Zamkati
- Kuchotsa mabuloko omwe amakulepheretsani kupeza chikondi chakuya
- Kupanga bolodi lamaso lachinyengo ndikugwera mumsampha wake
- Kubwera ndi mawonekedwe kuchokera pamalingaliro okondwerera moyo
- Kuchita khungu ndi malingaliro abodza omwe tagulitsidwa kwa ife
- Kulola kunyinyirika komwe kumalowa pambuyo poti ubale walephera
- Kuphunzira kumasula zakale
- Kodi ndinu wokonzeka kudzitsutsa?
Kwa zaka zambiri, kuyika zithunzi za omwe mumakonda kukondana naye omwe mudadula m'magazini pa bolodi yakhala yotchuka kwambiri mdziko lapansi.
Koma ndi msampha.
Pokhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi kukopa kwa omwe tingagwirizane naye, titha kuphonya nthawi yayikulu pophunzira momwe tingasankhire bwenzi loyenera.
Kuchotsa mabuloko omwe amakulepheretsani kupeza chikondi chakuya
Kwa zaka 29 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa komanso wothandizira kwambiri David Essel wakhala akuthandiza anthu kuchotsa zotchinga zenizeni, zomwe zimawalepheretsa kupeza chikondi chakuya, ndikukhazikitsa zikhumbo zawo zamtundu wa munthu yemwe akufuna tsiku, osati mtundu wina wamatsenga, malingaliro, malingaliro osangalatsa, koma zowona kuti ndi munthu wamtundu wanji amene angakhale wabwino kwa inu?
Pansipa, David amagawana nkhani zingapo za anthu angapo omwe adapeza chikondi chakuya m'malo osayembekezereka.
"Pazaka 12 zapitazi, lingaliro losankha mawonekedwe a" chiyembekezo chathu ", ndikupeza zithunzi zomwe zikufanana ndi izi lakhala lotchuka kwambiri mdziko lachikondi ndi chibwenzi.
Koma gwiritsitsani. Kodi ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yopitilira?
Kapena mwadzaza ndi ma landmine, omwe atigwetsere panjira yathu pankhani yopeza bwenzi labwino lomwe lingafanane ndi ife tokha?
Kupanga bolodi lamaso lachinyengo ndikugwera mumsampha wake
Zaka zingapo zapitazo, mayi wina adandisankha kuti ndikhale mlangizi wake komanso wophunzitsa moyo pomuthandiza kupeza munthu wamaloto ake.
M'buku lathu loyamba kugulitsa kwambiri, "Maganizo abwino sangasinthe moyo wanu, koma bukuli lidzasintha!", Ndikunena nkhani yonse kuyambira mphindi yomwe adalowa muofesi yanga mpaka pomwe adapeza chikondi cha moyo wake.
Koma mphindi ziwiri zija m'moyo wake sizikanatha kulekanitsidwa kwambiri, ndipo zenizeni za mnzake zidamuwopsa.
Iye anali atachita chimodzimodzi zonse zomwe mabuku achinsinsi amamuuza kuti achite, adapanga bolodi lamasomphenya, anali kufunafuna bambo wazitali 6 mapazi awiri, tsitsi lofiirira, maso amtambo, amapeza ndalama zosachepera $ 150,000 pachaka ndipo amakonda kumusambitsa chibwenzi chokhala ndi mphatso.
Sindikuseka, ndizomwe anali kuyang'ana kwa zaka pafupifupi zinayi ndisanakumane naye.
Anandiuza kuti adapita kumisonkhano yochezera anthu ambiri, adawerenga mabuku aposachedwa amomwe angapezere wokondana naye, ndipo amatsatira izi ngakhale sizinapambane kwa zaka zingapo.
Kubwera ndi mawonekedwe kuchokera pamalingaliro okondwerera moyo
Chifukwa chake ndidamupatsa zolemba zina, kuti apeze mawonekedwe kuchokera pamalingaliro, kulumikizana, komanso chidwi chamoyo chomwe chingakhale choyenera kwa iye kutengera zikhalidwe zakuthupi komanso zachuma zomwe amaganiza kuti akufuna mnzake.
Pambuyo pa milungu ingapo ndikutsatira upangiri wanga, ndikupanga mndandanda womwe umakhala ndi munthu amene anali ndi chiyembekezo, woseketsa, wokondwa, woyendetsa, wowona mtima, wokhulupirika ndi zina zambiri, adalowa nati sakufunanso kugwira nane ntchito chifukwa akufuna kutero bwererani ku "lingaliro losangalatsa la ma soulmate", ndipo amapita kukapeza munthu wangwiro yemwe anali zomwe amafuna: 6 phazi awiri, tsitsi lalitali, maso amtambo, ndikupeza ndalama zokwanira kugula mphatso zake pafupipafupi.
Choseketsa chidachitika popita kukapeza mnzake wamoyo. Ndinathamangira kwa iye zaka zingapo pambuyo pake pamsonkhano womwe ndimayankhulira ndipo anandiuza kuti zonse zomwe akhala akuchita zokhudzana ndi "board board soulmate" yake, sizinachitike.
Chifukwa chake adati atatuluka muofesi yanga miyezi ingapo pambuyo pake, adabwereranso kutsatira langizo langa, ndipo adadzidzimuka atazindikira kuti mwamuna wake wazaka zinayi adzakhala wamfupi, wadazi, osati wamakhalidwe abwino koma anali woseketsa, wokhulupirika , wosangalatsa, wolankhula, ndipo mwina ndi munthu yemwe anali wolimba kwambiri kuposa wina aliyense yemwe adakumana naye m'moyo wake.
Kuchita khungu ndi malingaliro abodza omwe tagulitsidwa kwa ife
Nthawi zambiri pakufunafuna kwathu chikondi, timachititsidwa khungu ndi mabuku ogulitsa kwambiri komanso zokambirana kumapeto kwa sabata zomwe zimatiuza "mutha kukhala ndi chilichonse chomwe mungafune, bola mukadakhala kuti mukuvomereza komanso gulu lowonera kuti mubwere nalo kwa inu."
Kunyoza. Inde ndikudziwa ndizoseketsa, koma anthu ambiri akutsatirabe zamkhutu izi.
Nanga iwe? Kodi mungadziwoneke nokha ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto linalake?
Kodi mungadziwoneke nokha ndi munthu yemwe anali wopanda ungwiro? Izi sizinagwirizane ndi mbiri yanu ya "mwamuna kapena mkazi" wabwino?
Nditapita kukalemba buku langa laposachedwa "Angel on the surfboard: a novel romance novel that offers the keys to deep love", sindinaganizepo kuti m'bukuli mutu womwewo ungakhale mutu wapakati.
Kulola kunyinyirika komwe kumalowa pambuyo poti ubale walephera
Yemwe amatsogolera, wolemba Sandy Tavish, amathamangira kwa mfumukazi yokongola yapamadzi pagombe ndipo amayamba kukambirana mozama, komanso zolimbikitsa pazomwe zimatanthauza kukhala mchikondi, komanso momwe zimasoweka kusokonekera mukangomaliza kumene Anapwetekedwa kamodzi kapena kawiri ku maubale.
Mfumukazi yakale yomwe amakumana nayo, Jenn, akuyamba kukankhira Sandy pankhani yazikhulupiriro za amuna, ndipo patangopita nthawi yochepa, Sandy amatha kudziwa kuti ndiwosokonekera kwambiri pankhani yokhudza ubale wonse, ndipo sakukhulupirira aliyense mwamuna yemwe amakumana naye.
Kukongola kwake kumawonekeranso, koma Sandy posachedwa apeza kuti ali ndi vuto lalikulu, ndipo chifukwa amuna angapo m'mbuyomu adamusiya chifukwa cha vuto ili, adakhala wopanda chiyembekezo chokhudza amuna mdziko la zibwenzi.
Kuphunzira kumasula zakale
Sandy amamutsogolera njira ina, njira yoti atsegulire malingaliro ake, ndikusiya njira yake yodzikongoletsera pachibwenzi, akamamuuza kuti ngati angasinthe malingaliro ake ndikumasula zakale, adzakopa munthu yemwe amukonda ndi mtima wake wonse, mosasamala kanthu za vuto lake.
Ndi umodzi mwamitu yosangalatsa kwambiri m'bukuli, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti tikufunika kuti tikambirane zambiri.
Mukamayang'ana kwambiri magazini ndi intaneti, ndipamene mumayamikiridwa kwambiri momwe mnzanuyo akuyenera kukhalira bwino, mwandalama, mwakuthupi, ndi zochulukirapo komanso moperewera, titha kukhala tikusowa machesi oyimirira bwino pakhomo lathu lakumaso.
Kodi ndinu wokonzeka kudzitsutsa?
Kodi ndinu okonzeka kutsutsa zomwe mumakhulupirira pa nkhani ya chikondi, ndi izi zokha?
Ngati muli, mukupita kukakopa mnzanu wodabwitsika, musiye kuganiza kopatsa chidwi komanso kulakalaka komwe kumazungulira zonse zamkhutu zokhudzana ndi kukopa mnzanu wangwiro kudzera pamaganizidwe anu.
M'malo mwake, dzitsimikizireni kuti musinthe, ndipo muwone dziko lanu likusinthirani.