Zamkati
- 1. Kuyamikiridwa
- 2. Kufuna kulumikizana
- 3. Kudziwitsa Maganizo
- 4. Chiwonetsero Chakuthupi
- 5. Masewero
- Kutenga kotsiriza
Mukakumbukira kubwerera ku 'Ndimatero,' tsiku limenelo limadzaza ndi chisangalalo, chisangalalo, nkhawa, ngakhale mantha a zosadziwika. Koma pambuyo pa tsiku lachisangalalo, munayamba kupanga moyo wanu pamodzi. Munali okangalika chifukwa chocheza limodzi, kugonana, ndikupanga chibwenzi.
Kenako zaka zingapo pambuyo pake, mukuwona kuti zinthu zasintha. Zovuta pamoyo zayamba, kunenepa, zovuta zathanzi, ngakhale ana. Kuthetheka komwe kunalipo pachiyambi tsopano kukutha. Amalowetsedwa m'malo ndi zenizeni komanso maudindo amoyo.
Koma ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kubwezeretsanso ubale wanu, ndipo ndili ndi njira zisanu zokuthandizani kuti mufike kumeneko-
1. Kuyamikiridwa
Kodi kukhutitsidwa kumatanthauza chiyani kwa inu pamene tikufufuza zaubwenzi, nthawi yabwino, kugonana, komanso ubwenzi? Ndimalongosola kukhutira muukwati ngati chisangalalo chenicheni chokwanitsidwa ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, mumamukonda, ndi kumukhulupirira.
- Chikondi
Chikondi chimakhala ndi gawo lakuya la chikondi, kusiririka, ndi ulemu. Izi ndizofunikira chifukwa zimapereka njira yokhutiritsira, monga ndichidebe chomwe chimaphatikizapo zonse zopatulika kwa inu monga aliyense payekha komanso ngati banja. Chikondi sichoposa mawu. Ndizochita zanu zomwe zimaperekedwa kuti muwonetse chisamaliro chanu ndi cholinga cha winayo.
- Mtengo
Mtengo umalemekeza kwambiri mnzanu. Mnzanu ndiwofunika komanso wofunika kwa inu, ndipo pamodzi, mumapanga chuma chamtengo wapatali, chomwe ndi pangano lanu laukwati pakati pa wina ndi mnzake ndi Mulungu. Mukuwonetsa kuyamikirana wina ndi mnzake kudzera mukuvomereza wina. Osayesa kusintha wina ndi mnzake, koma kuyang'ana chidwi chanu pazabwino ndi machitidwe a mnzanu.
Kuyang'ana pazolakwika kumabweretsa kupsinjika ndi mavuto. Komabe, kutsata malingaliro athu kwa anzathu Makhalidwe abwino amatilola kuti tiwaone ngati munthu ndipo timapanga mpata wofotokozera nkhawa zathu panthawi yoyenera.
- Kudalira
Kudalira banja ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Zimakupatsani mwayi kuti mukhale omasuka, makamaka pamene tikumvetsetsa kukhutira ndi chibwenzi. Kudalirana ndikutha kuwonetsa mphamvu zanu monga munthu panokha kapena wokwatirana naye chifukwa mumawonetsa kuti ndinu wodalirika, wodalirika, komanso wodzipereka kwa wokondedwa wanu.
2. Kufuna kulumikizana
Chilakolako chimanena kuti mumalakalaka wina ndi mnzake. Kufuna kulumikizidwa mwakuthupi, mwamalingaliro, komanso mwauzimu. Kulumikiza pamilingo iliyonse imalola maanja kukhala otetezeka ndikuzindikira kuti angathe kupyola mu china chilichonse.
Zotsatira zake, zimawaika kuti akhale ndi malingaliro omasulidwa muubwenzi wogonana. Tsegulani kuti mupereke ku zikhumbo zolumikizana zomwe zadalitsidwa ndi Mulungu. Sizikukana wina ndi mnzake chifukwa cha momwe timamvera koma zimapanga malo osakhala ndi poizoni, kulola wina wanu wofunika kulumikizana kwambiri.
3. Kudziwitsa Maganizo
Kukhazikitsa kuzindikira kwamalingaliro anu ndi gawo lofunikira polimbikitsa kukondana, nthawi yabwino, kugonana, komanso ubwenzi m'banja. Malingaliro athanzi amalola kuti munthu aliyense adziwe zomwe akumva komanso chifukwa chake.
Izi zimawalola kutero fufuzani momwe akumvera ndipo osaphulika pazofunikira zawo, kuwalola kuti azichita zinthu mwanzeru komanso kuti asachitepo kanthu.
Kuchita bwino kumatanthauza kuti mukudziwa komanso kuwongolera momwe mukumvera ndipo musalole kuti malingaliro anu akhale ndi mphamvu pa inu. Chifukwa chake, mutha kuyankha pamalingaliro anu. Komabe, simulola kuti izi zikhale zovuta pakati panu ndi mnzanu, zomwe zingakupangitseni kuti musamayanjane.
Kupatukana ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikuwononga mwayi uliwonse wapamtima ndizomwe ndimafotokoza ngati zotakasika. Kuchita zinthu mosiyana ndikutsutsana ndipo kumabweretsa chisangalalo muukwati.
Mumachitapo kanthu poyankha zomwe mukumva, ndikupangitsa kuti mumveke bwino, m'malo mongoyang'anira momwe mumamvera. Izi zimabweretsa kukumana kosayenera ndikupanga kusadzilekana komanso kusowa ubale wapakati pa inu ndi mnzanu.
Chifukwa chake kuti mulumikizane pamalingaliro, muyenera kukhala otakataka osati otakataka.
4. Chiwonetsero Chakuthupi
Chikoka chakuthupi ndi pamene wina wakopeka ndi m'mene winayo akuonekera. Maanja ambiri ndimawawona akugwiritsa ntchito izi chifukwa chake sangathe kulumikizana ndi akazi awo, kuchokera kunenepa, mtundu wa thupi, ndi mavalidwe. Kuchokera pamawonedwe azaumoyo, tiyenera kukhala athanzi.
Komabe, muukwati, ndikukhulupirira kuti chifukwa cha chikondi, nkhawa, ndi ulemu, mukamagwirira ntchito limodzi, zimakupatsani mwayi kuthana ndi nkhawa zomwe zingakhalepo pachibwenzi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati nkhani ili yokhudza zovala, amuna amatha kugula zovala zomwe angafune akazi awo atavala, ndipo nawonso akazi akhoza kuchita chimodzimodzi. Koma zikafika pamagulu amthupi, osagwiritsa ntchito mayankhulidwe oyipa kuti muwononge mnzanu.
Komabe, yankhani popereka mayankho kapena njira zothandiza komanso zolimbikitsira mnzanu. Popita nthawi matupi athu amatha kusintha, koma izi sizikutsutsana ndi pangano lomwe tidapangana wina ndi mnzake komanso ndi Mulungu. Ganizirani njira zomwe munganyengerere wina ndi mnzake. Kambiranani zomwe mukufuna kuwona ndikupita kumeneko. Mgwirizano umaloleza kuti wina ndi mnzake amve ndipo zimapangitsa kuti pakhale mwayi wazotheka. Malingaliro anu ndi malo abwino kuyamba.
Kanemayo pansipa, Tomi Toluhi akuti kukopa kuli m'magulu anayi osiyanasiyana. Zimayamba ndi kukopa kwakuthupi, komwe kumakhala koyambira. Zimayambitsa chidwi. Dziwani zambiri apa:
5. Masewero
Izi zimatipangitsa kusewera. Kutenga mbali muukwati kungakhale njira yabwino yopezera chisangalalo ndi chikhutiro mu banja. Ndimalongosola udindo woti ndichite ngati kulingalira muukwati zomwe zimalimbikitsa maanja kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wogonana womwe umakhala wolimbikitsa, wolimbikitsa komanso wosangalatsa.
Masewero samapangidwira kunyoza kapena kunyoza koma kuti pangani mwayi wokambirana momwe mungapangire moyo wanu wogonana zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zokopa komanso zopanda pake.
Kutenga kotsiriza
Kuzindikira kuti kukondana kumatanthauza kusangalatsidwa ndi ntchito yofunikira m'banja. Kubwezeretsa kukondana muukwati wanu ndikotheka ndipo kumafunikira kudzipereka, ndalama, komanso kulimbikitsidwa.
Khalani odzipereka ku 'Ndimachita' ndi zonse zomwe zikuyimira, gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yofunikira kumanganso ubalewo, ndikulimbitsa mtima wanu wachikondi, kufunika, ndi kudalirana kuti mupange chibwenzi choyenera, chenicheni, komanso cholimba. Zotsatira zake, mupanga mwayi wopeza nthawi yabwino, zogonana, komanso kucheza.