Zamkati
- 1. Taganizirani izi ngati chiyambi chatsopano
- 2. Dziwani zopinga
- 3. Pangani chisankho chogwirizana
- 4. Onaninso dongosolo la kulera limodzi
- 5. Kumbukirani kusinthasintha
- 6. Khalani aulemu
- 7. Phunzirani kuthana ndi kusungulumwa kwanu
- 8. Lumikizanani ndi mnzanu watsopano
- 9. Pangani gulu lothandizira
- 10. Kumbukirani kufunika kodzisamalira
Chisudzulo chingakhale chowawa kwa onse okhudzidwa, makamaka zikafika pakubereka ana pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Kwa makolo ambiri, zopweteka kwambiri kwa iwo ndi ana awo ndi zotsatirapo za chisudzulo ndi kulera nawo ana. Ngakhale ukwati watha, nonse ndinu makolo a ana anu, ndipo palibe chomwe chingasinthe izi.
Fumbi litakhazikika pa chisudzulo, ndi nthawi yothana ndi zovuta zofunika kulera nawo ana m'njira yothandiza kwambiri komanso yopindulitsa kwa ana anu.
Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungakhalire kholo pambuyo pa chisudzulo kapena, m'malo mwake, momwe mungakhalire kholo limodzi moyenera, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito malangizowa polera ana kuti mukwaniritse kulera bwino banja litatha. Nawa maupangiri khumi okhalira ndi kholo limodzi kwa makolo osudzulana.
1. Taganizirani izi ngati chiyambi chatsopano
Kuti mukhale kholo logwirizana pambuyo pa chisudzulo, musataye mtima ndikugwera mumsampha woganiza kuti mwawononga moyo wa mwana wanu kwamuyaya.
Kwa ana ambiri, moyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo ukhoza kukhala wabwinoko kuposa kukhala ndi nkhawa komanso kukangana kwamakolo. Tsopano atha kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndi kholo lililonse padera, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zabwino.
Sankhani kuti uwu ndi mutu watsopano kapena chiyambi chatsopano kwa inu ndi ana anu ndipo phunzirani za kulera pambuyo pa chisudzulo chomwe chikubwera.
2. Dziwani zopinga
Chimodzi mwazolepheretsa kwambiri kulera bwino ana ndi malingaliro osalimbikitsa, monga mkwiyo, kuipidwa, ndi nsanje. Dzipatseni nthawi yolira chisoni chaukwati wanu ndikupeza thandizo lomwe mungafune kuti muchepetse nkhawa zanu.
Osakana kapena kuyesera kutsata momwe mukumvera - zindikirani ndikuzindikira momwe mukumvera, komanso zindikirani kuti zingakulepheretseni kukhala kholo la ana mutasudzulana.
Chifukwa chake yesetsani kugawa malingaliro anu mukamakumana nawo, kuti mupeze yankho labwino kwambiri la kulera ana anu.
3. Pangani chisankho chogwirizana
Kugwilizana sikutanthauza kukhala mabwenzi.
Mosakayikira, ubale ukusokonekera pakati panu ndi bwenzi lanu lakale, chifukwa chake zimafunikira chisankho chofunitsitsa kukhala kholo limodzi mothandizana ndi mwana wanu.
Kunena mwachidule, zimangokhala kukonda mwana wanu kuposa momwe mumadana ndi kapena kusakonda wokondedwa wanu wakale. Kulemba zinthu kungathandize kupanga makonzedwe omveka bwino omwe adzawonekere mtsogolo, makamaka zikafika kwa omwe adzalipira nthawi yanji komanso tchuthi.
4. Onaninso dongosolo la kulera limodzi
Mukasankha kugwirizana, ndibwino kuti mupeze dongosolo la kulera limodzi lomwe lingathandize nonse komanso ana.
Musaiwale kuyankhula ndi ana anu ndikumva malingaliro ena abwino omwe amakhala nawo nthawi zambiri. Adziwitseni momwe mukumvera komanso zolinga zanu ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera.
Mutha kudabwa ndi malingaliro awo komanso momwe amawonera njira yakutsogolo.
Dongosolo lanu la kulera ana pambuyo pa chisudzulo liyenera kuphimba nthawi yochezera, tchuthi, ndi zochitika zapadera, zosowa za ana zamankhwala, maphunziro, ndi ndalama.
5. Kumbukirani kusinthasintha
Tsopano popeza muli ndi pulani, ndiye poyambira, koma muyenera kuwunikanso nthawi ndi nthawi.
Khalani okonzeka kusinthasintha popeza zinthu zosayembekezereka zitha kutuluka nthawi ndi nthawi. Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati mwana wanu akudwala ndipo akufuna kuti asamapite kusukulu, kapena zinthu zikadzasintha mtsogolo?
Nthawi zina dongosolo la kulera ana limayenera kusinthidwa koyambirira kwa nthawi iliyonse kusukulu malinga ndi masewera a ana anu kapena zochitika zawo.
6. Khalani aulemu
Kupita patsogolo m'njira yomangirira kumatanthauza kunyalanyaza zakumbuyo ndikuzindikira kuti zaka za kulera ana zomwe zikubwera mtsogolo zitha kukhala zabwino kwambiri ngati nonse mukhale aulemu komanso odziletsa pazomwe mumanena ndi kuchita.
Izi zimaphatikizapo zomwe mumalankhula ndi mwana wanu pomwe mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu wakale kulibe. Kumbukirani kuti mwana wanu amakukondani nonse.
Chifukwa chake, ngakhale mukulera limodzi banja litatha, moleza mtima komanso kupilira, mutha kupereka (ndikuyembekeza kuti mudzalandiranso) ulemu, ulemu, ndi ulemu womwe aliyense ayenera.
7. Phunzirani kuthana ndi kusungulumwa kwanu
Kutalikirana ndi ana anu kumatha kukhala kopweteka komanso kosungulumwa, makamaka koyambirira.
Chimodzi mwamalangizo ofunikira polera makolo osudzulana ndi chakuti, musadzilowetsere nokha, koma modekha yambani kudzaza nthawi yanu yokha ndi zinthu zomangirira zomwe mumakonda.
Mutha kuyamba kuyembekezera kukhala ndi nthawi yanu nokha, nthawi yochezera abwenzi, kupumula, ndikuchita zosangalatsa zomwe mumafuna kuchita nthawi zonse.
Chifukwa chake, ana anu akabwerera, mutha kumva kuti mwatsitsimulidwa ndikukhala olandilanso ndi mphamvu zatsopano.
8. Lumikizanani ndi mnzanu watsopano
Ngati bwenzi lanu ladzakwatirana kapena mwakwatiranso, munthuyu amangocheza ndi ana anu nthawi yayitali.
Ichi mwina ndichinthu chovuta kwambiri kuvomereza polera ana mutasudzulana. Komabe, mokomera mwana wanu, ndibwino kuyesetsa kulumikizana ndi munthuyu.
Ngati mutha kugawana nkhawa zanu ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera kwa ana anu momasuka komanso mosatetezeka, osadzitchinjiriza, zitha kuthandiza kwambiri ana anu kuti azikhala otetezeka.
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9. Pangani gulu lothandizira
Tonsefe timafunikira gulu lotithandizira, kaya ndi abale, abwenzi, mamembala ampingo, kapena anzathu ogwira nawo ntchito.
Osayesa kupita nokha - monga anthu, ndipo tidapangidwa kuti tizikhala pagulu, chifukwa chake musawope kupempha thandizo komanso kuthandiza ena. Mukayamba kukalamira udindo, mudzadalitsidwa kupeza thandizo lomwe likupezeka.
Zikafika pakulera ana limodzi banja litatha, onetsetsani kuti gulu lanu lothandizirana limalumikizidwa ndi njira yanu ndi momwe mumalumikizirana ndi wakale, mwaulemu komanso mogwirizana.
10. Kumbukirani kufunika kodzisamalira
Kudzisamalira ndi gawo loyamba kuchira, kuchira, ndi kubwezeretsanso banja litatha.
Ngati mukufuna kukhala kholo logwirizana, muyenera kukhala opambana, mwakuthupi, mwamalingaliro, komanso mwauzimu - kulera ana pambuyo pa chisudzulo kumafunikira mgwirizano wofanana kuchokera kwa makolo onse.
Ngati mnzanu akuchitira nkhanza kapena sakufuna kugwirizana nawo, mungafunike kupita kukalipira milandu kapena kufunsa upangiri ndi upangiri kwa akatswiri kuti mupeze njira yabwino yotetezera komanso moyo wa ana anu.