Zamkati
- Kusintha kusintha kwaubwenzi
- Njira zabwino zolankhulirana
- Anakonza mphindi zapadera
- Pezani njira zatsopano zokulitsira ubalewo
Palibe chomwe chingakonzekeretse aliyense kukhala ndi moyo pambuyo pa ana. Mutha kuwerenga mabuku onse, ndikupeza upangiri kuchokera kwa anzanu, koma mpaka mutakhala ndi moyo, zambiri zomwe mungawerenge ndikumva sizingakhale zomveka. Mwina gawo lalikulu kwambiri lowonongeka pachibwenzi pambuyo pa ana ndi chibwenzi. Kaya ndi chifukwa cha mawonekedwe azithunzi omwe amayi ambiri amakhala nawo atangobereka kumene, mavuto okalamba omwe amuna ndi akazi amakumana nawo tikamakalamba, kapena kungokhala otopa kwambiri, kukondana sikungakhale malo okhudzidwa kwambiri pachibwenzi chanu.
Kusintha kusintha kwaubwenzi
Choyamba ndikofunikira kulingalira zakusintha kwaubwenzi pamene chibwenzi chikukula. Pamene chibwenzi chikukula, kukula kwaubwenzi wanu kumakulanso. Kugonana kumakhala ndi malo apadera muubwenzi monga kuthekera kwa okwatirana kuti azikhala pafupi ndi wina ndi mnzake. Komabe, zinthu zofunika kuzisintha, momwemonso njira zomwe mnzanu angakuwonetseni kuti amakukondani komanso kuti ndinu wapadera kwa iwo.
Mwachitsanzo, musachite mantha kuwonetsa chikondi chanu mwachikondi m'njira yosavuta komanso mokoma. Uwu wofulumira kunena kuti, "Ndimakukonda!" zidzathandiza kwambiri kuti mnzanuyo amve kuti amakondedwa ndi kuyamikiridwa. Nthawi zonse momwe mungathere, nenani mosapita m'mbali kuwauza zinthu zomwe mumakonda za iwo, monga momwe amakuthandizirani ndi ana kapena kuti banja liziyenda bwino, kapena kuti mumakonda akamakusisirani msana kapena kubisalira nthawi yogona.
Siziwonekanso ngati mungadzuke m'mawa kwambiri kuti mugawane nawo chakudya cham'mawa, kapena kunyamula chakudya chawo chamasana ndi mawu apadera achikondi omwe amauza mnzanu momwe mumawayamikirira. Kuti muwonjezere zonunkhira pang'ono, mwina mungawauze kuti mukuyembekezera kuwawonanso usiku womwewo kwa "nthawi yapadera".
Njira zabwino zolankhulirana
Kulankhulana bwino ndikofunikira kuti banja likhale lathanzi komanso labwino. Pambuyo pa ana, maanja nthawi zambiri amandiuza kuti amapezeka pamasamba osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi njira zolerera ana. Sachedwa kwambiri kukhala pansi ndi kukambirana zinthu izi kuti mupeze mgwirizano ndikupanga mgwirizano. Palibe njira ina yabwino yothetsera chibwenzi kuposa kukangana ndi kumenyera ana. Sikuti ndi poizoni pakukondana komanso kukondana, komanso ndi njira yabwino yopewera kuwongolera ana anu onse pamodzi. Mukamapereka zambiri mogwirizana ngati ana anu, banja lanu lidzakhala labwino.
Anakonza mphindi zapadera
Nthawi zambiri, timaphonya mwayi wa "nthawi yapadera" yapadera chifukwa chokhala otanganidwa. Musaope kukonza nthawi yapadera limodzi. Splurge pa wolera mwana kamodzi pamwezi, kapena gwirani ntchito ndi mabanja ena omwe ali ndi ana kuti asinthanitse kusamalira ana masana usiku. Chifukwa choti zakonzedwa sizitanthauza kuti sizikhala zapadera. Zikhala zabwino chifukwa nonse mumakhala ndi nthawi yosamalirana komanso kusunga ubale wanu.
Mukakhala ndi nthawi yosadukidwa limodzi, yesetsani kuti zokambiranazo zisakhale zowala, ndikuyang'ana kwambiri chikondi chanu ndi ubale wanu. Ndani samakonda pamene Noah amauza Allie nkhani yachikondi chawo mu "The Notebook"? Tengani nthawi kuti mufotokozere nkhani yachikondi kwa wina ndi mnzake. Ndikamagwira ntchito limodzi ndi maupangiri, ndimagwiritsa ntchito gawo limodzi koyambirira kuti mabanja azichita izi. Chifukwa chachikulu chomwe ndimachitira izi ndikuwathandiza kulimbitsa maziko aubwenzi wawo, kutenganso zinthu zomwe zinawakopa pachiyambi.
Nthawi zambiri maanja adzandiwuza kuti wokondedwa wawo wanena zinthuzo pa nthawi yomwe anali asanamvepo kapena kumva, monga momwe amawonera koyamba wina ndi mnzake, kapena momwe amadziwira kuti winayo alipo. Nthawi zambiri, maanja amati zimawatengera kubwerera ku nthawi ya "zophulitsa moto ndi agulugufe" zomwe amalakalaka kuti adzawatenge.
Pezani njira zatsopano zokulitsira ubalewo
Ngakhale mutakhala nthawi yayitali bwanji ndi wokondedwa wanu, nkofunika kuti mupeze njira zanu zazing'ono zosamalirira chibwenzi chanu kuti mnzanu amve kuyamikiridwa ndikukondedwa. Monga momwe mungathirire ndikudyetsa chomera chomwe mumakonda, momwemonso ubale wanu uyenera kudyetsedwa ndi nthawi kuti musalepheretse kutukuka.