Zamkati
- Kodi ubale wosokonekera ukutanthauza chiyani kwa awiriwa
- Ndalama
- Kuyamikira
- Maganizo
- Kudalira
- Kutanthauzira ubale wosokonekera ndi zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala kosiyana
- Kulimbana ndi maubwenzi osokonekera
- Dziwani chomwe chimayambitsa vutoli
- Gwirani ntchito limodzi kuti muthe kukonza mpaka kalekale
- Yeretsani zosokoneza
Ukwati ndiwosangalala, kapena amatitsogolera kukhulupirira. Zowona, palibe anthu awiri omwe azigwirizana nthawi zonse, makamaka ngati mumakhala m'nyumba imodzi. Ganizirani za abale anu ngati muli nawo. Ukwati ndichinthu chonga chimenecho, kupatula ngati sali okhudzana ndi magazi.
Popita nthawi anthu amasintha. Zomwe zasinthira sizofunikira kwenikweni. Chofunika ndikuti anthu asinthe, ndipo ndichowonadi. Pali nthawi zomwe anthu amasintha mokwanira mpaka kukakumana ndi mavuto. Kodi ubale ndi mavuto ndi chiyani? Ndipamene banjali limakhala ndi mavuto ambiri pomwe nkhawa imatenga moyo wawo wonse.
Mabanja ambiri omwe ali pachibwenzi chosokonekera amatha mu mbali zonse za moyo wawo. Zimakhudza thanzi lawo, ntchito yawo, komanso ubale wawo ndi anthu ena.
Kodi ubale wosokonekera ukutanthauza chiyani kwa awiriwa
Pali anthu omwe amakhulupirira wokondedwa wawo m'modzi amoyo ndipo amatha kupitilizabe kumamatira kwa wokondedwa wawo zivute zitani. Sikuti ndi chinthu chabwino kapena choyipa, chifukwa mukakumbukira malumbiro anu achikwati, nonse mudalonjeza kuchita zomwezo.
Maukwati onse ali ndi zaka zabwino komanso zaka zoyipa. Anthu okhwima ambiri amamvetsetsa izi ndipo amakhala ofunitsitsa kuthana ndi vuto laubwenzi wolimba. Malinga ndi Life Strategist Renee Teller, akufotokozera ubale wosokonekera ndipamene mavuto ake adzawononga moyo wanu komanso ntchito yanu.
Anaperekanso zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusamvana.
Ndalama
Chikondi chimapangitsa kuti dziko lizungulire, koma ndi ndalama zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musatayidwe pomwe zikuzungulira. Ngati banjali likukumana ndi mavuto azachuma, pali mwayi woti ubale wanu ngati banja umakhala wamavuto komanso wosokonezeka.
Kuyamikira
Anthu amakhulupirira kuti mukakhala pachibwenzi, iyenera kukhala malo oyamba m'miyoyo ya awiriwa. Ngati pali kusamvana pakati pa lingaliro limenelo ndi chowonadi, Chidzabweretsa ubale wosokonezeka.
Maganizo
Chilichonse chimakhudzana ndi malingaliro. Kuchita bwino pantchito zilizonse zenizeni kumakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro amunthu. Ubale wanthawi yayitali siwonso.
Kudalira
Kukhulupirira, kapena kutayika kapena kusowa pachibwenzi kumatha kuwonekera munjira zoyipa zambiri zomwe zitha kusokoneza chibwenzicho. Mavuto omwe amakhala ndi chidaliro (kapena kusowa kwawo) ndiopusa komanso owononga. Zili ngati kukhala m'nyumba kapena makhadi, ndipo mumayatsa fani nthawi zonse.
Mabanja omwe ali pachibwenzi chovuta amafotokozera miyoyo yawo ndi vuto lalikulu lomwe ali nalo kaya ndi ndalama, malingaliro, kapena kusakhulupirirana. Zimapanga matanthauzidwe amgwirizano wamavuto pamlandu. Komabe, sizisintha kuti mavuto omwe ali pachibwenzi chawo akusokoneza moyo wawo wonse.
Kutanthauzira ubale wosokonekera ndi zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala kosiyana
Banja lililonse lili ndi mavuto.
Palinso maanja omwe amakumana ndi zovuta tsiku ndi tsiku. Mosasamala kanthu za kuchuluka kwa mavutowo, ndipo sizowona kunena kuti kulibe kapena kulibe. Sizimene zimapangitsa kuti ubale usasokonezeke. Mwamuna ndi mkazi amangotanthauzira zaubwenzi wamabanja omwe ali ndi mavuto pomwe mavuto awo amafikira mbali zina za moyo wawo, ngakhale kuvuta kwake kuli bwanji.
Zimatengera anthu omwe akukhudzidwa. Anthu omwe ali ndi EQ yapamwamba komanso olimba mtima amatha kupitiliza ndi ntchito yawo komanso moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ngakhale atakhala ndi mavuto amgwirizano. Pali ena omwe amawonongeka kwathunthu chifukwa chongolimbana pang'ono ndi anzawo.
Okwatirana omwe ali ndi mavuto pachibwenzi samatanthauza kuti ali ndiubwenzi wovuta, koma anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi chomwe sichili bwino amakhala ndi mavuto.
Vuto palokha silothandiza. Chofunika kwambiri ndi momwe aliyense amagwirira ntchito. Malinga ndi socialthinking.com, pali machitidwe osiyanasiyana pazomwe anthu amapirira mavuto awo. Chibwenzi chosokonekera chimachitika pamene mayankho anu pazomwe mukuchita moyanjana ndikupanga mikangano yatsopano kunja kwa chibwenzi.
Zilibe kanthu ngati vutolo likuchokera kunja. Mwachitsanzo, malinga ndi Renee Teller, chomwe chimayambitsa ubale wosokonezeka ndi ndalama. Mavuto azachuma akubweretsa mavuto ndi mnzanu ndipo nawonso, akuyambitsa mavuto ndi ntchito yanu, ndikupanga bwalo loipa.
Kumbali inayi, ngati mavuto omwewo azachuma akupangitsa kuti ubalewo ukhale wovuta, koma inu ndi mnzanu osalola kuti zikhudze zinthu zina m'miyoyo yanu, (kupatula omwe akukhudzidwa ndi ndalama) ndiye kuti mulibe ubale.
Kulimbana ndi maubwenzi osokonekera
Vuto lalikulu lomwe lili ndi mavuto pakati pawo ndikuti amakhala ndi chizolowezi chokhazikitsa zomwe zimapangitsa kuti vutoli likhale lovuta kuthetsa. Monga bwalo loipa lachitsanzo pamwambapa, lingayambitse mavuto awoawo, ndipo pamapeto pake lingapitirire malire a anthu ambiri.
Ndi chifukwa chake zinthu zoopsa monga ubale wosokonekera zikuyenera kuthetsedwa mwachangu. Nawa malangizo angapo amomwe mungadzitulutsire kunja kwa chizolowezi.
Dziwani chomwe chimayambitsa vutoli
Mndandanda wochokera kwa Renee Teller umathandiza kwambiri. Ngati vutoli likuchokera kunja monga ndalama, abale, kapena ntchito. Kuthetsa vutoli molunjika monga banja.
Ngati vutoli likukhudzana ndi malingaliro, chidaliro, ndi malingaliro ena, ndiye lingalirani kuyankhulana ndi mlangizi kapena kusintha zina pamoyo wanu.
Gwirani ntchito limodzi kuti muthe kukonza mpaka kalekale
Anthu omwe ali paubwenzi wovuta ayenera kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake. Ndizowona makamaka pankhaniyi chifukwa imakhudza onse awiri. Lumikizanani ndikuchita pang'onopang'ono, pemphani thandizo kwa abwenzi, abale, kapena akatswiri omwe ali ndi zilolezo.
Palinso milandu ngati ubalewo wokha uli poizoni, kuti yankho lake ndi kuthetsa. Chisankho chilichonse chimakhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa komanso zoyipa kwakanthawi kochepa. Yoyenera ndipomwe zinthu zidzakhale bwino pakapita nthawi, ndipo zomwe zimabwerera m'mbuyo ndizongokhala nkhawa zina.
Yeretsani zosokoneza
Chiyanjano chosokonekera ndikutanthauzira ndiye gwero la mavuto ena. Mavuto amphukirawo ayenera kuthetsedwa pawokha, kapena atha kubwereranso kudzasokoneza ubalewo.
Mosasamala kanthu kuti mudangokhala limodzi kapena kupatukana, onetsetsani kuti mwathana ndi mavuto ena omwe ubale wanu wovuta udakumana nawo mbali zina za moyo wanu.
Ubale wokhazikika ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu m'moyo zomwe siziyenera kunyalanyazidwa. Mavuto ena amatha mukawanyalanyaza. (monga galu wa mnansi wako yemwe amalira usiku wonse kukupangitsani kugona) Mumazolowera, ndipo amakhala gawo lanu. Moyo umapitilira. Maubwenzi omwe ali pamavuto sali choncho, muyenera kuwongolera nthawi yomweyo, apo ayi athana ndi moyo wanu wonse.