Zamkati
- Ulendo waukwati
- Maukwati sakuyenda bwino
- Dziwani chomwe chimayambitsa mikangano
- Ulendo wapabanja ndiwosiyana kwa amuna ndi akazi
Ukwati ndi wosiyana kwambiri masiku ano kuposa zaka zana zapitazo. Udindo wa mwamuna ndi mkazi sadziwika bwinobwino, ndipo dera lathu likuwoneka kuti lilibe malamulo owakhalira. Ngakhale zili choncho, anthu ambiri amayembekeza kwambiri kukhutira ndi banja lawo, komanso chiyembekezo chachikulu chakuchira ndikukula. Wokondedwa aliyense amalakalaka, mosazindikira kapena mosazindikira, kuti winayo achiritse mabala awo aubwana, ndikuwakonda, kuwalandira, ndi kuwasamalira.
Ulendo waukwati
Ulendo waukwati ndiwopambana komanso waulemerero wokhala ndi zochitika zambiri kuphatikiza zokumana ndi mantha anu, kupeza kulimba mtima, kupeza alangizi, kuphunzira maluso atsopano, ndikumwalira mukudzidzimva kwanu komwe kumamverera ngati kukhumudwa kusanakhale ngati kwatsopano komanso moyo wofunikira kwambiri. Zitenga nthawi kuti tichite izi, koma ndichinthu choyenera chaanthu. Ili ndi kuthekera kosintha chidziwitso chanu chachikondi kukhala chinthu china chachikulu kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire.
Maukwati sakuyenda bwino
Njira ya ngwazi yachikondi ndi heroine sikuyenera kukhala yoyenda bwino. Palibe njira zachidule. Kuwona dziko lapansi, nokha, ndi mnzanu kuchokera pakuwona kwakukulu nthawi zonse kumakhala njira yayikulu yotambasula ndikusiya. Kumvetsetsa njira zathu zokumana ndikuthana ndi zomwe takumana nazo potengera kukula kwa akulu kumakupatsani mwayi woti muganizire za moyo wanu, ndikulimbikitsani kugwiritsa ntchito zovuta zomwe zili mbanja lanu kuti muchite bwino ndikukula muubwenzi wanu wachikondi.
Mwamuna wanga Michael Grossman, MD(dokotala wokonzanso kukalamba yemwe amagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo)
"Nkhani yathu yomwe yatitsogolera pakusintha kwathu idayamba chakumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 30 usiku, usiku, mphepo yamkuntho yosowa ku Southern California idayandikira pafupi nafe. Barbara anali akundikakamiza kuti ndizikambirana za mavuto am'mabanja mwathu pomwe sindinkagona tulo. Komabe pamene ankandikakamiza kwambiri, ndinakwiya kwambiri. Ndinali nditatopa ndi ntchito ndipo ndinali wofunitsitsa kumasuka ndikugona. Mphindi zochepa, kuwalira kwa mphezi kunkawala mchipinda chathu, ndipo masekondi angapo pambuyo pake kunagunda mabingu. Barbara adandiumiriza kuti sindimagwirizana, sindimaganiza bwino, ndipo sindimafuna kukambirana nkhanizo, koma ndimangomunyalanyaza pomuuza kuti ndatopa ndikudikira mawa titagona pang'ono. Komabe, iye analimbikira ndipo tonse tinakwiya.
Barbara adalimbikitsabe, mpaka pamapeto pake, tonse tidaphulika. Ndinawafuula kuti, “Ndiwe wodzikonda kwambiri,” ndipo anawayankha kuti, “Iwe sukundisamala!”
Mkwiyo umatsatira chiwonongeko
Nthawi yomweyo, tili mkati mofuula ndi kukuwa, mphezi inagwedeza nyumbayo ndi phokoso logonthetsa m'khutu! Kuwala kwakukulu kunayatsa chipinda chathu chogona ngati masana kwakanthawi, ndikuwotcha moto woyaka kudzera pachitsulo choteteza kuzungulira moto. Uthenga wochokera kumwamba? Tinadabwitsidwa kukhala chete ndipo tinkangoyang'anizana, mwadzidzidzi kuzindikira mphamvu yowononga ya mkwiyo wathu.
Nthawi yomweyo tonse tidadziwa kuti tikufunika kupeza njira yabwino yolankhulirana ndi kuthana ndi zosowa zathu. ”
Dziwani chomwe chimayambitsa mikangano
Muukwati uliwonse, pamakhala zovuta zomwe zimayambitsa nkhondo imodzimodzi mobwerezabwereza. Nkhondoyo imatha kukhala yamitundu yosiyanasiyana ndipo imawonekera mosiyanasiyana, koma imangokhala nkhondo yomweyi pachimake. Ganizirani za banja lanu komanso zomwe mumachita mobwerezabwereza osasangalala. Kudzipereka kwakukulu kuti athetse mavuto omwe ali m'banjamo kumafuna kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi ayambe ulendo wopita kuchipatala ngati munthu payekhapayekha, komanso ulendo wophatikizika wa machiritso monga othandizana nawo.
Njira yothetsera ukwati wanga ndi Barbara inkafunika kuti ndiphunzire maluso ena atsopano ndikukhala ndi maluso ena, zomwe zimawoneka ngati zolemetsa poyamba. Kumvetsera kwa mkazi wanga chinali chinthu chimene ndinayenera kuphunzira kuchita — ngakhale zitakhala zopweteka.
Michael amakumbukira atakhala kalasi yophunzitsira yolumikizana ndikumacheza ndi wophunzira wamba komanso masiku, amayenera kumvera mnzakeyo ndikupereka mayankho osati pazomwe ananena zokha, komanso zomwe amaganiza pazomwe zimamupangitsa. Anali wokhoza kutanthauzira zomwe mnzake wa m'kalasiyo ananena, koma samadziwa za zomwe zimamupangitsa. Ngakhale ndi mndandanda wothandiza wamawu wofotokozera momwe akumvera, adalephera. Ndi pokhapo pomwe adazindikira kuti akuyenera kukula m'moyo wamalingaliro.
Ulendo wapabanja ndiwosiyana kwa amuna ndi akazi
Ulendo wa ngwazi ndiwosiyana pang'ono kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi. . Mwamuna akaphunzira ukatswiri wazaka za m'ma 20 ndi 30, amafunika kuphunzira kudzichepetsa pambuyo pake. Mkazi akaphunzira kulumikizana, ayenera kupeza liwu lake m'ma 30 ndi 40. Njira ya ngwazi ndi heroine sikuyenera kukhala yoyenda bwino. Magawo ovuta komanso kusintha kwa moyo ndizosapeweka m'mabwenzi achikondi. Palibe njira zachidule. Kuwona dziko lapansi, nokha, ndi mnzanu kuchokera pakuwona kwakukulu nthawi zonse kumakhala njira yayikulu yotambasula ndikusiya.
Lingaliro loti siziyenera kutichitikira paulendowu kapena kuti sitiyenera kupwetekedwa mtima zimachokera ku gawo lathu lomwe limayesetsa kuteteza malingaliro athu ochepa. Maganizo awa amalepheretsa kupita patsogolo paulendo wamachiritso. Malinga ndi malingaliro athu monga odzikonda, odzikonda, timangosinthana, kunyengedwa, kuzunzidwa, komanso kusayamikiridwa monga momwe timayembekezera. Kuchokera pakuwona kwakukulu, monga momwe Mulungu angatiwonere, tifunika kuthandizidwa, kusweka, kuumbidwa, ndikusandulika kukhala anzeru komanso achikondi.
Kukula kwamalingaliro ndi kuzindikira komwe kumalimbikitsidwa ndi kusamvana pakati pa anthu awiri mothandizana komanso kulakalaka nthawi imodzi kukondana komanso banja ndizolimba komanso zopindulitsa. Ndicho chothandizira kuchiritsa ndi kuzamitsa chikondi. Cholinga chathu ndikuthandizira ulendowu kuti mukwaniritse zomwe banja lanu lingathe.