Zamkati
Ndinkadana ndi mawonekedwe aja wina akandifunsa ngati ndili pachibwenzi ndipo ndimamuyankha kuti, "Sindinakwatire." Zinali ngati ndili ndi matenda kapena china chake sichinali bwino ndi ine. Ndipo mawonekedwe otsatirawa angandilole kuti ndiwone zomwe zinali m'malingaliro awo. "Cholakwika ndi chiyani, akusowa kwambiri, kodi akusowa chochita, kodi akupita kumaphwando ochulukirapo, kodi akuwopseza amunawo mwanjira ina?" Zinali ngati kuti ndinali ndi vuto linalake chifukwa ndinali wosakwatiwa. Koma chodabwitsa chinali chakuti ndimaphulika ndipo panalibe amuna amoyo m'moyo wanga mosiyana ndi zomwe zimadziwika. Ndimakhala pachibwenzi, ndimawona anthu, ndimacheza ndi ena, komabe sindinali pachibwenzi ndi malingaliro opatsirana. Koma chosankha changa chinali kunena kuti ndili ndekha. Pomwe ena akufuna kutenganso liwu loti "osakwatiwa" kukhala labwino, ndimafuna dzina latsopano lomwe linali chiwonetsero chazomwe akazi enieni anali kuchita mdziko la zibwenzi. Inali njira yonena kuti, "sitili odzipereka kwa munthu m'modzi, koma kukhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri zosangalatsa ndikuwona mwina anthu angapo," zomwe anthu akuwoneka kuti akuvutika nazo. Ndi liti pamene mumamva anthu akupereka chilolezo kwa azimayi kuti awone anthu angapo, kuchita zibwenzi popanda zinthu zomwe zingayambitse chibwenzi ndi kucheza ndi amuna opitilira umodzi sabata limodzi?
Kuwona zibwenzi zingapo nthawi imodzi
Vuto ndi dzina latsopanoli ndikuti limalimbikitsa azimayi kuti azitsutsana ndi zomwe anthu akhala akuwaphunzitsa kwazaka zambiri. Atsikana abwino amakhala pachibwenzi ndi anyamata, akwatiwa ndikukhala ndi ana. Atsikana osasamala ndi omwe amatenga nthawi, kugona mozungulira, kuchita zibwenzi ndi amuna ambiri kenako kumadzudzulidwa pazomwe amachita chifukwa chokhala osakwatiwa ngati kuti ndi temberero lamakhalidwe osalongosoka.
Temberero la "Muyenera kuchita"
Koma pokhala mkhalapakati wa mabanja komanso kuthandiza anthu pa zisudzulo, zomwe ndidawona ndikuti anthu adalibe nthawi yokwanira yochitira zomwe akufuna kwa iwo okha ndikungotsatira zomwe ndimatcha temberero loti "ndiyenera kuchita", ndikukhala moyo wawo woganiza zomwe anali kuchita ndizomwe ziyenera kuchitidwa. Koma choyenera kutembereredwa nthawi zambiri chimakhala chifukwa cha zikhulupiriro zomwe zidabwerera m'mbuyomu zomwe anthu pazifukwa zina akhala akuphatikizaponso manyazi azimayi pochita zinthu zomwe zimawoneka ngati zachiwerewere. Mwinanso zikafika pokhala pachibwenzi, maubale, ndi banja tizingoyang'ana pamitengo yayikulu yakusudzulana kuti tizindikire kuti timayenera kukhala tikuchita zinthu mosiyana pang'ono.
Osakwatira koma okwatirana
Osakwatirana koma kukhala pachibwenzi sinangokhala ubale watsopano koma njira yopezera chikondi mwa inu nokha kapena ndi wina. Nditamaliza ulendo wanga woyamba wamabuku, ndidapeza chikondi mosayembekezereka, ndipo chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe ndidadziwonera chinali chifukwa cha zaka zanga zokhala pachibwenzi, kuwona anthu angapo ndikuseka - nthawi yanga ndili wosakwatiwa koma chibwenzi. Ndiyenera kuphunzira kuti ndimafuna chiyani ndikudziyesa ndikuyesa zinthu. Kodi muyenera kudziwa bwanji zomwe mumachita komanso zomwe simukukonda pokhapokha mutakumana ndi izi kale?
Nditalemba upangiri wanga wonse m'mawu, ndinazindikira mphamvu yake m'mawu amenewo m'moyo wanga. Ichi ndichifukwa chake mawu oti wosakwatiwa koma chibwenzi ndikofunikira kugwiritsa ntchito. Osangokhala ngati ubale watsopano koma wowona mtima koma njira yoperekera chilolezo kwa azimayi kuti azisanthula ndikuyesa zomwe akufuna.