanja. Izi sizitanthauza kuti, "Osadandaula ndi zomwe wachita, ndili nazo, ndipo tonsefe timalakwitsa."
Zachidziwikire, izi zikuwoneka ngati zauzimu komanso zazikulu zotuluka pakamwa pathu, koma, zowonadi, mukukhala onyenga kwathunthu. Mwadzazidwa ndi ululu, mkwiyo, kuwawidwa mtima, ndi mkwiyo. Kukhululuka ndi kulekerera sikumangonena pakamwa.
Kukhululuka mu ubale kumachokera mumtima mwanu ...
Sindikukuyereranso cholakwa ichi. ”
"Sindibweretsanso izi kwa iwe kuti ndizisunge pamutu pako."
"Sindingalankhule za cholakwachi ena ndisanaudziwe."
Komanso munthu amakhululuka ndi kuchitapo kanthu.
Kukhululuka pambuyo poperekedwa
Pankhani yokhululuka mnzanu wonyenga, ndizovuta kwambiri kukhululuka m'banja. Koma, tisanakambe zakukhululuka mnzanu, kodi mudaganizapo chifukwa chake kukhululuka ndikofunikira.
Kukhululukirana m'banja kumathandiza kwambiri amene amakhululuka kuposa yemwe akuyenera kukhululukidwa.
Sizovuta kukhululukira wina akachita chinyengo. Koma, kusunga chakukhosi kumakuwonetsani kuchokera mkati ndikuwononga chisangalalo chanu. Zimakuvulazani kuposa munthu amene wakulakwirani.
Chifukwa chake mukaganiza zakukhululuka mnzanu wonyenga, ganizirani momwe inu mumaonera. Ganizirani zifukwa zonse zomwe mungasiyire kukwiya. Kukhululukira munthu amene umamukonda ndi kovuta koma sikungatheke.
Ngati mupambana pakukhululuka muukwati, mutha kukhala ndi mtendere wamumulungu komanso kumasuka ku malingaliro olimbikitsa. Kuti mumvetsetse kufunikira kokhululuka ndi kulapa muukwati, izi ndi zina mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri za m'Baibulo.
Kuti mubwezeretse chikhulupiriro ndi kukhulupirirana wina ndi mnzake m'banja mwanu, kulapa kuyenera kupezeka ndikukhala kowona konse. Luka 17: 3 akuti, “Chifukwa chake chenjerani. M'bale wako akakuchimwira, umdzudzule; Ndipo ngati alapa, akhululukireni. ”
Yakobo akuti tonsefe timapunthwa m'njira zambiri (Yakobo 3: 2). Izi zikutanthauza kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mudzapunthwa ... m'njira zambiri. Simungadabwe mnzanu akachimwa, muyenera kungodzipereka kuti mukwaniritse malonjezo anu kapena kukhala okonzeka kukhululuka.
Chifukwa chiyani kulapa ndi kukhululukirana muukwati ndikofunikira?
Khristu adaphunzitsa kuti pali nthawi zomwe tiyenera kukhululuka ndikupemphera kuti Ambuye atsogolere ena kuti alape.
Yesu adati pa Mateyu 6: 14-15: “Mukamakhululukira anthu ena akakuchimwirani, inunso Atate wanu wakumwamba adzakukhululukirani. Koma ngati simukhululukira ena machimo awo, Atate wanu sadzakukhululukiraninso inu. ”
Amanenanso pa Marko 11:25: “Mukayimirira ndikupemphera, mukakhululukire wina aliyense, akhululukireni, kuti Atate wanu wakumwamba akukhululukireni machimo anu. ”
Ndizowona kuti pakhoza kukhala chikhululukiro popanda kulapa ndi munthu winayo (yemwenso amatchedwa kukhululuka kopanda malire), izi sizokwanira kuyanjanitsa kwathunthu pakati pa okwatirana.
Yesu amaphunzitsa mu Luka 17: 3-4: “Samalani nokha. M'bale wako akakuchimwira, umdzudzule; ndipo ngati alapa, akhululukireni. Ngakhale atakuchimwirani kasanu ndi kawiri patsiku ndipo abwereranso kwa inu maulendo 7 kuti, 'Ndalapa,' muyenera kuwakhululukira. ”
Yesu mwachiwonekere akudziwa kuti sipangakhale kuyanjanitsidwa kwathunthu pamene tchimo likuyima pakati pa ubale. Izi zimachitika makamaka kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi.
Kuti akhale amodzi, machimo ayenera kukambidwa ndikukwaniritsidwa. Sizingabisike kwa wina ndi mnzake. Payenera kukhala kumasuka, kuwona mtima, kuulula, kulapa, kukhululuka, ndi kuyanjananso kwathunthu.
Chilichonse chocheperako sichingalole kuti banja liziyenda bwino, koma m'malo mwake ayambe kupha pang'onopang'ono chifukwa chosowa mtendere, kudziimba mlandu, kukhumudwa, mkwiyo, ndi mkwiyo. Musalole kuti zinthu izi zikhazikike mwa inu nokha kapena mnzanu.
Kuulula ndi kulapa koona nkofunika kuti pakhale mtendere, chimwemwe, ndi ubale wolimba pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, komanso pakati pa awiriwa ndi Mulungu.
Kuti mumve zambiri zakukhululuka m'banja, onerani kanemayu:
Kulapa ndi kukhululukirana m'banja sikudzakhala kophweka
Palibe amene ananena kuti ukwati wopambana waumulungu unali wosavuta. Ngati wina wachita, mnyamata oh mnyamata, kodi amatero kunama kwa inu! (Dikirani, mutu wankhani wanji m'nkhaniyi? O chabwino ... kukhululuka! * Wink *) Koma banja likuyenda bwino ndi zotheka.
Mupanga zolakwitsa. Mnzanuyo amalakwitsa. Kumbukirani izi, ndikulapa moona mtima ndikukhululuka kwanu moona mtima muukwati. Pali china chake chomasula kuthekera kuuza mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, "ndakukhululukirani."