Zamkati
- Kukhala nthawi yayitali limodzi kumapereka mpata wokangana
- Kudalira kwambiri
- Kupatukana kumatha kuthandiza maanja kuchira chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika
- Kulekana kumayambitsanso kukondana muukwati
- Kukhazikitsa malire
- Kulekana kumathandizira kulumikizana
“Kodi kupatukana kungakhale koyenera m'banja?” ndi funso lomwe ladzutsa nsidze zambiri. Anthu ambiri amakayikira ngati pali kusiyana kulikonse komwe kungateteze ubale womwe walephera. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti, "Kupatukana kumathandizadi banja kukhala limodzi".
Nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti sizabwino banja likakhala motalikirana. Nthawi zambiri timawona kupatukana ngati chinthu chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito makamaka ndi maanja omwe afika poti kutha kwawo sikungapeweke. Tikuwona kupatukana ngati njira yomwe imagwiritsidwa ntchito zitayamba kale kugwiritsidwa ntchito pobwezeretsa ukwatiwo panjira. Ambiri a ife timakhulupirira kuti pamene tikuwona kuti wokondedwa wathu akutithawa, tiyenera kulumikizana ndi kulumikizana kwambiri kuti tiyandikire kwa iye monga momwe tingathere, ndikupanga zochuluka zokwanira kuti banja liziyenda bwino.
Lingaliro la kulekana kapena kupanga mtunda pa nthawi limayika mantha akulu otaya chibwenzi m'malingaliro a maanja koma zitha kukhala zothandiza pobweretsa banja limodzi.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake kulekana kungakhale koyenera m'banja:
Kukhala nthawi yayitali limodzi kumapereka mpata wokangana
Kulekana ndi kwabwino m'banja pamene inu ndi mnzanu mupeza kuti kuthera nthawi yochuluka limodzi ndi chifukwa cha kusamvana, mikangano ndi mikangano. Zolinga zabwino zimafunika kuti ubale kapena banja liziyenda bwino. Koma, zokanganazo zikafika pochuluka ndipo zimachitika mosalekeza, zitha kubweretsa nkhanza ndi chipongwe. Kukangana ndi mikangano ndiye kuti sizingakhale zathanzi komanso zotakataka, koma ndizabwino komanso zopanda pake.
Kudalira kwambiri
M'banja lililonse, maanja nthawi zina amakhala odalirana chifukwa amadalirana pachilichonse. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ataya umunthu wawo ndipo adatenga umunthu wa wokondedwa wawo m'malo mwake. Izi zimapangitsa kuti wokondedwa aliyense azimva ngati sangayimilire payokha, ndiye kuti, onse awiri samadzimva kukhala odziyimira pawokha.
Mutha kuganiza kuti izi zikuwoneka ngati momwe banja liyenera kukhalira, koma mwatsoka, sichoncho! Abwenzi omwe alibe umunthu wawo amayamba kukhumudwitsa wokondedwa wawo, zomwe zitha kubweretsa zovuta zazikulu ndi zovuta muubwenzi. Kupatula nthawi kungathandize awiriwa kutenganso umunthu wawo kuti akaganiza zophatikizanso onse ali ndi malingaliro ndi mzimu wodziyimira pawokha komanso mzimu kuti athandizire zambiri muukwati.
Kupatukana kumatha kuthandiza maanja kuchira chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika
Kupatukana kumakhalanso koyenera komanso kulangizidwa ngati m'modzi mwa omwe abwenziwo achita chinyengo pa mzake. Kusungika kwakanthawi kwakanthawi kungathandize othandizana nawo kuti ayambirenso kuganiza bwino. Mnzake yemwe adabayo akumva chisoni ndikumva chisoni ndi zomwe adachita. Kupatukana kumamupatsa mpata woganiza ndi kuvomereza zolakwa zake ndikuwongolera. Amayambiranso kuzindikira kuti wapweteka mnzake kapena mnzake ndipo akuyenera kupempha kuti amukhululukire. Pakadali pano, mnzake yemwe adaperekedwa kuti athe kusonkhanitsa malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake ndi choti achite. Kukhala pamalo abanja osakhulupirika kumatha kupangitsa wokhumudwitsayo kukhala wokwiya kwambiri, wokhumudwa, wokhumudwa komanso wokwiya kwambiri zomwe sizimathandiza kukonza banja.
Kulekana kumayambitsanso kukondana muukwati
Amati "Kusakhalapo kumapangitsa mtima kukulira kukondwererana". Kupatukana kumawonjezera banja. Kupatukana kumayambitsanso moto wachikondi mbanja. Simuyenera kuchita kukhala kutali ndi mnzanu kuti mukabwezeretse malingaliro omwewo, koma ndibwino kupatukana nthawi zina kuti mukhale ndi chidwi muukwati. Kupatula patchuthi kapena kuyendera abale anu kumatha kuyambiranso kuyatsa chidwi ndi chikondi kuubwenzi. Mudzasowana zomwe zimathandizira kukulitsa chikondi ndi kukondana wina ndi mnzake muubwenzi.
Kukhazikitsa malire
Osaiwala, kupatukana kumathandiza kukhazikitsa malire pakati pa maanja. Kukhala ndi malire omveka bwino pamodzi ndikofunikira kuti pakhale kulumikizana pakati pa anzawo. Kukhazikitsa malire kumathandizira kufotokozera kuchuluka kwa malo omwe mumakhala nawo muubwenzi kaya mwamalingaliro kapena mwakuthupi. Malire atha kukhala pazinthu zamtundu uliwonse: kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe mukusowa nokha, kumasuka bwanji kuuza anthu ena za ubale wanu ndi zina. Kukhala ndi chidziwitso cha malire a wina ndi mnzake ndikothandiza pankhani yakulimbitsa chidaliro muubwenzi. Kupatukana kwakanthawi kumathandiza kukhazikitsa malirewa.
Kulekana kumathandizira kulumikizana
Pomaliza, kupatukana kungakhale chida champhamvu chomwe chimabweretsa kulumikizana kwabwino kwambiri pakati pa maanja. Ndizopotoza ngakhale chifukwa chake kupatukana kumalimbikitsa kulumikizana, mwina chifukwa cha nthawi yotalikirana, kapena chifukwa chakuchepa kwa mkwiyo, kapena chifukwa chodzidalira komwe anzawo amayamba kuyamikirana ndi anzawo ndikulankhulanso bwino ndi okwatirana.