Zamkati
Tisananyamuke ulendo wathu wokapezanso zina zamatsenga zam'banja zamatsenga, tiyeni tithandizireko kwakanthawi kokumbukiraku. Pumirani kwambiri, lembani mpweya pang'onopang'ono kudzera m'mphuno mwanu, gwirani masekondi 5 ndikutulutsa pang'onopang'ono pakamwa panu. Tsopano ikani malingaliro anu onse pokumbukira nthawi ndi malo omwe inu ndi mnzanu munakumana koyamba. Mukuwona chiyani, kumva, kumva, kununkhiza, ndi zina zotero? Posachedwa mpaka tsiku lomwe munalengeza zaukwati wanu kwa abale ndi abwenzi. Madona, kodi mumamveka mawu achisangalalo, mwina kulumpha kokondwerera limodzi ndi kumwetulira kosalamulirika, kapena kodi mwafalitsa nkhaniyo m'mawu osokonekera, owopsa akung'ung'udza za ukwati? Amuna, sindikunena mwachindunji zomwe mudachita munthawi yapitayi ... ayi, ndikungocheza. Amuna atha kulengeza monyadira pomanena zinazake; "Galuyu wapeza mwana wake wamkazi."
Pambuyo pake, zochitika zamukwati zimachitika, mutha kumpsompsona mkwatibwi, kumwa ndi kudya ndikupita kokasangalala ndikukhalanso mosangalala, limodzi ndi wokondedwa wanu wokondedwa. Ndikutanthauza zomwe zitha kusokonekera. Pakadali pano, muli pachimake mwachilengedwe, chodzaza ndi chisangalalo chodabwitsa.
Chimwemwe motsutsana ndi chizolowezi chobvuta
Malinga ndi Positive Psychology, titha kusiyanitsa pakati pa chisangalalo cha hedonic ndi eudaimonic kapena kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, zomwe zimatanthawuza zomwe munthu amachita pokhudzana ndi mikhalidwe yawo, zochitika zawo, momwe akumvera, ndi zina zambiri. Chisangalalo cha Hedonic chimatanthauza zochitika zosakhalitsa, monga zosangalatsa zanu tsiku laukwati ndi kokasangalala Mwachitsanzo. Chisangalalo cha Eudaimonic ndichinthu chokhazikika chokhazikika cha chisangalalo ndipo chimaphatikizapo, mwachitsanzo, tanthauzo lakuya la moyo, tanthauzo m'moyo, kulumikizana, kucheza ndiubwenzi weniweni. Katswiri wodziwika bwino wa Psychology, Prof. Sonja Lyubomirsky, adayambitsa zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale wachimwemwe, komanso chiphunzitso cha Happiness Set, chophatikizika ndi lingaliro la kusintha kwa hedonic mdziko la sayansi. Izi zikusonyeza kuti chisangalalo chathu chimakhala chosiyana ndi aliyense payekha ndipo chimapangidwa ndi 40% yochokera mumalingaliro anu, zochita zanu, zosankha zanu, ndi 10% chabe yotsimikizika ndi zakunja, monga banja lanu. Kuphatikiza apo, chiphunzitsochi chimamaliza kuti tonsefe tili ndi maziko osangalala, omwe amapanga zotsalira za 50% zamtundu, zomwe chisangalalo chathu chimabwerera pambuyo pazochitika zosangalatsa kapena zoyipa.
Izi zikusonyeza kuti banja lanu limatha kukhala losangalala, kudzera pazosankha mwadala ndi zochita zanu, kukhazikitsa ndikugwiritsa ntchito njira zanzeru za nthawi yosangalatsa, yosangalatsa, yopindulitsa, yopindulitsa komanso yothandiza, kuti muthane ndi izi, muukwati wanu. Nayi njira yoyeserera yopangira dongosolo lanu ndi zolinga zanu zolimbitsa banja lanu komanso ubwenzi wanu.
LIMBANI pamodzi.
Zolinga.
Onetsetsani kuti mukukhala ndi zolinga zofananira m'malo ena amoyo wanu komanso ubale. Ngakhale zitakhala zazikulu kapena miniti, zolinga zomwe timagawana ndizofunikira. Sangalalani ndi kupambana ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwa cholinga chilichonse m'njira yosangalatsa komanso yosangalatsa.
Zoona.
Mukachotsa kutengeka, malingaliro, kukondera, ndi malingaliro pazochitika zilizonse, zoonadi ziziwulula, ndikupatseni zenizeni.
Zosankha.
Gwiritsani ntchito zopangira zanu zatsopano komanso zopanga zatsopano, kuti mupange njira zatsopano zokuthandizira kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu. Ganizirani kunja kwa mabokosi amenewo.
Kufunitsitsa.
Kodi muli ndi chifuniro komanso kutsimikiza mtima kusintha mapulani anu kukhala zochita, kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu? Kufunitsitsa kwanu kumatsimikiziranso kudzipereka kwanu kumakonzedwe anu apabanja komanso pachibale.
SMART pamodzi.
Zapadera.
Mukufuna chiyani kwenikweni zotsatira zakukwaniritsa zolinga zanu? Kodi mungafune kuwona chiyani, zokumana nazo komanso kumva ngati zotsatira zakwaniritsa zolinga zanu?
Kuyeza.
Kodi muyeza bwanji kupambana ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwa zolinga zanu? Pangani chida chanu choyezera, chomwe chingaphatikizepo kuchuluka kapena zofunikira zomwe zingakwaniritse cholinga chanu, munthawi yanu, ndi zinthu zomwe muli nazo.
Kupezeka.
Kodi muli ndi zolinga zotheka, zomwe ndi zotheka kuthekera? Dziwani zomwe mungakwanitse, komanso zomwe simungathe kuzilamulira. Cholinga sicholakalaka kapena loto, chifukwa chake kukwaniritsa cholinga chanu sikuyenera kudalira anthu ena kapena zochita zawo. Mudzawona zolinga zotere nthawi yomwe muyenera kulemba mawu oti "ngati" ndi "pokhapokha".
Kufunika kwake.
Zolinga zanu ndizofunika bwanji pakukonza ukwati wanu, ubwenzi wanu, ndi moyo wapabanja? Kodi ndizofunikira mokwanira kuti mukuwona kufunikira koti muziike patsogolo?
Nthawi.
Kambiranani ndi kuvomereza nthawi yeniyeni yomwe mukufuna kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu. Dziwani kuti nthawi yomwe tikufunayi siyenera kusokonezedwa ngati nthawi yomaliza, ndipo sangayambitse nkhawa, mantha komanso / kapena nkhawa kwa inu kapena mnzanu. Ndi chitsogozo.
Mukakhala otanganidwa ndi kulingalira za zolinga zanu ndi zomwe mungachite, kumbukirani kusangalala wina ndi mnzake, kuseka limodzi, ndikuyamikira mwayi wokhala ndi mnzanu wapamtima komanso mnzanu mbali yanu, pomwe mukuyenda modabwitsa, yotchedwa MOYO .