Zamkati
- Simunakonzekere
- Simumamukonda mokwanira
- Ndiwokhwima m'mbali
- Anzanu ndi abale anu samusangalalira
- Simungakwanitse
- Simumakhulupirira ukwati
"Mundikwatira?" Mtsikana aliyense amalota za kumva mawu amenewo kuchokera kwa mwamunayo amene amamukonda.
Nthawi zambiri, yankho limakhala inde wamphamvu!
Kupatula apo, ndicholinga chofunikira kwa mkazi aliyense kukwatiwa ndi mwamuna amene amamukonda.
Koma mukuzengereza. Kotero pali chinachake cholakwika. Tiyeni tiyese kuziwononga kuti tiwone chifukwa chomwe mukuyankhira funso lofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu ndi funso lina.
“Kodi ndimukwatire?” Mukafunsa funso ili kwa aliyense. Imeneyo ndi mbendera yayikulu yofiira motero, sayenera kunyalanyazidwa.
Simunakonzekere
Palibe amene ali. Ukwati ndi kudzipereka kwakukulu. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi chuma chokwanira, kukwatira ndikudzipereka kwambiri. Ukwati siwokhudza ndalama zokha. Ndizokhudza kulera ana, ndikukhala ndi mkazi mmodzi. Palinso kulumikizana kwakuthupi, kwamaganizidwe, ndi uzimu pakati pa maanja zomwe ziyenera kukhalabe kwamuyaya, kapena mpaka kufa.
Chabwino, mwina sizomwe zimakhala zauzimu kwa ambiri omwe sakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu, koma kwa anthu ambiri, amakwatirana mu tchalitchi chifukwa ndi lonjezo lopatulika.
Kudzipereka kupereka malingaliro, thupi, ndi moyo kwa munthu wina nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta kwa munthu. Makamaka, amene amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo.
Kukondana ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri m'banja, anthu ena opitilira muyeso amatha kunena kuti ndichokhacho chofunikira. Zikhalidwe zambiri zimalimbikitsa kukwatirana kwa amuna okhaokha chifukwa anthu alibe nthawi komanso mphamvu zoperekera miyoyo yathu kumagulu opitilira awiri nthawi imodzi. Mukayesa, mutha kumangokhalira okonda osakhutiritsa m'modzi kapena angapo.
Kodi muli ndi zina zotere? Cholinga chosakwaniritsidwa chomwe chimatenga moyo wanu wonse. Zomwe zingakulepheretseni kukwatiwa ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kale?
Kutengera yankho lanu, izi zikuwonetsa ngati mukuyenera kukwatira kapena ayi.
Simumamukonda mokwanira
Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu okwatirana ayambe chibwenzi. Nthawi zina zimangokhala zosangalatsa, ndalama, kapena kutchuka. Kungakhale kovuta kukhulupirira, komabe pali maukwati omwe amakonzedweratu masiku ano.
Osatengera zifukwa zanu zokhalira ndi iye, ndizotheka kuti simumamukonda mokwanira kuti mukwatire.
Ngati ndi choncho, musamukwatire. Sitifunsanso chifukwa chake mnyamatayo alibe chidziwitso chokhudza momwe mukumvera. Mwinamwake akuyembekeza kuti banja lidzalimbikitsa ubale wanu mpaka momwe angafunire, koma ngati simumukonda, musadutse nawo. Khalani aulemu ndikukana zomwe akufuna, onetsetsani kuti mukumuuza chifukwa chake. Iye amayenera kudziwa. Kupanda kutero, nonse mukulakwitsa kwambiri.
Ndiwokhwima m'mbali
Palibe munthu wangwiro. Koma anthu ena ali ndi zofooka zambiri. Mumamukonda kuposa dziko lapansi, koma amakukwiyitsani kwambiri.
Izi ndizovuta, kukhala ndi munthu yemwe samakusangalatsani kudzawotcha chikondi chomwe muli nacho kwa nthawi yayitali. Ngakhale okwatirana angwiro amasiya kukondana wina ndi mnzake pakatha zaka zingapo.
Amayi ambiri amakwatiwa akuganiza kuti angasinthe amuna awo akangokhala m'nyumba zawo. Ena amapambana, koma ambiri samatero. Makamaka, ngati vuto ndi kusakhulupirika.
Koma azimayi ena amafuna ayese. Amakhulupirira kuti ndiye mpulumutsi yemwe munthu wosamvetsetsa akumufuna ndipo ali wokonzeka kusewera wofera.
Ngati muli mkazi wamtunduwu, mukadayankha inde nthawi yomweyo, koma simunatero. Chifukwa chake zikutanthauza kuti simukufuna kusewera mkazi, mayi, namwino, kapolo wogonana ndi womangiriza belo onse onse kukhala amodzi.
Chifukwa chake nenani chidutswa chanu, mupatseni mwayi wosintha. Akakwiya kapena sasintha, ndiye kuti mukudziwa komwe mwaima.
Anzanu ndi abale anu samusangalalira
Izi zimachitika kwambiri, ngati ndichifukwa chake mudazengereza, ndiye mumasamala zomwe amaganiza ndikuyika zolemetsa zambiri pamalingaliro awo. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani sakumuyanja? Kodi ndi chipembedzo, ntchito yake, mawonekedwe ake, alibe nsapato imodzi yabwino?
Anthu omwe mumawakhulupirira amakhala achilungamo komanso osapita m'mbali mukamakana chibwenzi chanu, chifukwa chake simuyenera kulingalira chifukwa chake amamuda.
Chifukwa chake lankhulani ndi bwenzi lanu za vutoli, ngati mumafotokozera zaubwenzi wanu momwe mumayenera kukhalira, ayenera kuti akudziwa kale. Ngati sichoncho, pitirizani kutsegula mutuwo, ngati akufunadi kukwatiwa ndi inu ndiye kuti akufuna kusintha.
Ngati zinthu zili motere, inunso muyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kusintha. Ngati inu kapena bwenzi lanu simukufuna kusiya moyo wanu ndiye kuti simunapangane.
Simungakwanitse
Ichi ndiye chifukwa chodziwika kwambiri chomwe anthu samakwatirana masiku ano. Kulera banja munthawi zachuma ndi ntchito yovuta ngakhale kwa anthu omwe ali ndi ntchito zokhazikika.
Koma ngati ichi ndi chifukwa chokha, ndiye pitani. Osakhala ndi ana nthawi yomweyo, ndipamene mavuto enieni azachuma amabwera.
Lonjezani ndi kumanga chuma chanu pamodzi. Ndiye mukakonzeka, mutha kukhala ndi ana.
Ngati palibe aliyense wa inu ali ndi ntchito zokhazikika, tengani banja lanu mbali zonse kuti muwone zomwe akuganiza pankhaniyi. Nthawi zambiri, makolo amakhala othandizana nawo ngati angavomereze chibwenzi chanu. Pokhapokha mutakhala kuti ndinu wachichepere kwambiri kuti mulowe m'banja, ndiye kuti mutha kudikirira pang'ono pokha.
Ngati mukuopa kukhala ndi ana, kapena maudindo a kholo, musagone. Simuyenera kuchita kukwatiwa, kuti mukhale ndi pakati.
Simumakhulupirira ukwati
Kulekeranji? Muyenera kutaya chiyani? Kupatula phwando limodzi lalikulu, palibe kusiyana kulikonse pakati pa kukhala pamodzi ndi kukwatira wina. Zimangofunika pokhapokha ngati pali ndalama zambiri zomwe zikukhudzidwa. Pali mapangano omwe maloya amatha kulemba kuti athetse vutoli.
Ngati mukukhala limodzi kale, sipayenera kukhala vuto. Mukungogwiritsabe kunyada kwanu ndikuyerekeza ufulu wanu.
Ngati simukukhala limodzi, ndiye kuti mukuganiza zotaya china chake chofunikira kwa inu posamukira ndi mwamuna amene mudzakhale naye banja. Ngati ndi choncho, werengani nkhani iyi “Kodi Ndiyenera Kumukwatira”?