Ngati mwadzidzidzi mwapeza kuti muli ndi ana opeza, mungadabwe ndi momwe moyo wanu ungakhalire wosavuta mukawerenga mabuku angapo olera.
Tikhale owona mtima, kukhala kholo ndi kovuta. Kukhala kholo lopeza kungakhale chinthu chovuta kwambiri chomwe mudachitapo m'moyo wanu wonse.
Ndizodabwitsa kuti zovuta zingati zomwe mungakumane nazo (ndipo mwina mungakumane nazo) panjira yanu. Komabe, itha kukhala yopindulitsa kwambiri, makamaka ngati banja lanu ndi mabanja a mnzanu waphatikizidwa kukhala mtolo umodzi waukulu wa chiseko ndi chisokonezo.
Nayi mabuku anayi osankha momwe mungapulumukire ndikukhala ana opeza.
1. Nzeru Pakulera Khama: Momwe Mungapambanire Komwe Ena Alephera ndi Diana Weiss-Wisdom Ph.D.
Diana Weiss-Wisdom, Ph.D., ndi katswiri wazamisala yemwe amagwira ntchito ngati ubale komanso khansala wabanja, motero, ntchito yake ingathandizire yokha. Komabe, alinso mwana wopeza komanso mayi wopeza yekha.
Chifukwa chake, monga momwe muwonera kuchokera pazolemba zake, ntchito yake ndikuphatikiza chidziwitso chaukadaulo komanso kuzindikira kwamunthu. Izi zimapangitsa bukuli kukhala lothandiza kwa aliyense amene akukumana ndi zovuta zambiri polera ana a mnzawoyo.
Buku lake lonena za kulera ana opeza limapereka maluso ndi malangizo kwa mabanja opeza ndi nkhani zatsopano kuchokera kwa zomwe makasitomala ake adakumana nazo. Monga momwe wolemba akunenera, kukhala kholo lopeza sichinthu chomwe mwasankha kuchita, ndichinthu chomwe chimakuchitikirani.
Pachifukwachi, ndizovuta kwambiri, koma buku lake lidzakupatsani zida zoyenera komanso luso lotha kuthana nalo. Idzakupatsaninso chiyembekezo chofunikira kuti mukwaniritse banja labwino komanso lachikondi lomwe mukuyembekezera.
2. Upangiri wa Mtsikana Osakwatiwa Wokwatirana Ndi Mwamuna, Ana Ake, Ndi Mkazi Wake Omwe Anakhalapo: Kukhala Mayi Wopeza ndi Nthabwala Ndi Chisomo cha Sally Bjornsen
Mofanana ndi wolemba wakale, Bjornsen ndi mayi wopeza komanso wolemba. Ntchito yake sikuti imangokhala ya psychology monga buku lapitalo, koma zomwe zimakupatsani inu ndizochitikira moona mtima. Ndipo, posanyalanyaza nthabwala. Mayi watsopano aliyense wopeza amafunikira kwambiri kuposa kale ndipo ndi buku labwino kwambiri lomwe mungakhale nalo pashelefu yanu.
Ndi nthabwala, mudzatha kupeza malire pakati pa malingaliro anu ndi chikhumbo chanu chokwaniritsa zosowa za aliyense ndikukhala munthu watsopano watsopano m'miyoyo ya ana.
Bukuli lili ndimagawo angapo - lomwe lili pa ana limakutsogolerani munjira yokhazikika komanso yoyembekezeredwa koma yovuta kuthana nayo, monga kukwiya, kusintha, kusungidwa. gawo la tchuthi, miyambo yatsopano komanso yakale ndi mabanja. Pomaliza, zimakhudza momwe mungasungire chilakolako ndi chibwenzi chikukhalabe moyo mwadzidzidzi moyo wanu utagonjetsedwa ndi ana ake osakhala ndi mwayi wokonzekera.
3. Banja Labanja Lopeza: Njira Zisanu ndi ziwiri Zobweretsera Banja Labwino lolembedwa ndi Ron L. Deal
Pakati pa mabuku olera ana, iyi ndi imodzi mwazogulitsa kwambiri, ndipo pazifukwa zomveka. Wolemba ndi wololeza komanso wothandizira mabanja komanso woyambitsa Smart Stepfamilies, Director of FamilyLife Blended.
Amalankhula pafupipafupi pazofalitsa zadziko. Chifukwa chake, ili ndiye buku logula ndikugawana ndi anzanu.
M'menemo, mupeza njira zisanu ndi ziwiri zosavuta kuthana ndi kuthetsa mavuto omwe mabanja ambiri (ngati si onse) amakumana nawo. Ndizowona komanso zowona, ndipo zimachokera kuzambiri zomwe wolemba adalemba mderali. Muphunzira momwe mungalumikizirane ndi Ex, momwe mungathetsere zovuta zomwe zimafala komanso momwe mungasamalire ndalama m'banja lotere, ndi zina zambiri.
4. Stepmonster: Tionanso Zifukwa Zomwe Amayi Opeza Enieni Amaganiza, Kudzimva, Ndi Kuchita Zomwe Timachita Pofika Lachitatu Martin Ph.D.
Yemwe adalemba bukuli ndi wolemba komanso wofufuza zamakhalidwe, ndipo koposa zonse, katswiri wazovuta zolerera ndi kulera ana omwe adawonekera pazowonetsa zambiri akukambirana zovuta zomwe mabanja osakanikirana amakumana nazo.
Buku lake lidayamba kugulitsidwa nthawi yomweyo New York Times. Bukuli limapereka kuphatikiza kwa sayansi, kafukufuku wamagulu, komanso zokumana nazo.
Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, wolemba amakambirana za njira yosinthira chifukwa chake zingakhale zovuta kukhala mayi wopeza. Amayi oterewa nthawi zambiri amanenedwa chifukwa cholephera kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino pakati pawo ndi ana - ganizirani za Cinderella, Snow White, komanso nthano zambiri.
Bukuli limatsimikizira nthano yoti amayi opeza ndiomwe amakhala ana opeza ndipo limawonetsa momwe pali "zovuta" zisanu zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano m'mabanja osakanikirana. Ndipo zimatenga awiri (kapena kupitilira apo) ku tango!