Zamkati
Maukwati ambiri amatayika chifukwa kukhululukirana sichinthu chofunikira kwambiri m'banja. Pakabuka mavuto, maanja ena amatengeka kwambiri ndi mkwiyo womwe umapangitsa kuti banja likhale lankhanza komanso "kuthana ndi mphambu" patsogolo pothana ndi mkwiyo.
Kufunika kokhululuka m'banja sikungafanane. Komabe, kodi mudayimapo ndikuganiza:
Kodi kukhululuka kumatanthauza chiyani ndipo chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika?
Kodi kukhululukirana ndi kofunika motani m'banja?
Kodi munthu amakhululuka motani m'banja?
Kukhululukirana m'banja ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti banja liziyenda bwino. Kutha kwa inu ndi mnzanu kuti mumukhululukire ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi banja lokhutira.
Kukhululuka mmoyo wapabanja kumakupatsani mwayi woti muchoke m'malo mwa omwe munachitiridwayo ndipo kumawonetsa kuti mutha kuzindikira kuvulala kwanu ndikupitilira pamenepo. Kukhululukirana mbanja ndi luso lomwe limathandiza maanja kuthana ndi mavuto ndi kuchitapo kanthu kuti akhale ndi banja lolimba.
Lingaliro lokhululukira mnzanu yemwe adakupweteketsani kapena kukukwiyitsani lingakhale chinthu chovuta kwambiri kukhazikitsa pachibwenzi. Kulekerera zolakwa za mnzanu kumafuna kuti musasiye kuwakwiyira.
Kuyesera kulanga wokondedwa wanu mwa kungokhalira kumangokhalira kukhumudwa kapena kuchita chisanu kapena kutali ndizowononga chibwenzi chanu. Kugwiritsa ntchito izi, komabe, ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chimafunikira chidwi chambiri kuti musiye zolakwa za mnzanu.
Tikukhulupirira kuti nkhaniyi ikuthandizani kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake kukhululuka ndikofunikira? nanga kufunika kokhululuka mu maubwenzi kuli kotani?
Kuzindikira
Pongoyambira, abwenziwo ayenera kukhala ndi kuthekera kozetsa mkangano. Kuzindikira, komanso chisoni cha oyandikana nawo, zimalola mnzakewo kuchoka pa zochitika zawo kuti awone, kumva, ndi kukumana ndi zomwe anzawo angakumane nazo chifukwa cha mawu kapena zochita zosayenera.
Kuzindikira kumatithandiza "kuyimirira m'manyazi a wina." Ndi malingaliro atsopanowa, titha kuzindikira bwino momwe zochitika zingapo zimakhudzira moyo ndi mzimu wa winayo.
Kuti mumvetsetse mnzanuyo muyenera kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu ndikuwalola kuti nawonso alankhule zakukhosi kwawo.
Tonsefe tili ndi zofooka ndipo tidzachita zolakwa zomwe zingapweteke kapena kukhumudwitsa okondedwa athu. Kusiyanasiyana kwa malingaliro athu ndi malingaliro athu kumatha kukhudza thanzi la ubale wathu.
Komabe, kukhululuka kumatithandiza kuti tisamavutikire zinthu zomwe sitingathe kuzilamulira ndikuyesetsa kukhala paubwenzi wokhalitsa.
Chofunikira kudziwa ndikuti kukhululukirana kowona muukwati si njira yofooka, monga anthu ambiri amakhulupirira. Zitha kuwoneka ngati mukulekerera machitidwe awo, komabe kulekerera kukutanthauza kuti mukufuna kusiya zomwe zidachitika ndikuchiritsa ubale wanu.
Masitepe otsatira
Ngati mungathe kuthokoza ululu womwe wina wanyamula, ndiye chiyembekezo chakuchiritsidwa ndichotheka kwambiri. Ngati ndinu wolakwayo, onetsani chisoni chenicheni pazochita kapena mawu omwe adasokoneza bwenzi lawo komanso ubale wawo.
Ngati mnzanu ndi wolakwayo, khalani omasuka kuwonetsa kulapa kwawo. Ndi "kuvomereza" uku patebulo, banjali lakonzeka kuchita zina zosintha. Kodi tiyenera kuchita chiyani kuti muchepetse mwayi wovulala womwe ungabwererenso mtsogolo?
Kodi tiyenera kukhululukira cholakwacho mwa kubweza zenizeni kapena zofanizira? Kodi tikuyenera kupempha thandizo kwa achikulire ena omwe amatisamalira kuti atithandizire kukonzekera tsogolo?
Kuti dzilekanitseni ndi malingaliro aliwonse oyipa muyenera kuvomereza kaye kupezeka kwa zotere. Mukazindikira za kukhumudwa kwanu mutha kuyesetsa kuti musiyane nawo.
Musalole kuti mkwiyo ufalikire muukwati wanu, fotokozani malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu ndikukhalabe a ulemu kwa wina ndi mnzake. Chipsinjo chikasiyidwa kuti chikule chimakula msanga ndipo izi zitha kubweretsa kuwonongeka kosatheka.
Pezani njira zina zabwino zothetsera ubale wanu ndikukhazikitsaninso chidaliro chilichonse chomwe chidatayika.
Ngati ndiwe amene wakhumudwitsidwa ndi wokondedwa wako ndiye yang'anani ndi malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu omwe amakukakamizani inu kuti musunge kukhumudwako. Komano, ngati mwakhumudwitsa mnzanu, pepani chifukwa cha zolakwa zanu.
Izi zingalimbikitse mnzanu kukhululukirana ndikuwathandiza kuzindikira kuti anthu amalakwitsa ndipo mukuyesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe.
Kutenga
Kuphunzira kusiya ndi kupewa mikangano ing'onoing'ono kungakuthandizeni kukulitsa ubale wanu ndikuyang'ana kwambiri pazinthu zabwino m'banja lanu.
Ndi zinthu zina m'malo mwake, "kukweza kwambiri" kwenikweni kumayamba. Anthu athanzi amaphunzira "kukonza njira zawo" ndikusunthira komwe kumachepetsa kuthekera kowonjezera kupweteka ndi kusweka.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti sipangakhalenso zolakwitsa mu banja - ndiponsotu, izi ndizosatheka - m'malo mwake, chitetezero chowonadi pambuyo pa kukhululukidwa chimatanthauza kuti mnzake wolakwayo akudziwa momwe zochita zake zingathe kukhumudwitsa mnzake .
Ngati tikudziwa kuti zingapweteketse wina, tiyenera kukhala ndi mwayi wopewa zoopsa mtsogolo.
Kulankhula zakukhosi kwanu momveka bwino, osati mwamakani ndikofunikira musanaphunzire kukhululuka mnzanu. Momwemonso, mverani mnzanuyo ndipo yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe zidawapangitsa kuti alakwitse.
Apatseni mpata wofotokoza momwe iwo alili ndi kutenga nawo mbali pazomwe achita. Njira iyi yoperekera ndikutenga imafunika muubwenzi uliwonse.
Kukhululukirana muukwati sikofunikira kokha kuti banja lanu likhale bwino komanso kuti inu nonse mukonzekere kudziwombola. Zimakumasulani ku mabala osavulazidwa ndi mkwiyo, zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi wokula ndikuweruza mosamala mtsogolo.